Seeking Arrangement and Other Dating Site Reviews

Well I joined SA and started sending messages out and cane across user Cattt.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/846b0958-be61-450c-8d33-27a866d25dc1[/URL]

She looked cute, blonde 19 yo, nice body. She said she was up for whatever and if I just wanted to hook up that was fine. I looked her up on Facebook and saw she was a real girl from southington (with a boyfriend) but I figured whatever and scheduled a meet.

We scheduled to meet at the Dunkin' Donuts in Plainville and I show up there and I see her boyfriend who I recognized from her Facebook and 1 of his friends in a car. She never shows and blocks my number and blocks me from SA. I assume they were trying to rob me and lost the nerve when they saw me in person. Anyway just wanted to make people aware. Has anyone actually seen this girl or talked to her on phone? Not sure what happened and if they were going to rob me or they were just a spotter or protection for her. I'm reasonably attractive and sent her a pic before I met so I don't think my looks scared her off LOL.

This has kind of given me a bad taste for seeking. It seems like there are just scammers or drug addicted UTR's or very attractive young women who won't meet unless your a millionaire. I was hoping to find a regular girl going thru a bit of financial trouble willing to participate in a bit if I help you, you help me.

[QUOTE=DozerDude;4232642]I've been texting with a girl from SA this morning back and forth. Once we establish some of the basic info and details she asks how much $$ my offer would be. Immediately after that text she comes out with "Okay and how much are you trying to pay for a blow job then sex?

Holy hell, sounds like a setup to me, but its SA?

What do you guys think?[/QUOTE]I'd politely respond with something like "I don't think we're going to work out but good luck with your search" then block her and move on to the next one.

[QUOTE=BartSimpson12;4232653]Well I joined SA and started sending messages out and cane across user Cattt.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/846b0958-be61-450c-8d33-27a866d25dc1[/URL]

She looked cute, blonde 19 yo, nice body. She said she was up for whatever and if I just wanted to hook up that was fine. I looked her up on Facebook and saw she was a real girl from southington (with a boyfriend) but I figured whatever and scheduled a meet.

We scheduled to meet at the Dunkin' Donuts in Plainville and I show up there and I see her boyfriend who I recognized from her Facebook and 1 of his friends in a car. She never shows and blocks my number and blocks me from SA. I assume they were trying to rob me and lost the nerve when they saw me in person. Anyway just wanted to make people aware. Has anyone actually seen this girl or talked to her on phone? Not sure what happened and if they were going to rob me or they were just a spotter or protection for her. I'm reasonably attractive and sent her a pic before I met so I don't think my looks scared her off LOL.

This has kind of given me a bad taste for seeking. It seems like there are just scammers or drug addicted UTR's or very attractive young women who won't meet unless your a millionaire. I was hoping to find a regular girl going thru a bit of financial trouble willing to participate in a bit if I help you, you help me.[/QUOTE]It will happen again. DD was a good place to meet in Plainville. She has been doing this since Christmas an it could have been a couple of her collage buddies. But she saw something that scared her off.

Go find another gem They are there. But as of said before 90% of them are a waste of time.

[QUOTE=Callmecrazy;4232802]I'd politely respond with something like "I don't think we're going to work out but good luck with your search" then block her and move on to the next one.[/QUOTE]Something seemed off with her, she demanded a dick pic but my phone doesn't have a camera on it. She was mad and said all phones can do it, haha not my $9.99 one! I blocked her and will move on to another. Stay safe guys!

[QUOTE=DozerDude;4232642]I've been texting with a girl from SA this morning back and forth. Once we establish some of the basic info and details she asks how much $$ my offer would be. Immediately after that text she comes out with "Okay and how much are you trying to pay for a blow job then sex?

Holy hell, sounds like a setup to me, but its SA?

What do you guys think?[/QUOTE]Be careful. I had a girl ask me that question and we agreed on a number. When she came to my house she threatened to call the police unless I paid her off. She showed me the texts that she saved. I took the loss and gave her the money. Turns out she was one of the girls who robbed the sailor last year. She is tall, skinny, and black. Be careful out there and remember, a lot of these girls have nothing to lose.

[QUOTE=LuckyCT;4233082]Be careful. I had a girl ask me that question and we agreed on a number. When she came to my house she threatened to call the police unless I paid her off. She showed me the texts that she saved. I took the loss and gave her the money. Turns out she was one of the girls who robbed the sailor last year. She is tall, skinny, and black. Be careful out there and remember, a lot of these girls have nothing to lose.[/QUOTE]Even with those apparently std right away, I still would insist on meeting nearby first. In your situation probably would have had the same outcome and you smart to take the loss. Hopefully that girl doing time by now.

[QUOTE=RonOne;4232842]It will happen again. DD was a good place to meet in Plainville. She has been doing this since Christmas an it could have been a couple of her collage buddies. But she saw something that scared her off.

Go find another gem They are there. But as of said before 90% of them are a waste of time.[/QUOTE]So this is happened before with her? Have any members actually successfully dreamed of her? I'm paranoid now, there's another one I'm supposed to meet for cocktails tonight Who I know is for real and has sent me confirmation pictures but now I'm sketched out I'm just going to get jumped and robbed in the parking lot LOL.

[QUOTE=LuckyCT;4233082]Be careful. I had a girl ask me that question and we agreed on a number. When she came to my house she threatened to call the police unless I paid her off. She showed me the texts that she saved. I took the loss and gave her the money. Turns out she was one of the girls who robbed the sailor last year. She is tall, skinny, and black. Be careful out there and remember, a lot of these girls have nothing to lose.[/QUOTE]Got to ask. WHY DID YOU LET HER COME TO YOUR HOUSE? That my friend is asking for trouble. Bet you never did that again.

[QUOTE=DozerDude;4232853]Something seemed off with her, she demanded a dick pic but my phone doesn't have a camera on it. She was mad and said all phones can do it, haha not my $9.99 one! I blocked her and will move on to another. Stay safe guys![/QUOTE]LOL She did same exact thing with me and wouldn't take any confirmation photos And giving excuses like oh I can't take a picture right now I'm driving or I'm in work etc. She also asked point blank how much I would pay her for a blowjob and sex. I ended up sending the the dick pic though LOL she also wanted to see my fb page. Very odd so I passed.

I talked to her, and have her number. I asked her is she was free Friday she said she was not. So I didn't end up following up with her.

[QUOTE=BartSimpson12;4232653]Well I joined SA and started sending messages out and cane across user Cattt.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/846b0958-be61-450c-8d33-27a866d25dc1[/URL]

She looked cute, blonde 19 yo, nice body. She said she was up for whatever and if I just wanted to hook up that was fine. I looked her up on Facebook and saw she was a real girl from southington (with a boyfriend) but I figured whatever and scheduled a meet.

We scheduled to meet at the Dunkin' Donuts in Plainville and I show up there and I see her boyfriend who I recognized from her Facebook and 1 of his friends in a car. She never shows and blocks my number and blocks me from SA. I assume they were trying to rob me and lost the nerve when they saw me in person. Anyway just wanted to make people aware. Has anyone actually seen this girl or talked to her on phone? Not sure what happened and if they were going to rob me or they were just a spotter or protection for her. I'm reasonably attractive and sent her a pic before I met so I don't think my looks scared her off LOL.

This has kind of given me a bad taste for seeking. It seems like there are just scammers or drug addicted UTR's or very attractive young women who won't meet unless your a millionaire. I was hoping to find a regular girl going thru a bit of financial trouble willing to participate in a bit if I help you, you help me.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=BartSimpson12;4232653]Well I joined SA and started sending messages out and cane across user Cattt.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/846b0958-be61-450c-8d33-27a866d25dc1[/URL]

We scheduled to meet at the Dunkin' Donuts in Plainville and I show up there and I see her boyfriend who I recognized from her Facebook and 1 of his friends in a car. She never shows and blocks my number and blocks me from SA. I assume they were trying to rob me and lost the nerve when they saw me in person. Anyway just wanted to make people aware. Has anyone actually seen this girl or talked to her on phone? Not sure what happened and if they were going to rob me or they were just a spotter or protection for her. I'm reasonably attractive and sent her a pic before I met so I don't think my looks scared her off LOL.

This has kind of given me a bad taste for seeking. It seems like there are just scammers or drug addicted UTR's or very attractive young women who won't meet unless your a millionaire. I was hoping to find a regular girl going thru a bit of financial trouble willing to participate in a bit if I help you, you help me.[/QUOTE]I'm always worried about this sort of situation whenever I meet someone new. On SA, WYP and STG anyone can post an ad appearing to be for one purpose, but they can have something else in mind like robbery or blackmail or sting. Your spidey senses always have to be scanning. Your best friend in any situation in this hobby is your ability to walk away before anything gets weird.

I look for ANY reason to ditch the deal, and my "trip line" to do that is SUPER sensitive. I have more busted M&Gs than successful ones, just because of this. It's a pain, but it's the nature of the hobby.

You made a good choice to meet first in a public place like DD. I personally would have insisted ahead of time at actually going into DD and having a conversation. I feel I can get a decent sense of whether a person is honest in their intentions over a cup of coffee.

Of course, ANY other person, and especially ANY male is a total deal breaker for me. Game over, full stop, walk away. The moment I saw her BF I would have driven out without identifying myself. Good on you for doing your homework on FB before meeting.

Another thing I do almost all the time is change the game on them in some way. For example, I'll suggest meeting in the parking lot of X business, next door to a Starbucks, from which I can see the parking lot of X business. If she's expecting to meet for an outcall at my place, I'll say "Actually, can we meet at X business and chat first? I would like to know you a little before inviting you to my place. " If she agrees I go to the Starbucks next door and park where I can see the lot of X business.

Then I watch her arrive and look around for me. If there is anyone else with her, I just ghost. If she's alone, I text and say "Actually, I'm at Starbucks, drive over here and meet me. " She may get frustrated at this point, but if she were planning anything that involves other parties, she'll have to move them too. Same with any kind of sting. Cops don't work alone. If she's not agreeable, it ends there. I assume it's likely she has another agenda. If she agrees and is alone, I watch her drive over and I go into Starbucks. This way I'm sitting in view of all their security cameras. If anything is weird, I never identify myself. I'm just another Starbucks customer. If all is well, we talk and I get the chance to try to determine if she's actually looking for a fair deal.

I've learned the hard way over the years that these measures are necessary.

[QUOTE=BartSimpson12;4233171] <snip> there's another one I'm supposed to meet for cocktails tonight Who I know is for real and has sent me confirmation pictures but now I'm sketched out I'm just going to get jumped and robbed in the parking lot LOL.[/QUOTE]How did it go?

[QUOTE=DozerDude;4232642]I've been texting with a girl from SA this morning back and forth. Once we establish some of the basic info and details she asks how much $$ my offer would be. Immediately after that text she comes out with "Okay and how much are you trying to pay for a blow job then sex?

Holy hell, sounds like a setup to me, but its SA?

What do you guys think?[/QUOTE]I'd report her to the website, then block her.

The TV Show "Slutever" did a recent episode on sugar relationships - [URL]https://www.viceland.com/en_us/video/sugar-babies-1-711/5c0a97ecbe407731846fe9b3[/URL].

A big focus was on Seeking Arrangement, featuring all three sides, babies, daddies, and employees of the site. The woman kept repeating over and over about how they were making thousands a month, yet never having sex with any of the daddies. One scene featured two SA employees holding a seminar repeating the same "free money, no sex required" mantra. We all know, unless the baby is extorting the daddy or the baby only defines sex as penis in vagina, that's complete BS.

I'm sharing this because the show, and Vice TV in general, is pretty popular with twentysomethings, and it may cause an influx of women who truly believe guys are going to throw big bucks and expensive gifts at them for nothing in return. This may be especially important for those considering sharing real information early in the game.

If you've got anyway to watch the episode, give it a shot. I found the episode pretty interesting, even if I don't buy the no sex angle.

[QUOTE=Woody50;4234010]The TV Show "Slutever" did a recent episode on sugar relationships - [URL]https://www.viceland.com/en_us/video/sugar-babies-1-711/5c0a97ecbe407731846fe9b3[/URL].

A big focus was on Seeking Arrangement, featuring all three sides, babies, daddies, and employees of the site. The woman kept repeating over and over about how they were making thousands a month, yet never having sex with any of the daddies. One scene featured two SA employees holding a seminar repeating the same "free money, no sex required" mantra. We all know, unless the baby is extorting the daddy or the baby only defines sex as penis in vagina, that's complete BS.

I'm sharing this because the show, and Vice TV in general, is pretty popular with twentysomethings, and it may cause an influx of women who truly believe guys are going to throw big bucks and expensive gifts at them for nothing in return. This may be especially important for those considering sharing real information early in the game.

If you've got anyway to watch the episode, give it a shot. I found the episode pretty interesting, even if I don't buy the no sex angle.[/QUOTE]Early on with one girl I made the mistake of sharing personal info. I told her didn't want to pursue things after our first and only lousy session. She was sufficiently pissed that she wasn't going to have her easy gravy train, that she threatened me with going to significant other etc. Fortunately I knew and also found out sufficient info on her that I was able to tell her I could do the same etc etc that she backed off from her threat. So, like I said before, after that never ever have first meet up at my place and keep things appropriately discreet until feel can truly trust someone. While many girls rationalize that they aren't escorts / prostitutes, they really are, just usually without the drug problems or pimps. The attitude of free money with no sex is why I stay away from the college ones, and why I found who to be wyp especially a waste of time and effort.