The Woodshed

[QUOTE=JaxForMe;2761180]This forum reduces risk for everyone when intel is relevant and timely. Seems to me that those that prefer to "take more than they give" are the beneficiaries of others. In my book that's unfair and should not be tolerated.

J4 me.[/QUOTE]I just blasted through your posts and didn't really see anything that leapt out where you are "TOFTT". Your post reeks of hypocritical overtones. From the 35,000 foot level it appears this board serves a purpose to qualify girls that are posting on Backpage. If the ad is halfway decent, it garners attention from more than one guy so someone will eventually pull the trigger BUT not necessarily post about thier experience. But, when someone else asks about a certain girl then they pipe up and share thier experience.

Let's face the truth, single guys or guys in bad marriages are going to be more prolific in "TOFTT" and posting / sharing thier experience that married or attached. When let's say for arguments sake, 25% of your posts are "TOFTT" then you can get back on your soapbox. Freedom of speech is great, but see the attachment LOL!

[QUOTE=JaxSince1982;2761237]I was out with my SO the other evening and as I'm sitting at the bar facing the door I see what I believed to be a provider I had seen 6 or 7 months ago. A wave of fear came over me as I didn't need any drama. As she got closer I realized I was mistaken. Whew!! Anyway that got me thinking. Jax is really a small town! Running into a provider when we are out and about can happen. How would I handle it? Well I never give my real name to a provider so there's that. Also I've managed not to piss off any of them so I don't believe they would have any reason so be confrontational if I were to ever run into one. So have any of you had a provider run in? If so how did you handle it?[/QUOTE]Happened at a concert at Florida Theater. Looked to my left and just across the aisle on the same row was Gina, one of my ATF's, there with a date. I was with my SO. After the show with all the people leaving simultaneously, who should be exiting the same door at the same time? Yep. She caught my eye and we both gave an ever so slight nod and smile and moved on into the night. The next time we got together, we talked about that split second moment of 'oh crap, how is this going to go', but we were both calm and cool and nobody was ever the wiser. Damn, I miss Gina!

[QUOTE=GufyFosho;2761197]To be so blunt. I should've chosen my words better. That I can admit to. I do however, prefer to minimize my risks and am very selective of whom I spend time with, which is the smart thing to do from my point of view.[/QUOTE]In many instances I'll do the same thing, I'll wait and see if anything pops up about a certain provider I'm interested in. Sometimes I'm rewarded with some good information and sometimes I'm not. If no info is forth coming and I'm really interested in a certain provider I'll certainly TOFTT. One of the reasons I've decided to quit this hobby is I've gotten way to good at it. Rarely if ever am I surprised these days, a sure sign that I'm too deeply involved in this past time.

The point I was making with my post is that we're all here for the same reasons, or most of us are. We want to stay safe and have a good time with as minimal amount of risk as possible. Waiting for info on a provider is totally cool and in many cases a good idea. JD.

[QUOTE=JaxSince1982;2761237]I was out with my SO the other evening and as I'm sitting at the bar facing the door I see what I believed to be a provider I had seen 6 or 7 months ago. A wave of fear came over me as I didn't need any drama. As she got closer I realized I was mistaken. Whew!! Anyway that got me thinking. Jax is really a small town! Running into a provider when we are out and about can happen. How would I handle it? Well I never give my real name to a provider so there's that. Also I've managed not to piss off any of them so I don't believe they would have any reason so be confrontational if I were to ever run into one. So have any of you had a provider run in? If so how did you handle it?[/QUOTE]I was sitting with my wife & another couple in a Titusville restaurant on our way home from a vacation when a provider I had seen in Orlando walked in with 2 guys & sat down at the table right next to us. Facing me, no less. My heart trip-hammered in my chest & I felt myself flush so, yeah, I was dismayed. Throughout the meal, which we had only just ordered, I stole glances in her direction but never saw a hint of recognition. As far as I could tell, she never looked in my direction. I hardly tasted my rock shrimp.

As we got up to leave, I dawdled behind my group & looked back. She immediately looked up & directly at me, grinned like a possum & winked.

[QUOTE=RedTalon;2761430]I just blasted through your posts and didn't really see anything that leapt out where you are "TOFTT". Your post reeks of hypocritical overtones. From the 35,000 foot level it appears this board serves a purpose to qualify girls that are posting on Backpage. If the ad is halfway decent, it garners attention from more than one guy so someone will eventually pull the trigger BUT not necessarily post about thier experience. But, when someone else asks about a certain girl then they pipe up and share thier experience.

Let's face the truth, single guys or guys in bad marriages are going to be more prolific in "TOFTT" and posting / sharing thier experience that married or attached. When let's say for arguments sake, 25% of your posts are "TOFTT" then you can get back on your soapbox. Freedom of speech is great, but see the attachment LOL![/QUOTE]Flailing about won't improve your argument or status. Posting timely and relevant intelligence will. That goes for you, me and everyone else.

If you take more information than you give you should be treated accordingly regardless of your marital status.

My position stands.

J4 m4.

[QUOTE=GufyFosho;2761197]To be so blunt. I should've chosen my words better. That I can admit to. I do however, prefer to minimize my risks and am very selective of whom I spend time with, which is the smart thing to do from my point of view.[/QUOTE]When you're at the bottom of a hole, the first thing to do is to quit digging. The "smart thing to do" would be to thank the guys who TOFTT for providing you with a safe way to enjoy this hobby, and leave it at that.

[QUOTE=Voltron94;2761684]When you're at the bottom of a hole, the first thing to do is to quit digging. The "smart thing to do" would be to thank the guys who TOFTT for providing you with a safe way to enjoy this hobby, and leave it at that.[/QUOTE]Just a thought, but blocking the guys that make it so obvious that they are leeches, is a good solution. That way they can't' see your posts, and there is no value in us reading their posts.

[QUOTE=JaxSince1982;2761237]I was out with my SO the other evening and as I'm sitting at the bar facing the door I see what I believed to be a provider I had seen 6 or 7 months ago. A wave of fear came over me as I didn't need any drama. As she got closer I realized I was mistaken. Whew!! Anyway that got me thinking. Jax is really a small town! Running into a provider when we are out and about can happen. How would I handle it? Well I never give my real name to a provider so there's that. Also I've managed not to piss off any of them so I don't believe they would have any reason so be confrontational if I were to ever run into one. So have any of you had a provider run in? If so how did you handle it?[/QUOTE]I could've sworn I saw Payton Jeannette in Chilis on Baymeadows a couple weeks ago, but she's never met me so she wouldn't of known who I was anyway. I did run into my ATF down the road from my house once. She was driving by and I was pulling out of a parking lot just about a mile from my house and she waved and I waved back. Does that count? She never knew where I lived so I didn't care. When I asked her what she was doing in my hood, she only told me she didn't know it was me, and I advised her "well you thought it was someone you knew because you waved at me" LOL. These girls, I tell ya.

[QUOTE=RedTalon;2761430]I just blasted through your posts and didn't really see anything that leapt out where you are "TOFTT". Your post reeks of hypocritical overtones. From the 35,000 foot level it appears this board serves a purpose to qualify girls that are posting on Backpage. If the ad is halfway decent, it garners attention from more than one guy so someone will eventually pull the trigger BUT not necessarily post about thier experience. But, when someone else asks about a certain girl then they pipe up and share thier experience.

Let's face the truth, single guys or guys in bad marriages are going to be more prolific in "TOFTT" and posting / sharing thier experience that married or attached. When let's say for arguments sake, 25% of your posts are "TOFTT" then you can get back on your soapbox. Freedom of speech is great, but see the attachment LOL![/QUOTE]I say, "You, you Red Talon, you are my number one guy" LOLOLOL. I don't know Red Talon, but I like him already. To any dude reading this that takes issue that I won't be the first one that TOFTT, act like a man and stop getting your feelings hurt.

[QUOTE=Voltron94;2761684]When you're at the bottom of a hole, the first thing to do is to quit digging. The "smart thing to do" would be to thank the guys who TOFTT for providing you with a safe way to enjoy this hobby, and leave it at that.[/QUOTE]Yet another hypocrite, from your posts it appears you have only seen Missy. So, practice what you preach brother!

Was meeting a buddy of mine for drinks at gold club one night. When I showed up he was talking to a chick at the bar. He had been chatting with her for a bit before I got there and I realized she was a BP girl I saw a long time ago. My buddy ended up getting her number and I had to tell him how I found her on backpage.

He thought it was going to be a sure bet for a hookup after I told him. He called her the next day and she told him she was so trashed she didn't remember meeting him. LOL.

[QUOTE=JaxSince1982;2761237]I was out with my SO the other evening and as I'm sitting at the bar facing the door I see what I believed to be a provider I had seen 6 or 7 months ago. A wave of fear came over me as I didn't need any drama. As she got closer I realized I was mistaken. Whew!! Anyway that got me thinking. Jax is really a small town! Running into a provider when we are out and about can happen. How would I handle it? Well I never give my real name to a provider so there's that. Also I've managed not to piss off any of them so I don't believe they would have any reason so be confrontational if I were to ever run into one. So have any of you had a provider run in? If so how did you handle it?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=RedTalon;2761818]Yet another hypocrite, from your posts it appears you have only seen Missy. So, practice what you preach brother![/QUOTE]I only started my account here in July after a visit with Missy when she mentioned she couldn't login to Backpage. She mentioned this place specifically in her BP ads, so I made a review post here. I moved out of town less than a week later. Since then I have reviewed Erin, Amber, Mallory, Cara, Robyn, Olivia, and Cindy in my new town.

I post intel when I have it and I share intel when asked, and I don't disrespect mongers for TOFTT. I'm practicing what I preach all the way.

[QUOTE=JaxSince1982;2761237]I was out with my SO the other evening and as I'm sitting at the bar facing the door I see what I believed to be a provider I had seen 6 or 7 months ago. A wave of fear came over me as I didn't need any drama. As she got closer I realized I was mistaken. Whew!! Anyway that got me thinking. Jax is really a small town! Running into a provider when we are out and about can happen. How would I handle it? Well I never give my real name to a provider so there's that. Also I've managed not to piss off any of them so I don't believe they would have any reason so be confrontational if I were to ever run into one. So have any of you had a provider run in? If so how did you handle it?[/QUOTE]So I read your post and almost fell out of my recliner! It happened to me once years ago. I had a really cute little spinner that was flying under the radar. I had met her through another provider who was a friend of hers. She never advertized and I had seen 6 or 7 times. Anyway, we knew each others real names and had actually gotten pretty close. She was a real sweetheart and we really clicked. We actually began seeing other in a non-professional way. She knew I was married and I knew all about her boyfriend who had no idea what she was doing on the side. She actually still lived at home with her parents. She told me one day that she had taken a waitressing job for some extra money at the Woody's BBQ on Beach. It's no longer there BTW. One day after work my wife suggested that we meet at Woodys for dinner after work. I agreed bcuz my utr had told me that morning that she was not working that day. So I get there and walk in, see my wife and go sit down. Our waitress walks up and guess who it was? I almost shit my pants. But man did we both hold it together. The next day I called her up and we both laughed uncontrollably. She told me she had gotten called in that afternoon to cover for someone else. I continued to see this girl for another year till she moved to south florida. To this day, we still get together a couple of times a year.

I have thought about that encounter many times and if it had been any other girl it could have been a disaster.

[QUOTE=Quebec;2761761]Just a thought, but blocking the guys that make it so obvious that they are leeches, is a good solution. That way they can't' see your posts, and there is no value in us reading their posts.[/QUOTE]It never ceases to amaze me how quickly people invoke terms like "hypocrisy", justice, etc to rationalize their motives or behavior. Please note: I never invoked the TOFTT, I simply addressed "leeching" (those that take more than they give).

Also for those of you interested in insulting me or anyone else through imagery, it maybe wise to steer clear from using imagery that depicts a Special Needs Child. Aside from the obvious reasons: Its someone's child, an innocent being, special needs children are different but not less, your mom raised you better than that, etc.

Its the type of disparagement that differentiates humanity based on their physical characteristics rather than their contributions to society.

It is ineffective and immature use of imagery, but insightful about the sender.

A couple of additions to the ignore list for me.

I'm done with this topic.

J4 me.

This topic has evolved. It started with a reply I sent to LuckyGandor. I suggested he TOFTT and he replied back with some thing about he leaves that for the crazies. If you look back at his post you will see its all questions and commentary. Even yesterday he was throwing out questions.

I sent him Intel on my CL find. He wanted to know everything under the sun about her and more. And because he was a Senior I did. Most of it was through our person email. If you look back you can see that he confirms that she is real but he never really gave a review of her. I had asked him twice about her and he never replied back. I know he was in contact with her but I don't think he ever did partake. So what he did was really waste my time.

I give out digits and Intel in pm often. Some mongers never make reviews or they just end up being digit collectors. So I have decided stop wasting my time sharing with those who don't give back or how are not trusted members.

I hope this ends the TOFTT topic. I'm sure LuckyG won't have anything to say in reply to this post. He talks about sharing his Intel with others. He may have seen 2 providers and I question that number. With over 160 post you would expect to see some real reviews. Check for yourselves. He ain't a real monger. He just another troll.

CB1.

Any more questions LG?