[QUOTE=NeedyUnchin;3466988]Hey fellas, I am learning the SA ropes. I have reviewed the post with links to tons of tips. A few things I am not clear on:
1-Do you recommend being up front about being married in the profile?
2-How about the net worth and income fields?
3-In the "what you're looking for" section, are you broad / vague to cast a wide net or very specific? I pretty much would like NSA private meetups. I am really not comfortable galavanting around town on a date with some 20 year old. So discreet private time only. Is this too blatantly saying 'Hi I'm just looking for hookups!
4-Have you ever tried filling out the profile with ridiculous and obviously exaggerated info? I. e. Billionaire globalist hedge fund manager and international man of intrigue.
[/QUOTE]"Discretion required" is the phrasing you're looking for. They'll generally assume you're married, and I'm always brutally direct on the first M&G about my relationship status, when they inevitably ask or hint about wanting to know (I'm not currently married, but when I was, I was up front about it, because I didn't want any misunderstandings, or assumptions about the future. Currently, I make it clear that I'm dating in the conventional sense, and also open to a regular, weekly SB if the right one comes along, but that I'm not interested a traditional relationship.) It is NOT actually a negative to be open about just being about hookups on a SD site, though you won't get the travel babies or the ones who want to go out around town, but those aren't the ones you're looking for, in your case. You will get the single moms who are having trouble making ends meet, and who think the whole thing puts them in a different class from BP girls, if they're selective about who they meet. Yes, you'll also get the ones who have a double-life on BP, and who hope you don't notice, but, while those do get downplayed on this board, I've taken a couple from that category out on weekend trips, and wound up with $1-$2 cash outlay per day, plus expenses that are not really more than taking out a civilian. I kind of wonder if they think of it as a "working vacation", but I don't tend to tell them that I've already googled their pics / phone number and know that they're not really college students. On the good side, they normally can host, and don't have babysitter issues when taking weekends off. I tend to think if they're willing to play the role of "daring college kid", I'm willing to play along.
On a related note, when marriage was an issue for me, I screened for SBs who could host (I'd bring that up around the time we'd get to talking about the range of the possible allowance,) because the expense of a hotel gets old, quickly, not to mention the paper trail, and the difficulty in finding one with early check-in if you're getting lunchtime escapes. (Yes, I know workarounds have been discussed for both of the latter issues, but it's hard to beat having an SB who can just invite you into her apartment.).
Re: income and net worth.
I've always gone with the low end of the range for income, but honest in the net worth area (it's only fair to give them a realistic measure of what you're used to, without showing too much liquidity.) When asked, I tend to say that I'm certainly not rich, but that I am comfortable, and I have a little bit to share. If you put yourself out there as a high roller, you'll attract the GPS $500-$1 k per meeting types, and that's probably not what you want.
