It's all about making them not feel like ******.
[QUOTE=FreekShow;3173461]I am picking up tips on traveling and could always use more as I am new to this. Will be out of town soon for a week and will report when I get back as to how I worked it. Any tips on breaking the ice on SA for short term meetings? Thanks for any help on this.[/QUOTE]Unless they explicitly say they are not looking for a one time hook up, pretty much anyone on SA is willing to listen to what you have to say, so long as you are respectful in your approach. It helps if you will be a somewhat regular visitor to the city. Yes, "open minded" and "up for short term" or "up for most anything" or "just ask" are always good signs.
Fortunately, I am often complimented by SBs on my way with words, so this comes rather naturally to me (at least the written version, was never good a chatting up hotties). Being above average on the literacy meter also seems to make them feel at ease, especially given some of the ham handed approaches I have heard about. Kindly adapt the language to your own style, they can tell if you are pulling a Cyrano on them.
I am very up front -- Ill be in town on x date (usually at least 2 weeks in advance) for a "night or two" -- leave it vague so they know a one nighter is on the agenda -- and was hoping to meet a _ _ _ young lady (fill in the appropriate adjectives based on their profile hot buttons, "fun", "smart" "leggy") to share an evening. Ill also throw in that I visit town "monthly. Quarterly / irreguarly" or whatever it might be. For me the key has been the next sentence -- "if meeting an occassional / irregular / one-time visitor to _ for an enjoyable evening is not too NSA for your tastes, I hope to hear back from you" I'd say I get a response 75% of the time, even if the response is a polite "no thanks", they seem to appreciate the gesture of considering their perspective on things.
They usually ask what I had in mind, and I always says-- drinks, dinner, and dessert -- maybe even a midnight snack or breakfast in bed if we really hit it off. Non explicit, but they get the point. I almost exclusively pick SBs willing to overnight.
After that it is up to you how much time to invest in pre-meeting communication. I rarely have enough free time to invest in dinner, so I do a fair amount of pre-meeting communication. Yes, its time consuming but necessary. Of my last 8 SB meetings, one was not planned as an overnight -- just a drink and 20 minutes of chatting for 2 hours with a CoEd. Of the other 7, only 2 involved an hour at dinner before we were both racing back to the hotel room and 3 others just required a drink before hitting the FC. 2 were planned to meet in my room for a drink, and room service between rounds.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak!
Some of our bro's can come up with the correct version of this adage for our situation maybe "want to drill but the bit is broken" anyway reviving an old topic of mine.
Apart from using the correct type and amount of lube what other measures can I take to keep the tool from getting raw and red after pumping too much with it? I think the foreskin is getting caught some where instead of sliding in and out with the rest of the tool. Will applying moisturizer on the tool as part of the its daily care help? Or is it time to see a urologist?
And when the tool does get bruised how to hasten the healing?
Clues of a potential extorter?
Would be interested in hearing advice and opinions from the brothers on my current SB. In my 18 months actively on SA (28 to the FC) I have never been concerned about a SB turning wacko and trying to pull some type of extortion stunt. It may be because up until 4 months ago I always kept a rotation of 3 to 4 SBs and quickly dropped any that seemed a bit weird. But as some of you know I changed my M. O. four months ago when I got busted by my SO. I cut my play area radius from 2 hours down to a half hour and converted to keeping just one SB with no back-ups. Less activity but cuts down on the risk of getting busted a second time.
So for the past 8 weeks have been weekly with a 21 year old bisexual Asian girl. She is very aggressive in the FC, we have done an overnight and also a threesome with a 19 year old bisexual SB that I had a previous history with (I had brought her in this summer with a 19 yr old bi-curious SB I was seeing at the time). She is the first Asian I have been with but she got my attention when I saw her private SA pics - they were all fully nude. Meanwhile, she has just signed a lease for her own apt, moving in late February which will cut out the hotel expense for me and give me more flexibility on the time of day. This could be the ideal SB situation for me, BUT there have been some red flags in her conversation making me wonder if she is wacko enough to try an extortion stunt. Maybe it is her sense of humor but recently she will laugh while making comments like "what if you had to keep seeing me or I would say something to your wife?" and "what if you had to pay me $3000 or I would tell your wife? Separately she slips in questions asking me what my wife's (first) name is and whether she works at a job or not. I don't believe she knows my last name but a few weeks ago she did have access to my hotel receipt for about 10 seconds.
What she doesn't know is that I have a sizable amount of research on her. I knew her real name and FB account before we met the first time. From the beginning she encouraged me to visit her at work (server in a high end sports bar), which I have. Most importantly I have a very hot 2 minute video of her sucking my cock.
My instincts are to not let her know the leverage I have over her but I figure I have three choices. I could tell her I appreciate her sense of humor but it doesn't fit my sense of humor (but then she knows she is getting into my head). I could continue like nothing is bothering me but watch her / listen to her carefully. Or I could distance myself from her ASAP, for example, I could tell her I need to be out of town on family business for the next month or so and see if she gets active back on SA (currently she goes on the site about every 7 to 10 days). Interested in comments, including of course WWJ (eez) D.
I Stay in the Economy Lane
[QUOTE=Lioil;3186595]How much $$$ do people pay for SA dates that leads to somewhere?[/QUOTE]My standard rate is $100 plus a 20 percent tip if it's good. If she is transportation challenged, I will pay for the Uber, coming and going. I don't go for the beauty queens and chocolate is my preference. I pretty much have a 100 percent success rate of getting to the FC, but I would not pay for a meet-and-greet, except for transportation costs. This shuts me out of the 9-10 superstars, but I'm fine with that. I have had some spectacular sessions with SBs in the 6-7 range. I'm sure girls like that come in all colors; my preference just happens to be chocolate. Happy trails!
