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She may not be the brightest fish in the pond, but she was bright enough to figure out who I was.
I just wish I knew how she did it because there was NOTHING in the room with my name on it and my wallet was never out of my sight. I am wondering if she pretended like she was my wife or something to the front desk. It's all I can think of.
[QUOTE=FScott;3321066]Fig,
One of my first experiences in the Bowl was with a baby who, after our initial m&g, emailed me saying she knew my real name, address etc, and would out me to my wife if I didn't send her $1000 via Western Union. After a mild stroke, I realized that she was probably bluffing, and calmly informed her that while cheating on one's wife might be a bad thing, as yet it was not a crime. Blackmail, however, was very much one, and doing it over the internet made it wire fraud as well, which got the Feds involved. If she wanted to do time in a federal penitentiary, she should let me know and I'd be happy to call the FBI, who would discover HER real name and identity with ease.
Needless to say, that was the end of that. I have no idea if anything I said was true, but it might be helpful nonetheless in your situation. Some of these babies are not the brightest fish in the pond.
Good luck, my friend!
Scott.[/QUOTE]I'm not a lawyer, but I pay mine a small fortune ever year.
I'm pretty sure everything you said is correct, and it is probably your only play. She can respond by anonymously reporting to your wife. But if she made the threat of blackmail, she's still probably culpable.
[QUOTE=BikeRider;3321573]She can respond by anonymously reporting to your wife. But if she made the threat of blackmail, she's still probably culpable.[/QUOTE]I thought about that, but came to the conclusion that she wasn't really looking to out me to my wife the way a spurned lover might do out of vindictiveness; she was looking for an easy pay day. Further, there would be no benefit to her for ratting me out, and I had already put in her mind the thought that the blowback might bring her unwanted attention from the FBI.
Still, I made sure I was the one who brought in the mail for the next several weeks! And yes, I believe the threat of blackmail is, in fact, the essence of it. The threat IS the crime.
All said, the Bowl is still the most fun I've had in decades!
Keep up the good work, gentlemen.
Scott.
[QUOTE=FigLeaf;3321534]She may not be the brightest fish in the pond, but she was bright enough to figure out who I was.
I just wish I knew how she did it because there was NOTHING in the room with my name on it and my wallet was never out of my sight. I am wondering if she pretended like she was my wife or something to the front desk. It's all I can think of.[/QUOTE]Fig, do you have any pics on your profile or that you sent her that you have posted anywhere else, at any time, for any reason? Or that could have been posted by someone else? That would be my first guess. Impersonating your wife at the front desk requires a bit of calculated sange-froide that I doubt many babies have.
Image-googling a picture, however, is the work of a few clicks, and I'm pretty sure I could teach my cat how to do it in an hour or so. Did you call or text her from a phone number that could be googled? Did you leave her alone in your car long enough for her to look at the service receipts in your glove box? There has to be a simpler explanation that you have overlooked.
I'd be astonished if she went from asking for help to actually threatening you with blackmail, but keep the FBI in your back pocket, so to speak, just in case. If she's as UTR as the local brethren seem to indicate, she has left a far wider trail than you have, and it shouldn't be hard to find out who SHE is.
Remember. Cheating on your SO is not a crime. Blackmail is.
Stay strong,
Scott.
I first posted back in January thanking the board for info that lead me to creating an SA account which quickly generated plenty of POTS. Life gets in the way sometime and although I had conversations with multiple POTS, I went dark for a while before finally meeting my first POT last night. Took a complete shot in the dark by texting a POT that I had only exchanged a couple messages with nearly 2 months ago. To my surprise, she was game for a M&G, just needed to finish having dinner with a girlfriend. Considering she was already out I figured I had missed the chance to tell her to dress it up a little as I like a girl in heels. We agree to meet in the hotel bar and in walks this beautiful 28 why / o, about 5'7, 125, long hair, manicured nails, cute glasses and a great pair of leather thigh high boots. We move from the hotel bar to the bar across the street to feel each other out and we end up having a ton in common, both sexually and in regards to how we want an arrangement to work. Ultimately spent about 2. 5 hours at the bar before returning to my room, which quickly turned into the FC. Now, I could go into details all day with the things we had in common and how easily we clicked, and it wasn't just her playing a role. Everything she said to me came with some kind of tangible proof essentially letting me know that this girl was a freak and she was for real. So back at the FC, me letting her thigh high boots lead the way, we get a solid 45 minutes of foreplay in before the main show begins. Let me tell you, although I know it can get a lot crazier in the future given all of our common sexual interests, it was an intense nonstop hour of fucking with her having multiple Os before I finally got mine. Considering I haven't used a condom in 8+ years, I had to do some real work but she took it all and asked for more.
So what started out as a shot in the dark text turns into a 4-5 hour night of drinks followed by a trip to the FC, with a solid 8 who is sporting the heels that I love, and is a complete freak in bed. And maybe the best part of it all, because we're both on the same page in regards to the arrangement that we want to pursue, I invested a total of. 20 at the bar on drinks, and she's been blowing my phone up all day with extremely dirty pics that I actually didn't ask for. I'm 1 for 1 on SA and have the board to thank not only for SA, but for all the info and tips regarding a M&G, setting expectations, and not letting $$ be the focal point of the arrangement.
[QUOTE=FScott;3321776]Fig, do you have any pics on your profile or that you sent her that you have posted anywhere else, at any time, for any reason? Or that could have been posted by someone else? That would be my first guess. Impersonating your wife at the front desk requires a bit of calculated sange-froide that I doubt many babies have.
Image-googling a picture, however, is the work of a few clicks, and I'm pretty sure I could teach my cat how to do it in an hour or so. Did you call or text her from a phone number that could be googled? Did you leave her alone in your car long enough for her to look at the service receipts in your glove box? There has to be a simpler explanation that you have overlooked.
I'd be astonished if she went from asking for help to actually threatening you with blackmail, but keep the FBI in your back pocket, so to speak, just in case. If she's as UTR as the local brethren seem to indicate, she has left a far wider trail than you have, and it shouldn't be hard to find out who SHE is.
Remember. Cheating on your SO is not a crime. Blackmail is.
Stay strong,
Scott.[/QUOTE]She was never in my rental car. She was never alone in the room. Nothing in the room other than my wallet had any of my info on it or in it. It was never out of sight.
As for pics, they were selfies shot for that sppecific purpose. Yes there were pics on my profile but all were private selfies only that were there and only there.
What really freaks me out is that after I refused to help her get her car back from being repossessed, she starts with texting me my real name. For instance in caps, SCOTT FITZGERALD. Then later she texts F. SCOTT FITZGERALD. Just like that which is really freaky because that is how I use my name (First inital, middle name, last name) and says from (the state I live in). I keep saying I won't help. SHe moves onto to saying use your points to get me and my daughter a room. How the hell did it go from car repossession to a hotel room. I then asked her if she was threatening me. Next thing she said was well $50 is better than the other option.
I texted that for the last time the answer is no and you have enough info to try to do something so go for it. Also told her to never contact me again. I then deleted everything. The SA accounts, the text app, everything.
Fellas, I am a nervous wreck and am seriously contemplating hibernating for 6 months or so.
Good thing I am working from home next week as I will definitely be getting the mail.
[QUOTE=FigLeaf;3321973]
I texted that for the last time the answer is no and you have enough info to try to do something so go for it. Also told her to never contact me again. I then deleted everything. The SA accounts, the text app, everything.
Fellas, I am a nervous wreck and am seriously contemplating hibernating for 6 months or so.
Good thing I am working from home next week as I will definitely be getting the mail.[/QUOTE]Remember many gone through this. Do not worry, she will not cross the line. I will follow Scott's direction, and just say one last time, if she don't stop the harassment then you will report her to FBI. Similarly, simply complying with the demands can often lead to further demands or even having the blackmailer carry out the coercive threat simply out of spite once you have complied.
One last time, you can say. Blackmail and extortion are crimes, and it is their obligation to enforce the law and you are contacting them. If she sends another message. Stay strong. If you satisfy the demand, they will never stop.
STAY STRONG.
[QUOTE=Cbcb2226;3321829]I first posted back in January thanking the board for info that lead me to creating an SA account which quickly generated plenty of POTS. Life gets in the way sometime and although I had conversations with multiple POTS, I went dark for a while before finally meeting my first POT last night. Took a complete shot in the dark by texting a POT that I had only exchanged a couple messages with nearly 2 months ago. To my surprise, she was game for a M&G, just needed to finish having dinner with a girlfriend. Considering she was already out I figured I had missed the chance to tell her to dress it up a little as I like a girl in heels. We agree to meet in the hotel bar and in walks this beautiful 28 why / o, about 5'7, 125, long hair, manicured nails, cute glasses and a great pair of leather thigh high boots. We move from the hotel bar to the bar across the street to feel each other out and we end up having a ton in common, both sexually and in regards to how we want an arrangement to work. Ultimately spent about 2. 5 hours at the bar before returning to my room, which quickly turned into the FC. Now, I could go into details all day with the things we had in common and how easily we clicked, and it wasn't just her playing a role. Everything she said to me came with some kind of tangible proof essentially letting me know that this girl was a freak and she was for real. So back at the FC, me letting her thigh high boots lead the way, we get a solid 45 minutes of foreplay in before the main show begins. Let me tell you, although I know it can get a lot crazier in the future given all of our common sexual interests, it was an intense nonstop hour of fucking with her having multiple Os before I finally got mine. Considering I haven't used a condom in 8+ years, I had to do some real work but she took it all and asked for more.
So what started out as a shot in the dark text turns into a 4-5 hour night of drinks followed by a trip to the FC, with a solid 8 who is sporting the heels that I love, and is a complete freak in bed. And maybe the best part of it all, because we're both on the same page in regards to the arrangement that we want to pursue, I invested a total of. 20 at the bar on drinks, and she's been blowing my phone up all day with extremely dirty pics that I actually didn't ask for. I'm 1 for 1 on SA and have the board to thank not only for SA, but for all the info and tips regarding a M&G, setting expectations, and not letting $$ be the focal point of the arrangement.[/QUOTE]Glad to hear you found what sounds like the perfect match for you! Those are few and far between. I've run into a bunch of GPS lately. Three M&G in the last 2 weeks that all expected double my limit.
[QUOTE=Cbcb2226;3321829]I first posted back in January thanking the board for info that lead me to creating an SA account which quickly generated plenty of POTS. Life gets in the way sometime and although I had conversations with multiple POTS, I went dark for a while before finally meeting my first POT last night. Took a complete shot in the dark by texting a POT that I had only exchanged a couple messages with nearly 2 months ago. To my surprise, she was game for a M&G, just needed to finish having dinner with a girlfriend. Considering she was already out I figured I had missed the chance to tell her to dress it up a little as I like a girl in heels. We agree to meet in the hotel bar and in walks this beautiful 28 why / o, about 5'7, 125, long hair, manicured nails, cute glasses and a great pair of leather thigh high boots. We move from the hotel bar to the bar across the street to feel each other out and we end up having a ton in common, both sexually and in regards to how we want an arrangement to work. Ultimately spent about 2. 5 hours at the bar before returning to my room, which quickly turned into the FC. Now, I could go into details all day with the things we had in common and how easily we clicked, and it wasn't just her playing a role. Everything she said to me came with some kind of tangible proof essentially letting me know that this girl was a freak and she was for real. So back at the FC, me letting her thigh high boots lead the way, we get a solid 45 minutes of foreplay in before the main show begins. Let me tell you, although I know it can get a lot crazier in the future given all of our common sexual interests, it was an intense nonstop hour of fucking with her having multiple Os before I finally got mine. Considering I haven't used a condom in 8+ years, I had to do some real work but she took it all and asked for more.
So what started out as a shot in the dark text turns into a 4-5 hour night of drinks followed by a trip to the FC, with a solid 8 who is sporting the heels that I love, and is a complete freak in bed. And maybe the best part of it all, because we're both on the same page in regards to the arrangement that we want to pursue, I invested a total of. 20 at the bar on drinks, and she's been blowing my phone up all day with extremely dirty pics that I actually didn't ask for. I'm 1 for 1 on SA and have the board to thank not only for SA, but for all the info and tips regarding a M&G, setting expectations, and not letting $$ be the focal point of the arrangement.[/QUOTE]You go boy. Every time another SD is initiated, a devil rings a bell.
[QUOTE=Demond36;3314448]She has not logged in or responded back to me since we met Thursday. Here is her info if you want to give her a try, she starts her arrangement very high priced, but I talked her down.
[/QUOTE]I'd traded a few messages with her a little while back but the most recent one she read but didn't reply. I see she's logged back in now. Did you ever hear back from her?
[QUOTE=GeorgeRichmond;3322221]Remember many gone through this. Do not worry, she will not cross the line. I will follow Scott's direction, and just say one last time, if she don't stop the harassment then you will report her to FBI. Similarly, simply complying with the demands can often lead to further demands or even having the blackmailer carry out the coercive threat simply out of spite once you have complied.
One last time, you can say. Blackmail and extortion are crimes, and it is their obligation to enforce the law and you are contacting them. If she sends another message. Stay strong. If you satisfy the demand, they will never stop.
STAY STRONG.[/QUOTE]So far nothing. I got home and the SO is still in the dark.
Lord I hope it stays that way.
I am done for while. Just going to stay low for awhile and be a good boy.
My SA account is expiring soon and I don't plan to renew right now since I have a few I'm working on. I have it set now so I don't show up in searches. Will it stay that way once my subscription expires? I know that used to be a premium-only feature but I can't tell if it still is or not.
I want to delete my pics and change my profile text before my subscription runs out if it's going to suddenly start showing up in searches.
Anyone gotten anywhere with this one?
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/e0a22717-150a-4bed-8853-3683fd4ff6c5[/URL]
From her profile it sounds like it should be pretty easy to set something up with her, but I've asked a few simple questions over the past few weeks that she reads but never replies to. And it doesn't show that she's ever viewed me so I don't think it's my profile that's the problem.
[QUOTE=FigLeaf;3323223]So far nothing. I got home and the SO is still in the dark.
Lord I hope it stays that way.
I am done for while. Just going to stay low for awhile and be a good boy.[/QUOTE]Yeah, we all get that way after a good scare, and after it wears off (days, weeks), we're back in the bowl. One thing you might consider. Taking some screenshots of stuff that she sent to you, and then firing it back at her if she contacts you again electronically. The 'evidence' you're going to deliver to the FBI. Keep it on an encrypted USB drive so it is portable, the SO can't crack into it, and if worse came to worse, you could flush it.
[QUOTE=FarFarAway;3323478]Yeah, we all get that way after a good scare, and after it wears off (days, weeks), we're back in the bowl. One thing you might consider. Taking some screenshots of stuff that she sent to you, and then firing it back at her if she contacts you again electronically. The 'evidence' you're going to deliver to the FBI. Keep it on an encrypted USB drive so it is portable, the SO can't crack into it, and if worse came to worse, you could flush it.[/QUOTE]Shook me so bad at first, I trashed everything and deleted everything across the board.
However, I did figure if I was going to go out, I was going to go out in a blaze of glory.
I kept my first date with my brand new 19 year old HYCB. Oh lord I am so glad I did.
After dinner, we immediately went to the FC where she gave me to shots within an hour which never happens. First via CG and second via BBBJNQNS. Get this. I asked during the BBBJ if she was OK with CIM. UH-huh was what she managed to mumble around a mouthful. What about swallowing? She stopped looked at me and said "Spitters are quitters!" Holy Cow!.
We cuddle an talked and lightly rubbed on each other for the next 15 minutes or so before agreeing it was time to leave as she had plans and I had to get home.
I will keep seeing this one but everything else is backburnered for awhile. This one agrees to never calling me and will only meet me when I call her. And she is open to try anything and everything!
Well Hell, if I am going to go down in flames, at least I can keep some 19 year old smoking hot college babe that apparently fucks like a damn rabbit on the side.