"Sugar Babies" and "Arrangements"

[QUOTE=Hal1957;6983374]Never mix sugar life and real life if you have Anything to lose. NEVER NEVER NEVER.

Turning it over to the cops isn't much consolation after you've lost your job and your marriage. And even though you paid, there is no guarantee she won't pop up again tomorrow or next month or next year. An honest thief. An oxymoron for sure. It might be better to pay a great hacker to get HER personal information and exact some non-violent revenge.[/QUOTE]But I NEVER pay & go by the phrase "the best defense is a great offense. ".

[QUOTE=TooHotForYou;6983522]And little do you know you may have sent money to somebody who doesn't even live here. You got played. You sending them money wasn't even more stupid. Never send them money. And if they do reveal your secret, so what? You're a man. Now wise up and keep hobbling after taking this advice.[/QUOTE]I'm sure I got played, but this advice is easier said than done when you actually have a lot to lose. 20 years ago, I would told her to fuck off. Today, $1 K is not a huge deal.

[QUOTE=DoctorSugar;6983540]Is it this Rita?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/7984a4c3-54ac-4510-ab22-b97cdd285464[/URL]

Even if this is the right one, the overseas fraudsters run this scam constantly. New profiles will pop up with the same attempts to scam us. We should all be careful about sharing real face pictures with the anonymous person behind a supposed SB profile.[/QUOTE]Yes! That's "her". Avoid like the plague.

[QUOTE=Prat652;6983616]Sorry about what you have dealed brother. But you shouldn't have paid her anything. She will definetly come back to you. Her account will be banned after some days she will run out of money and she will again try to blackmail you. Now a days so many scammers can get pics online and if you sent her money she can have that as a proof to blackmail you more.[/QUOTE]If she contacts me again, I simply won't respond. I would have done the same last time except we were right in the middle of discussing if I could bareback her, so she knew I was there. Next time, it will simply look like I shut off that phone number.

[QUOTE=ReflexZz;6983533]You guys need to check out fet. If you have patience and a little game, you can find some easy gems in there. PITA because its hard to filter for women in Atlanta, but you WILL find some freaks for free.[/QUOTE]So I have never head of this site and wow I was shocked. The site is the world largest and most popular social network for the BDSM community, Kink and Fetish community. So, how difficult it is the score on this site?

So sorry you had to go thru this stressful situation. I was in the same state a year ago. I talked with someone in seeking website and somehow they found all my social media details and tried to blackmail for $1500. At that moment I had decided not to send to her any money thinking if I pay them once the asking for money is not going to end ever. She kept sending me threatening text messages for the 3-4 days or a week don't remember but eventually she (or a he I don't know) gave up. I deleted my Facebook profile but luckily nothing bad happened. I don't know if she reported me in seeking, but my seeking profile got banned. Never signed up again.

[QUOTE=TheFrostyOne;6983285]So, today I got caught being incredibly stupid and had to to pay the price (literally) for it.

I signed up for Seeking a few months ago and was having some pretty decent success. I met and played with 4 different babies over the course of about 2 months and I let my success go to my head and I dropped my guard. A few days ago, a girl with the profile name Rita contacted me and said she was interested. Her profile pics were smoking hot. I am 52 y/o and she is 24 y/o, thin, great rack, big pouty DSL lips, she reminded me of Amanda Seyfried. Anyways, she moved to negotiate a price pretty quick. She asked for 450. I countered with 2 and she accepted right away. First warning sign. I asked about rules, she said she had none. Second warning sign. She did all this without asking me ANY details about me. Third warning sign. I asked her to move to text and she readily agreed. So I gave her my Google Voice account and we continued, where she was talking dirty about all the nasty stuff she wanted to do to me and I was eating it up like kid in a candy store. At this point, I am no longer thinking with my big head and she has me wrapped around her finger. So, she sets a M&G for tomorrow at a Starbucks in Midtown and said if it went well we could go back to her place for some fun. Awesome! Or so I thought. At this point, she asked me to send her a recent headshot so she would know what I looked like. And this is where I fucked up royally. Not thinking straight, I dug through my photo album and found a headshot from about 10 years ago and sent it to her. Unfortunately, I had completely forgotten that this was the headshot I used in my LinkedIn profile that I set up 10 years ago and completely forgot about.

A few hours later, she springs her trap. She sends me a screen capture of my LinkedIn profile, my Facebook profile, my wife's Facebook profile, my property address, etc. And tells me if I don't send her $1600 via Cash App she will go public to my wife and all our friends that I like to pay young girls for sex and send them copies of our conversation, screen caps of my Seeking profile, etc. , etc. Apparently, she did a Google image search and found my LinkedIn profile and from there got enough info about me to search Facebook and property records. She has me dead to rights and she knows it. She promises me that if I pay her, she will go away and I will never her from her again.

I'm completely busted and I don't see any way around it. I could risk telling her to fuck off but I looked at all the contact info she has from my LinkedIn profile and Facebook profile and I decided it wasn't worth the risk to see if she was bluffing. So, I told her I would pay her off but I can't do $1600. We settled on $1 K and I sent it her. At this point, I have no choice but to hope that she is an honest thief, but I won't be surprised if she comes back and asks for more, in which case, I will have to tell her NO and just risk dealing with the fall out or the blackmail will never end.

Lesson learned! Don't send ANY photos that you have ever used anywhere else. Don't give out ANY personal information that can be used to track who you are. I know these are probably common sense, but damn, she pushed all the right buttons and, like I said, I let my recent string of successes blind me to this trap.

Needless to say, I deleted my Seeking profile, my LinkedIn profile, and my Facebook profile. I have access to my wife's Facebook page (which she never checks), so I am going to monitor it for a while so I can intercept any incoming DMs, but I just have to hope for the best at this point.

In related news, I think I am probably going to take a break from this hobby for a while.

Stay safe out there.[/QUOTE]

Have a meet with the baby next week. She has been on Seeking for a while, any insight on this baby would be appreciated.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/9a524141-1559-4c60-9360-63468082fc46[/URL]

Reenlisted on Seeking and had meets set up with a few babies and most are requiring a deposit before any meet.

Is this a new trend? I truly hope no one is making deposits.

[QUOTE=LovePunnany;6984165]So I have never head of this site and wow I was shocked. The site is the world largest and most popular social network for the BDSM community, Kink and Fetish community. So, how difficult it is the score on this site?[/QUOTE]I have done it when traveling for work, escorts and SBs use it along with LOTS of profiles created as a shill for an OF account. You will have a hard time finding success for free as a single male, but it is possible.

[QUOTE=LovePunnany;6984165]So I have never head of this site and wow I was shocked. The site is the world largest and most popular social network for the BDSM community, Kink and Fetish community. So, how difficult it is the score on this site?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=JunkSecond;6984608]I have done it when traveling for work, escorts and SBs use it along with LOTS of profiles created as a shill for an OF account. You will have a hard time finding success for free as a single male, but it is possible.[/QUOTE]I've never had good luck with fet but also didn't put a tremendous amount of time into it. Might try another go.

An alternative to put on the radar is FEELD. It's like a BDSM tinder. Much smaller pool than Fet, but less bots, etc.

I'd actually be interested in exploring the kink world more. I wish I had known about Dungeon 1763 when it was around, sounds like it was a great time.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/b1776a0a-51b7-43f7-b86c-66413aa3adf9[/URL]

I know someone reported this one long time ago, she wants 4 $$ and lots of no nos, any of you guys had dealing with her?

I got news for you chief, any photo you send of yourself can likely be matched to your linkedin profile pic, unless you run it thru fawkes (a digital scrambling windows app for pics).

I'm sorry to hear what happened. You have to use alot of common sense with these "women" before sharing details about yourself. I don't have a wife so I really don't care, but fast movers are usually scammers. Buyer beware.

[QUOTE=TheFrostyOne;6983285]So, today I got caught being incredibly stupid and had to to pay the price (literally) for it.

I signed up for Seeking a few months ago and was having some pretty decent success. I met and played with 4 different babies over the course of about 2 months and I let my success go to my head and I dropped my guard. A few days ago, a girl with the profile name Rita contacted me and said she was interested. Her profile pics were smoking hot. I am 52 y/o and she is 24 y/o, thin, great rack, big pouty DSL lips, she reminded me of Amanda Seyfried. Anyways, she moved to negotiate a price pretty quick. She asked for 450. I countered with 2 and she accepted right away. First warning sign. I asked about rules, she said she had none. Second warning sign. She did all this without asking me ANY details about me. Third warning sign. I asked her to move to text and she readily agreed. So I gave her my Google Voice account and we continued, where she was talking dirty about all the nasty stuff she wanted to do to me and I was eating it up like kid in a candy store. At this point, I am no longer thinking with my big head and she has me wrapped around her finger. So, she sets a M&G for tomorrow at a Starbucks in Midtown and said if it went well we could go back to her place for some fun. Awesome! Or so I thought. At this point, she asked me to send her a recent headshot so she would know what I looked like. And this is where I fucked up royally. Not thinking straight, I dug through my photo album and found a headshot from about 10 years ago and sent it to her. Unfortunately, I had completely forgotten that this was the headshot I used in my LinkedIn profile that I set up 10 years ago and completely forgot about.

A few hours later, she springs her trap. She sends me a screen capture of my LinkedIn profile, my Facebook profile, my wife's Facebook profile, my property address, etc. And tells me if I don't send her $1600 via Cash App she will go public to my wife and all our friends that I like to pay young girls for sex and send them copies of our conversation, screen caps of my Seeking profile, etc. , etc. Apparently, she did a Google image search and found my LinkedIn profile and from there got enough info about me to search Facebook and property records. She has me dead to rights and she knows it. She promises me that if I pay her, she will go away and I will never her from her again.

I'm completely busted and I don't see any way around it. I could risk telling her to fuck off but I looked at all the contact info she has from my LinkedIn profile and Facebook profile and I decided it wasn't worth the risk to see if she was bluffing. So, I told her I would pay her off but I can't do $1600. We settled on $1 K and I sent it her. At this point, I have no choice but to hope that she is an honest thief, but I won't be surprised if she comes back and asks for more, in which case, I will have to tell her NO and just risk dealing with the fall out or the blackmail will never end.

Lesson learned! Don't send ANY photos that you have ever used anywhere else. Don't give out ANY personal information that can be used to track who you are. I know these are probably common sense, but damn, she pushed all the right buttons and, like I said, I let my recent string of successes blind me to this trap.

Needless to say, I deleted my Seeking profile, my LinkedIn profile, and my Facebook profile. I have access to my wife's Facebook page (which she never checks), so I am going to monitor it for a while so I can intercept any incoming DMs, but I just have to hope for the best at this point.

In related news, I think I am probably going to take a break from this hobby for a while.

Stay safe out there.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=LouisHernandez;6985096]I got news for you chief, any photo you send of yourself can likely be matched to your linkedin profile pic, unless you run it thru fawkes (a digital scrambling windows app for pics).

I'm sorry to hear what happened. You have to use alot of common sense with these "women" before sharing details about yourself. I don't have a wife so I really don't care, but fast movers are usually scammers. Buyer beware.[/QUOTE]One point of clarification. Fawkes is good, but it needs to be applied to the real photos that are of you that are already out on the internet. That is how the facial recognition sites form a model they used to interrogate new inquiries. So, if the LinkedIn pic has been out there without cloaking, the world already has everything it needs to find it.

I have started making cloaked headshots for professional purposes, I can't avoid providing headshots to people. Perhaps over time the new ones will dilute the regular, old ones and then I won't be found by facial rec.

You should also take any photo you intend to send to a POT and use it as the basis for a search on the two main facial rec sites. You can do this for free. Once it finds your IRL postings of your photos, you can request the search sites to delete your IRL results. They will do this for free.

I have one photo that I have put black dots over the nose and eyes. It is 'safe' for facial rec and other reverse image searches. The basic photo I used to start was NEVER put on the internet.

BTW, if you intend not to put your own photos on a dating site, but someone who looks like you, these sites are a good way to find some pix. You might even pick someone who looks better. However, to get to the site to grab those photos, you would have to pay their fee. One of the sites takes only bitcoin. A pain for those of us who are crypto skeptics.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/62b28bf9-e1a5-4a98-ab55-eedf8c914b2c[/URL]

Any of you had any deals with this one? She said she is ok with ppm but aI have to send the donation before meeting LOL.

I certainly agree with Far that most of these are foreign scammers looking for easy prey. I had one a bunch of years ago. I did the "It's extortion, I'll report you thing. " They actually responded that they were offshore and not concerned with that. Fortunately, I'm pretty much much blackmail proof. I'm single, a freelancer (so no employer to contact), etc. Up to you, but they probably wouldn't follow through with exposing you. I know it's a lot harder for those with a wife, family, etc. So, best to step careful.

Good Luck,

Travelin.

[QUOTE=FarFarAway;6983478]The dude fucked up big time, no doubt. However, there are different ways to deal w / extortion. I think a common tactic goes something like this. Send her a message:

While IK that stepping out on my spouse isn't the nicest thing I have ever done, it isn't a crime. However, extortion definitely is a crime. A Federal crime. I have all the evidence I need in all the messages you have sent me to get you easily convicted. So if you want to persist in threatening to out me to, my next stop will be with the FBI, because at that point I have nothing to lose. Doing time in Federal prison is no walk in the park. Among many things, there is no parole or time off for good behavior. You serve the sentence you are given.[/QUOTE]