Female psychology & GPS
There's a lot of material on here about GPS and SBs. I recall a study from a few years back on how men and women differ (in regular dating) in how they choose partners. For guys, as long as a woman meets a certain minimum level of attractiveness, they will date them. Women are *way* more mercenary. They are fairly self-critical of their own attractiveness (measured in many ways. Face, body, intangibles) and evaluate it with some precision (ever hear a GF go on about some woman she sees out - 'she thinks she's all that? And then, once they have reached a conclusion about where they stand in their own global attractiveness heirarchy, they judge the guys they will date based on that. Their primary means of evaluating is, no surprise, $ (writ large. Career, home, car, security). How else does 70 YO Trump get a supermodel wife? But no amount of $ is sufficient to compensate for a guy who's a jerk to her, at least to a woman with self-respect (and if they have decided they are attractive, they are already there). Those GPS girls who stick to their guns about what they want to go to the FC are applying this process. They have decided what their worth is, in $, and it isn't likely to change. This is fairly independent of the local market for BP girls, etc. Of course, there are also their negotiating ploys. Ask for a big #, if you get it, great, negotiate if you have to down to what you view as your true value.
Of course, some SBs are on SA to meet a short-term financial need and they aren't really using the same process. However, I'd bet these thoughts do creep in.
Does anyone ever pay for M&G?
I am not a happy camper after how a recent M&G turned out. I connected with this pre-med student on SA two months ago. We planned to meet up couple times but it did not materialize as once she got caught up with some school assignment and the next time I called off as she picked an expensive club on a Saturday night for a M&G. That should have raised a red flag but I ignored it thinking that's how a 20 yo's are. When I canceled I indicated that I'd rather meet her casually first and if there's mutual interest take things to next level. After couple weeks silence she connected back asking if we can meet at a nice french coffee place that she discovered by her school. I was excited and said I'd love that. Then she asked me if I was OK with 250 per date. I told her 150 is my average and it really depends on the quality time we spend and what gets exchanged. To which she said I'll enjoy her company and she'll hang around as long it takes. LOL. All along I was thinking to myself she was open to FC though I didn't discuss specific details over the text messages. We met earlier this week. The place she picked was nice. She ordered her food and drinks. However, as I was trying to break ice and talk some interesting stuff she seemed pre-occupied and texting on and off keeping the phone on her lap. Again, I dismissed it as some sort of teenage addiction. About 30 minutes into the meeting I was losing the initial rush as she was getting distracted looking at her phone every minute or so. I was waiting for her to finish up her food so I can suggest to her that we sit or go for a drive in the car and talk for better privacy. Then suddenly she goes OMG did you see this? Pushing her phone in front of my face. There was couple text messages that was supposedly from her friend saying that the water broke and my sb should drive her to the hospital as soon as possible. She said I'm sooo sorry but I got to go take care of my friend. I even offered to drive to her friend's place so she can get there quickly instead of walking all the way. She blinked for few secs then goes no worries its not too far from here I can walk there within a few minutes. I felt bad she has to rush without finishing her drink. Then I gave her a hug saying I'll be in touch and schedule another meet later. Then she goes, ok then can I have my 150 now? I am like 150 for what? She now slightly raises her voice and says "for the meet" you agreed right? I said but we just met and didn't exchange anything really. Then she makes an astonished face and says she is not that sort of a person. Now I was working up an anger and also getting embarrassed thinking other folks are watching all this play out from behind my back. I check my emotions and calmy took back my seat and went back to eating my crepe. She raises her voice slightly again coming closer I'm sorry I need to go. Can you give it to me quick? I laugh sarcastically and tell her sorry No. Then she tells me that she understands that it was rather too quick so she will consider a 100 or even 50. I calmly tell her "No Again. You are mistaken". Now it was her turn to feel embarrassed and she mumbled something and walked out awkwardly. I just sat there nursing myself with couple more drinks reflecting how the whole episode panned out. At one point during the discussion she talked about the few SDs she met through SA and how they enjoyed her company. I am assuming they perhaps paid her for the M&G and didn't really get to take her to FC. I don't know why anyone would pay for a M&G but the way she went about it makes me think that she had pulled this successfully before. Anyways, I didn't intend to rant so much but I guess I learned my lesson and feel much better now.
