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[QUOTE=AtlGuide;3746349]Has anyone here actually had a monthly allowance type arrangement? I don't think I could ever trust a girl to follow through with that.[/QUOTE]A flag would go up for me if they even asked for a month upfront. After I saw one girl a few times, she was strapped for money and we made a 2 visit deal and I paid upfront. It worked out fine, but I know she liked me and the sex and would have been stupid to go ghost on me.
[QUOTE=AtlGuide;3746349]Has anyone here actually had a monthly allowance type arrangement? I don't think I could ever trust a girl to follow through with that.[/QUOTE]After living in the "sugar bowl" for over 10 years, I have experienced all sorts of arrangements. The key to your question revolves around trust. When a SB requests an allowance up front (pay at start of month and meet during the month), once she has the money her benefit has been "booked". Your benefit is "deferred" and you expect it to be fulfilled during the month. In effect, it requires you to trust her, but she is not required to trust you.
As an aside, there can be several reasons why SB request their monthly allowance up front. The SA site (and many other sources) set that as the norm. The SB may be trying to minimize their own risk in getting stiffed (guys play and don't pay). The SB is just looking to take your cash and never meet (large score cash & dash). After the SB has the cash, she may try to change the arrangement to be more beneficial to her (less meetings, won't stay as long, limited activities). Some SBs need to keep the money and activities separate so they can avoid the transactional stigma (I. E. Feeling like its prostitution).
So, to keep from getting burned (and wasting my time), I use the following approach when a SB requests her allowance for the month up front (assuming its not for the last reason. There are other ways to address that).
I propose that they receive their monthly allowance at the end of the month in which we have met according to our arrangement. At this point, most scamming SBs disappear. Some SBs will claim that isn't fair to them since they have to trust that you will provide for them later. At this juncture, I point out that they proposed that I trust them when they wanted their allowance up front. So, if they aren't willing to trust me (pay at end of month), why should I trust them (pay at start of month). For those SBs too dense to understand this perspective, I don't want to involve myself with them and we part ways at that point. For those that understand the trust dilemma, I propose the "pay as we go" approach until such time as trust has been built.
Results: I successfully avoided those SBs that I wanted to avoid (scammers, dishonest, thieves, manipulators). Two SBs accepted the option of getting paid at the end of the month. Over 20 SBs went with the pay as you go approach. Of those, about half converted over to monthly allowance once trust was built. The others didn't convert over even though the trust was there (don't fix what ain't broke). Many of my arrangements have gone beyond 2 years and its split 50/50 on monthly versus per meet.
Every SB & situation is different so I don't try to make them all the same. I do what works for the two of us. However, I don't front the cash. Each SB knows what to expect from me and I deliver, as promised. They stay happy and I avoid requests for cash for all types of "emergencies" .
Hope the perspective and experience is helpful.
TrippinTB.
[QUOTE=Dickson13;3745345]Gentlemen:
Anyone sampled these?
1. [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/358a2179-8305-427d-adc1-a5fbdf271db9[/URL].
2. [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/ac510e97-bdc1-4ce0-a750-3873e0992039[/URL].
3. [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/1f263c01-99b7-4d41-abfd-71d8fbf7f53c[/URL].
Any info??[/QUOTE]I exchanged messages with the last one and she sent me a couple of weird texts and then I never heard from her. It seemed like she confused me with someone else and telling me about some unknown mannerism of mine that she thought was so cute. When I pointed out that we had never met, I never heard from her again. Could have been a mistake, but it was weird.
[QUOTE=Dickson13;3745345]Gentlemen:
Anyone sampled these?
1. [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/358a2179-8305-427d-adc1-a5fbdf271db9[/URL].
2. [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/ac510e97-bdc1-4ce0-a750-3873e0992039[/URL].
3. [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/1f263c01-99b7-4d41-abfd-71d8fbf7f53c[/URL].
Any info??[/QUOTE]I texted back and forth with no. 3 a few times also. Didn't seem to much of a vibe there. Too many others that are ready and willing to waste your time here.
[QUOTE=2me4Looking2;3735621]I use a google voice number for all of my texting and today I got a weird message telling me I can remove all of my information from online by going to [URL]guaranteedremoval.com[/URL]. At first I didn't think anything of it, but then I googled my number and sure enough it shows up on a [URL]predatorsalerts.com[/URL] site along with my SA profile pic and says I offer money for sex. The pic really is me, but my entire head is completely blurred and I've never used that pic anywhere online for it to show up in an image search. The one thing I find scary about this is that I have sent my real face pic via text, but I can guarantee that will now change. I'm very careful about my privacy, but it still doesn't sit very well to see that there even though it couldn't be traced back to my real identity.[/QUOTE]I wanted to follow up that I also submitted a remove request to Imgur and they took the picture down. The posting is still on the site, with the number, but the image is gone. Maybe if enough people request removals, Imgur will remove all of their content and block them. The entire site is a clear violation of the TOS.
This is the link to request removal. [URL]https://imgur.com/removalrequest[/URL].
In a browser, right click on the image from the site to get the direct imgur URL for the picture and give that to Imgur in the form. I'd also include a link to [URL]predatorsalerts.com[/URL] in the request.
Anyone have any luck with this one?
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/16709041-77bc-46bc-a491-c1e4f37b4ce2[/URL]
Was this one ever on the site? She's off the market now!
[URL]http://www.fox5atlanta.com/news/woman-convicted-of-running-over-sugar-daddy[/URL]
[QUOTE=Jeffinnatlanta;3752257]Was this one ever on the site? She's off the market now!
[URL]http://www.fox5atlanta.com/news/woman-convicted-of-running-over-sugar-daddy[/URL][/QUOTE]They met in a Walmart and he was only her sugar daddy for a week.
[QUOTE=Jeffinnatlanta;3752257]Was this one ever on the site? She's off the market now!
[URL]http://www.fox5atlanta.com/news/woman-convicted-of-running-over-sugar-daddy[/URL][/QUOTE]Naaw. I'm sure will still take on a new daddy from Cobb co jail, could get her for 50 a month and won't have to worry about taking her shopping for clothes LOL.
Pumped up the Fun fund, and now I have arrived on SA. Can anyone provide any recommendations or advice on hwo to message the girls? I've been reading some comments but I figure you dogs are keeping the prizes to yourselves! LOL.
[QUOTE=GeralToFrivia;3754142]Pumped up the Fun fund, and now I have arrived on SA. Can anyone provide any recommendations or advice on hwo to message the girls? I've been reading some comments but I figure you dogs are keeping the prizes to yourselves! LOL.[/QUOTE]Be respectful. Wait till she brings $ and expect to waste a lot of time.
Happy Hunting.
[URL]https://seekingarrangement.com/member/37d3a353-40b2-0910-62e7-b9f175d948ea[/URL]
Got in contact with this one and she is DTF. Quoted 1. 5. I'm passing but one of you guys may be interested.
I just joined myself and am overwhelmed. I had no idea how good the site is. I didn't do anything special, just used a realistic looking pic (I. E. Not good looking) and a short vague description. I looked at plenty of profiles but didn't favorite. I had dozens of Interests and maybe 15 women message me within 24 hours. The 2nd night I got straight up propositioned twice and chose to have a threesome with a 20 and 21 year old. I'm still recovering. I got half a dozen more messages yesterday and I didn't even log in. It's almost like those old PH Forum Letters: "I never thought this would happen to me. ".
Like Big Jay said, wait for them to mention $.
[QUOTE=GeralToFrivia;3754142]Pumped up the Fun fund, and now I have arrived on SA. Can anyone provide any recommendations or advice on hwo to message the girls? I've been reading some comments but I figure you dogs are keeping the prizes to yourselves! LOL.[/QUOTE]
I have had mostly good experiences on SA, but never forget many women are just plain nuts. I was talking to this one in North Ga earlier this year and seemed laid back and cool and a lot of fun. She sent me nude pics without me even asking, and then we talked about getting together. I was asking her about possible BBFS and she said I needed to use a condom at first, but then later in the conversation said "It's ok. You can nut in me".
I wanted to get up to N GA and do some hiking, so have been trying to wait for nice weather (and also when I wasn't banging one of my other SBs). I figured I would get a room and pick her up and take her there and back. We talked a lot at first and then just maybe once a week since then, but she was always cool. Well, she did ask me to send her some $ a couple of times, but I said no and would give her $200 allowance for the visit when we met up. She told me last week that she hadn't met anyone from SA yet, despite being on there at least three months.
So looks like I could finally meet her in a couple of days, and I messaged her and suddenly she goes off on me:
"Well I honestly don't even know if I want to mess around anymore. You're not serious about it or you would have already sent me some money. I sent you pictures of my body for free. You didn't even offerme 5 dollars. You've been playing with me. So I think I'm going to pass. I've been talking to you for months and you haven't sent me anything. You aren't much of a sugar daddy. I'm not wasting anymore time on you. Sorry. ".
WTF.
"I have men give me 200 dollars just to speak to me. I'm not sellinmyself short. I'm sorry but you're a cheap fuck. There is no way Iwould take just 200 dollar. That wouldn't pay one of my bills. 😬 so I have to find someone who has more time is closer and isn't so cheap. Good luck".
What a crazy chick. She doesn't even have her own place and has no car and she has no use for $200. Somehow I think it would take a good chunk out of one of her bills or just put it towards saving up for transportation. And she's not that hot either, although her body did look good.
It was just surprising and makes me think she is scared to actually meet someone in person. Or maybe she did just get annoyed that I wasn't sending her money for nothing the last couple of months. I can look at pics of naked women online for free, and I'm not going to pay for it. Well maybe if I was already seeing someone and was an excuse to send them more funds, while seeing some hot pics, I would do it, but not in this situation.
Anyway it's disappointing. And I'm not going to give out her contact info, because I don't want her to be rewarded for insulting me. I guess there were some red flags with her along the way but nothing major. But I just had to share that, even though not really useful intel.
Was reading reviews on the Backpage forum. Link to the BP add.
[URL]http://atlanta.backpage.com/WomenSee...-4014/93064032[/URL]
Link to th SA add.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/c1bb53e5-9b25-4746-af72-4931630b6973[/URL]
Look similar to me. Just an FYI. I have not seen her.
JS.