This is, in truth, not for everyone
[QUOTE=Castlerae; 1422347]No offence Master Scott, but the thing that disturbed me most wasn't so much the lack of responses from SB's (I know the ratio is probably heavily in favour of the SB's and against the SD's) , but in the sudden reversalin communications. It's like she went from giving all the indications of strong interest in something more between us to total silence. I mean, is she playing me, has she found a better deal (though we'd only met once and never even got to the point of discussing the finer details of a possible arrangement) , or what? I don't know, and while I appreciate the offer from SBabyblog for advice, it's not something I'm going to dump in her lap in hopes of a magical solution.
I don't know, think I might give this crap another month, then pull the plug if the strike out string continues.[/QUOTE]Castle,
I hate to see another brother so down in the dumps. We each need to make the decision that is best for us, I suppose, but the fly fishing analogy that I often use is particularly apt in the pursuit of babies, I feel. This is not like bait casting, where you toss the worm in and wait. In fly fishing, if you are not actively working the water, you have no chance of catching anything, and if what you are presenting, and your approach, are not working, then you need to change one, or both, and keep trying. The ratio of casts to strikes, unless you are fishing in a hatchery, is overwhelmingly against you, which is what makes it so exciting when you finally do get something on the line.
But then there is the challenge of getting them to the net without having them spit the hook, which often happens as well. As has been said before, it takes patience and practice, to which I would add dedication as well.
I don't mean this in any way to seem scoldy, and hopefully it does not come across as preachy either, just my observations of my experiences. To stretch the analogy to the breaking point, once you do get a fish on the line, and you play it beautifully to the net, sometimes it's not a keeper, and so you let it go. It's all part of the sport.
All this said, not all fishermen are fly fishers, and that's what makes the world the varied and interesting place that it is. All I can say is keep at it, if you want, and you will have successes, and failures too.
As for your vanishing baby, she may just reappear ready to rock it. Perhaps send her one more message saying something about your need to move on, and to respond to all the other contacts you have gotten (even if you haven't) unless she gets back to you by Saturday, or something like that. If you are communicating with her through SA, you will be able to see if she read your message or not, and when she is online as well. If you are offsite, send her an email with "sent you a message on SA" in the subject line, so even if she doesn't open it, she will see what you want her to see. Forgive me if I'm offering advice where none has been sought.
Peace,
Scott
Off topic for just a second
Friends,
I have noticed that my Sugar email address only gets spam related to hook ups, fuck buddies and the like. I never get the Nigerian business deals, the cashier's check waiting to be released, or any of the other random spam that my work email gets. Why is that? How do these scammers find email addresses, and why haven't they found my Sugar email?
I apologize for the distraction, but there really isn't anyone else I can ask, LOL.
Scott
No riding lesson for me today
Friends,
Polo sent me a text just as I was heading out the door that she had to unfortunately cancel our riding lesson today for a perfectly acceptable reason. Nonetheless, I was all suited up, had done my stretching exercises, and was looking forward to a couple of hours in the Pleasure Dome, followed by a late lunch to see if we couldn't begin to forge something broader than a crazy desire for each others' bodies. Oh well, I have next week to look forward to.
On my other front, ATF tells me she and her new roomies rented a fantastic place in a great neighborhood that has lots of cute shops, restaurants and bars, and is nowhere anyone I know from my real life would go, I'm hoping. The last time she and I were together she was so playful, affectionate and happy, and when I asked her about it, she attributed it all to the upcoming change of roommates. Apparently the one she has now is a total downer, out of work, who stays home all the time, spreading gloom and doom.
If last week is any indication of things to come for ATF and me, I predict I will be falling even harder for her. Saints preserve us!
Have a great weekend if we don't speak before hand, and don't forget to write,
Scott
Chocolates, extra sugar, hair brushes!
Mandy,
What have you done to us in the few short weeks you have been posting? Before you know it, we will be holding doors open for our babies LOL! Seriously, I think you are helping us all to up our games to a new level, and in the process making it nicer for our babies as well. Have a great weekend. I'm going to contact you about coffee next week, just to catch up.
Best,
Scott
Questions for an Anonymous Survey
Hi Guys,
Between talking with you all here and my fellow sugar babies on twitter, I've started to think of questions that I am curious about. The geek side of me has taken over and I've decided to design a survey for both sugar babies and sugar daddies to take. I will use an anonymous survey tool and then publish aggregate data as well as any interesting correlations I see on my blog.
If there is anything you're wanting to understand better – sb expectations, what your other brothers do, what matters in a profile etc. – please feel free to send me a pm with your question (s).
I am studying both qualitative and quantitative measurement and data analysis so this is as much an exercise to help me practice what I'm learning. The questions will be written so they do not sway a particular response and any scale I use will be correct so that it does not skew the data. All of this is to say that while I am a baby, any bias I have with this project will be left at the door.
It is simply to let me answer my curious questions, and any questions that you or sugar babies have. Yes, I've invited my fellow sisters to give input into the question development as well. Any questions suggested or any data collected later on will be kept anonymous.
Thank you so much for your help – I'll let you know if a few weeks when the survey is up and you can all take it for me too!
Thanks!
Mandy
