You are absolutely right. Expensive lesson indeed.
[QUOTE=ChrisCarr;6770675]Bro, you failed on so many layers. T'Was an expensive lesson. Based on outcome you should only be short gas money and an hour wasted.
Never prepay the hotel.
Never pay full price just to meet.
Never pay before intimacy.
Never move from public settings to private without agreement on details.
I usually propose we meet in public with the promise of 40 or 50 for her time and gas. That has prevented ghosting and no shows, and I've yet to actually pay 50 ans leave since we usually agree to go to the FC for full price right then and there.[/QUOTE]So since I paid for membership on seeking this was my first matchup and meetup. Its been about a week or so. Before this all the other folks I tried to communicate with were either spam bots or asking for donations online, which I know not to do from another previously expensive mistake.
I guess given how much of a breeze it was to setup a meet with her, and I was tired of talking to spambots and it not going anywhere I was not thinking straight.
I do have another meeting coming up, and hopefully that will go better.
Never prepay the hotel.
Never pay before intimacy.
Only pay for it after full negotiation?
But then doesn't that make things weird discussing money right before intimacy? Not a boner killer?
IMHO go for less transactional
You are right, that seems very transactional. I never bring up compensation and usually if they bring it up after 1-2 texts I move on. I've had great luck meeting many folks on SA ranging from 20 YO to 45 YO. I've had encounters that transitioned into a friends with benefits situation after going on a date, others have turned into friendships and purely platonic (e. G. , I have a running partner and another that loves to cook), and some have remained more of the traditional arrangement although it never comes across as that transactional. You'd be surprised how many are just wanting to have a nice experience and connection; that alone has been enough for many of the women I've met. Others have wanted to explore kinks which I've been happy to do (e. G. , being a unicorn, participating in a video shoot, more of the Fetlife stuff.) A common theme I've come across is women in their 20's that are just annoyed about dating apps and are giving this a shot on a whim and then are totally turned off when some guy comes along with "what is your ppm".
-Maz.
[QUOTE=RJKing1221;6771177]So since I paid for membership on seeking this was my first matchup and meetup. Its been about a week or so. Before this all the other folks I tried to communicate with were either spam bots or asking for donations online, which I know not to do from another previously expensive mistake.
I guess given how much of a breeze it was to setup a meet with her, and I was tired of talking to spambots and it not going anywhere I was not thinking straight.
I do have another meeting coming up, and hopefully that will go better.
Never prepay the hotel.
Never pay before intimacy.
Only pay for it after full negotiation?
But then doesn't that make things weird discussing money right before intimacy? Not a boner killer?[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Dimples572;6771314]Why do you discuss compensation right before intimacy? Compensation is negotiated and settled within my first half dozen texts once we move the conversation off the site. You're hustling backwards my guy.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=ChrisCarr;6770675]Bro, you failed on so many layers. T'Was an expensive lesson. Based on outcome you should only be short gas money and an hour wasted.
Never prepay the hotel.
Never pay full price just to meet.
Never pay before intimacy.
Never move from public settings to private without agreement on details.
I usually propose we meet in public with the promise of 40 or 50 for her time and gas. That has prevented ghosting and no shows, and I've yet to actually pay 50 ans leave since we usually agree to go to the FC for full price right then and there.[/QUOTE]
