[QUOTE=Knottyboy18;3666558]Yes, I have met a couple of times and I like her. Although her boobs sag a lot which is a negative but she has good attitude.[/QUOTE]Seen her a couple of times I'll definitely see her again. Worth spending some time with.
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[QUOTE=Knottyboy18;3666558]Yes, I have met a couple of times and I like her. Although her boobs sag a lot which is a negative but she has good attitude.[/QUOTE]Seen her a couple of times I'll definitely see her again. Worth spending some time with.
It seems I have run into a rash of just "Their Benefit" lately. 2 recently in Roanoke if you play there, let me know and I will let you know the ones to not waste your time with. It's funny too because I make it clear in my first message that I seek mutually beneficial relationship and intimacy if we click and have chemistry. Their initial response. Exactly what I am looking for! Turns out they just want to be arm candy, screw that. One told me she just doesn't randomly have sex with strangers and she was young enough to be my granddaughter and I was just a disgusting dirty and horny old man who will never find love. Well one not looking for love and I told her to not kid herself that she responded to the dirty old man initially and was all about meeting. Oh well, not sure what is going on, but some of these girls need to get over themselves.
I have had very good luck on SA, but always the window shopper, I went onto Secret Benefits (without paying). I saw no overlap between the two sites. On SB, there were a lot more older women (40's and 50's), which are not what I'm looking for, and the pickings seemed slimmer than on SA. Does anyone find that Secret Benefits is a worthwhile adjunct to SA?
[QUOTE=LoVecchio;3672754]I have had very good luck on SA, but always the window shopper, I went onto Secret Benefits (without paying). I saw no overlap between the two sites. On SB, there were a lot more older women (40's and 50's), which are not what I'm looking for, and the pickings seemed slimmer than on SA. Does anyone find that Secret Benefits is a worthwhile adjunct to SA?[/QUOTE]I signed up about a week ago. I have found 4 potentials in the 20 - 30 yo range, and one in the 40+ range, but nothing has panned out for real yet. Just messaging Will update if I get any real success. Hoping it is a little more direct than SA, with everyone on the same page for expectations of an arrangement. Nobody out here on SB seems to be looking for a platonic gentleman to be their friend / mentor, which gives me hope for this new site.
[QUOTE=RedBaron69;3668932]Had a great dream with M2324, She really likes to scream. LOL she is a good time just like most all school teachers![/QUOTE]Found out today she is seeing someone. This just happened recently.
After several months of hit-and-miss meetings, I think I've found a couple babies that I can probably keep around for a while, and have been messaging another POT who sounds very interested in meeting up. Ironically, today I got a message from a MILF-why type whose profile I'd viewed and noted as a possibility, and her initial comments expressed interest in the same kind of arrangement I'm looking for.
2-3 SBs is as much as I want deal with at once, but I don't want to burn a good prospect now by saying "not interested" when I might wind up wanting to come back to her later. I'm curious how others have dealt with this. Do you just say "Not now, maybe later", ignore the message, or what?
I'm a fairly seasoned SD and worked SA off and on for going on four years. I've done well protecting my privacy and such, but have ran into a couple crazies, or jaded women lately. The type who have double standards. Like you owe them a relationship, or something committed, while they're out there fucking everyone. LOL. Usually I've found this happens because they actually like you and when some of these young women like you, they get clingy and downright scary.
My questions is do you just ghost them outright and not put them in their place? One girl is insisting she find out who I am, where I live, she's mad as hell, as I had sex with her twice, paid her allowance and didn't want to see her again. She's going off on my big time as she felt we had some chemistry between us. Meanwhile, she's working the site 24/7. Do I put her in her place and call her out, or just ghost her? I also know if anyone truly wants to find out about someone today, they can do it. So if she really put her mind to it, I'm sure she could show up at my front door. I was good to this ***** and she won; t just go away.
The second case is a girl who has a PhD, but in the process she's lost her mind. She's 28, recently graduated with her PhD and she's insane, but sweet. The pressure to find work, her recently lost boyfriend and so, had her on a bag of medications. We went out for drinks and both got a little drunk and made out, held hands, it was sweet, she told me, "I love you" but I attributed it to being drunk. Well now she wants to be exclusive, and wants me to be her boyfriend. She's not had many, only three her entire life. She too is demanding she know who I am, where I live etc, etc. However this girl is actually not seeing anyone and she has kind of a sweet side and I sort of like her.
How do you brothers keep these girls from finding you? I mean they can look at the credit card slip, check with whatever hotel you stay at, look at your vehicle registration, etc etc and get your name. From there, they got you.
I always have several in my bag at any given time, so it hasn't happened to me yet! Draw back is some of these girls lose interest if you do not routinely see them.
I like a variety so I can't really see myself sticking with only one. Currently juggling one really hot W 22, Mixed 21,24 B, 21 Indian and several others with pots.
Living the dream.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3674510]I'm a fairly seasoned SD and worked SA off and on for going on four years. I've done well protecting my privacy and such, but have ran into a couple crazies, or jaded women lately. The type who have double standards. Like you owe them a relationship, or something committed, while they're out there fucking everyone. LOL. Usually I've found this happens because they actually like you and when some of these young women like you, they get clingy and downright scary.
My questions is do you just ghost them outright and not put them in their place? One girl is insisting she find out who I am, where I live, she's mad as hell, as I had sex with her twice, paid her allowance and didn't want to see her again. She's going off on my big time as she felt we had some chemistry between us. Meanwhile, she's working the site 24/7. Do I put her in her place and call her out, or just ghost her? I also know if anyone truly wants to find out about someone today, they can do it. So if she really put her mind to it, I'm sure she could show up at my front door. I was good to this ***** and she won; t just go away.
The second case is a girl who has a PhD, but in the process she's lost her mind. She's 28, recently graduated with her PhD and she's insane, but sweet. The pressure to find work, her recently lost boyfriend and so, had her on a bag of medications. We went out for drinks and both got a little drunk and made out, held hands, it was sweet, she told me, "I love you" but I attributed it to being drunk. Well now she wants to be exclusive, and wants me to be her boyfriend. She's not had many, only three her entire life. She too is demanding she know who I am, where I live etc, etc. However this girl is actually not seeing anyone and she has kind of a sweet side and I sort of like her.
How do you brothers keep these girls from finding you? I mean they can look at the credit card slip, check with whatever hotel you stay at, look at your vehicle registration, etc etc and get your name. From there, they got you.[/QUOTE]
Any of you have any luck with this one, she said I am too old for her!! She is hot one of the pics.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/0a9ecb5d-0b92-4a05-9a64-5eba21eb768c[/URL]
Thank you in advance.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3674510]I'm a fairly seasoned SD and worked SA off and on for going on four years. I've done well protecting my privacy and such, but have ran into a couple crazies, or jaded women lately. The type who have double standards. Like you owe them a relationship, or something committed, while they're out there fucking everyone. LOL. Usually I've found this happens because they actually like you and when some of these young women like you, they get clingy and downright scary.
My questions is do you just ghost them outright and not put them in their place? One girl is insisting she find out who I am, where I live, she's mad as hell, as I had sex with her twice, paid her allowance and didn't want to see her again. She's going off on my big time as she felt we had some chemistry between us. Meanwhile, she's working the site 24/7. Do I put her in her place and call her out, or just ghost her? I also know if anyone truly wants to find out about someone today, they can do it. So if she really put her mind to it, I'm sure she could show up at my front door. I was good to this ***** and she won; t just go away.
The second case is a girl who has a PhD, but in the process she's lost her mind. She's 28, recently graduated with her PhD and she's insane, but sweet. The pressure to find work, her recently lost boyfriend and so, had her on a bag of medications. We went out for drinks and both got a little drunk and made out, held hands, it was sweet, she told me, "I love you" but I attributed it to being drunk. Well now she wants to be exclusive, and wants me to be her boyfriend. She's not had many, only three her entire life. She too is demanding she know who I am, where I live etc, etc. However this girl is actually not seeing anyone and she has kind of a sweet side and I sort of like her.
How do you brothers keep these girls from finding you? I mean they can look at the credit card slip, check with whatever hotel you stay at, look at your vehicle registration, etc etc and get your name. From there, they got you.[/QUOTE]Yep if they want to find out who you are they can. All knids of secret squirrel shit on the site to use but in reality if they want to know who you are they can get it. Just part of the game.
This is nothing out of the ordinary.
About no. 1 you tell her point blank she's playing games with you and you're not into that then stop responding. If she has a personality disorder (likely), she'll turn on the serious guilt tripping and tall tales about whatever bs is in her head. How she's in some trouble and needs you (it's all an act BTW and she's likely a serial liar). Sounds like you spent some with her and found her lacking so just move on. With this type the quicker you cut her off the better. If you keep responding she'll keep an interest in you and escalate.
About no. 2 you're going to have to balance your interest in staying private and you liking her. Again, tell her things are good as they are and maybe in time you'll open up to her. This one sounds more like a keeper but be clear about what you want and stay in control of the relationship. Pointing at the door and saying to a girl "you're free to go if you don't like it" works wonders in just about every scenario.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3674510]I'm a fairly seasoned SD and worked SA off and on for going on four years. I've done well protecting my privacy and such, but have ran into a couple crazies, or jaded women lately. The type who have double standards. Like you owe them a relationship, or something committed, while they're out there fucking everyone. LOL. Usually I've found this happens because they actually like you and when some of these young women like you, they get clingy and downright scary.
My questions is do you just ghost them outright and not put them in their place? One girl is insisting she find out who I am, where I live, she's mad as hell, as I had sex with her twice, paid her allowance and didn't want to see her again. She's going off on my big time as she felt we had some chemistry between us. Meanwhile, she's working the site 24/7. Do I put her in her place and call her out, or just ghost her? I also know if anyone truly wants to find out about someone today, they can do it. So if she really put her mind to it, I'm sure she could show up at my front door. I was good to this ***** and she won; t just go away.
The second case is a girl who has a PhD, but in the process she's lost her mind. She's 28, recently graduated with her PhD and she's insane, but sweet. The pressure to find work, her recently lost boyfriend and so, had her on a bag of medications. We went out for drinks and both got a little drunk and made out, held hands, it was sweet, she told me, "I love you" but I attributed it to being drunk. Well now she wants to be exclusive, and wants me to be her boyfriend. She's not had many, only three her entire life. She too is demanding she know who I am, where I live etc, etc. However this girl is actually not seeing anyone and she has kind of a sweet side and I sort of like her.
How do you brothers keep these girls from finding you? I mean they can look at the credit card slip, check with whatever hotel you stay at, look at your vehicle registration, etc etc and get your name. From there, they got you.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3674510]How do you brothers keep these girls from finding you? I mean they can look at the credit card slip, check with whatever hotel you stay at, look at your vehicle registration, etc etc and get your name. From there, they got you.[/QUOTE]It is all in how you play the game, what control you keep over meetings and other ways of being self protective.
1) Why would she ever have a need to look at your CC slip?
2) Do you use aliases when dating? Can she rent the room & you reimburse her?
3) Why would you show her a vehicle registration? There are ways to cover your plate during the time she might see it.
Any girl that tries anything "to get you" should be dropped immediately. Go ghost, change hobby number / phone / email, etc.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3674510]I'm a fairly seasoned SD and worked SA off and on for going on four years. I've done well protecting my privacy and such, but have ran into a couple crazies, or jaded women lately. The type who have double standards. Like you owe them a relationship, or something committed, while they're out there fucking everyone. LOL. Usually I've found this happens because they actually like you and when some of these young women like you, they get clingy and downright scary.
My questions is do you just ghost them outright and not put them in their place? One girl is insisting she find out who I am, where I live, she's mad as hell, as I had sex with her twice, paid her allowance and didn't want to see her again. She's going off on my big time as she felt we had some chemistry between us. Meanwhile, she's working the site 24/7. Do I put her in her place and call her out, or just ghost her? I also know if anyone truly wants to find out about someone today, they can do it. So if she really put her mind to it, I'm sure she could show up at my front door. I was good to this ***** and she won; t just go away.
[/QUOTE]My advice is to drop off the face of the earth, especially if you have a SO (my situation). The momentary glee you get from telling her what a psycho she is could come back to haunt you if your operational security (WIDELY discussed on this thread) hasn't been **perfect. All of the things you mentioned (and many more) must be attended to to maintain your anonymity to SBs, and keep your actions secret from a spouse. My personal values are such that I don't commit to a SB until I know her pretty well, and I haven't ghosted on anyone. I told them flat out I couldn't see them anymore. Several are still friendly w / me, and would entertain seeing me again (for coffee or FC). If you aren't confident of that, you know what you have to do. FFAway.
TFW you see your neighbor's 19 yo daughter (who moved out after an epic blowup just after Thanksgiving) on SA looking absolutely delicious.
You would share her SA handle so we can enjoy time with her and report back to you.
[QUOTE=Tidad;3676380]TFW you see your neighbor's 19 yo daughter (who moved out after an epic blowup just after Thanksgiving) on SA looking absolutely delicious.[/QUOTE]