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I have met quite a few women on seeking but I haven't slept with any of them. I am married and in need of some intimacy. The girls on seeking find me attractive and are ready for an arrangement but I always question whether they will actually be exclusive if I ask them. I see many of you asking to sleep with women without protection. How are you gauging if this will be safe? Do you ask them about it? Are you on an HIV preventative medication for this lifestyle? I want to be able to get out of my compulsiveness about diseases but what can I do? Please don't be mean about your answers, as this is a serious question for me. Thanks so much!!

[QUOTE=JonFisher;6571540]Did you see her. Anyone else has any info?[/QUOTE]I've seen her a bunch in the past. Still surprises me that she gives out her real name. Cool girl. Can PM for details if you want.

[QUOTE=RudyWellz;6572517]We met, hit it off and had a few "dates". Thought is was going well. She then ended our arrangement in favor of "civilian dating". Profile is not active to me. Wonder if her profile is active to others, or if she's really off Seeking?[/QUOTE]Just set up another profile without any pics and limited info. It only will take you a few minutes and you can check out who blocked you. That's how I found out a girl that told me she is civilian dating continued to be on Seeking.

[QUOTE=VictorSmitham;6572521]I have met quite a few women on seeking but I haven't slept with any of them. I am married and in need of some intimacy. The girls on seeking find me attractive and are ready for an arrangement but I always question whether they will actually be exclusive if I ask them. I see many of you asking to sleep with women without protection. How are you gauging if this will be safe? Do you ask them about it? Are you on an HIV preventative medication for this lifestyle? I want to be able to get out of my compulsiveness about diseases but what can I do? Please don't be mean about your answers, as this is a serious question for me. Thanks so much!![/QUOTE]I am married 20+ years and in need of intimacy too. You are not unique. Overwhelmingly, SB's are not looking for exclusivity from us. In general, they get cash / experiences from us, and we get sex / intimacy from them. They get their companionship (boyfriends / future husbands) from younger, civilian guys, not SD's. Of course there are outlier experiences, but this is The Game.

Everyone has their own appetite for sexual risks. You do what makes you comfortable, and don't let anyone's risk tolerance (mine is high. I hate condoms) affect your choices. If you don't want any diseases, use condoms. Easy and problem solved. My experience, is just that. My own unique experience, and it shouldn't be extrapolated. I've had predominantly unprotected sex in the sugarbowl for 10 years and remain disease free. Try to make intelligent choices. Whatever that means. Maybe I'm lucky? Maybe next week, my fortune changes. I am willing to take that risk.

[QUOTE=RudyWellz;6572621]I am married 20+ years and in need of intimacy too. You are not unique. Overwhelmingly, SB's are not looking for exclusivity from us. In general, they get cash / experiences from us, and we get sex / intimacy from them. They get their companionship (boyfriends / future husbands) from younger, civilian guys, not SD's. Of course there are outlier experiences, but this is The Game.

Everyone has their own appetite for sexual risks. You do what makes you comfortable, and don't let anyone's risk tolerance (mine is high. I hate condoms) affect your choices. If you don't want any diseases, use condoms. Easy and problem solved. My experience, is just that. My own unique experience, and it shouldn't be extrapolated. I've had predominantly unprotected sex in the sugarbowl for 10 years and remain disease free. Try to make intelligent choices. Whatever that means. Maybe I'm lucky? Maybe next week, my fortune changes. I am willing to take that risk.[/QUOTE]Thanks so much, Rudy. It's tough man. Some of these seeking girls are so damn hot. I've met some 8's and 9's for sure but can't seem to get out of my own head and pull the trigger. I'm 42 years old, been married 15 years and haven't had sex with my wife more than 50 times in all those years. There is only so much you can do on your own or visit only so many massage parlors for a handy. I'm scared as hell to bring some disease home. Maybe I don't know enough about communicable or blood borne diseases which is making me more nervous than I should be. Even with the use of condoms. Some of the girls I've met actually say they prefer exclusive arrangements and are asking for anywhere between $400 - $800 PPM or $2,500 - a whopping $7,000 for an exclusive monthly arrangement!! Who knows if they are saying the same to multiple SDs. I don't have time to date in the traditional sense or go on Tinder, Bumble or the other umpteen dating sites. I really appreciate your being so candid and wish you all the best.

[QUOTE=VictorSmitham;6572521]I have met quite a few women on seeking but I haven't slept with any of them. I am married and in need of some intimacy. The girls on seeking find me attractive and are ready for an arrangement but I always question whether they will actually be exclusive if I ask them. I see many of you asking to sleep with women without protection. How are you gauging if this will be safe? Do you ask them about it? Are you on an HIV preventative medication for this lifestyle? I want to be able to get out of my compulsiveness about diseases but what can I do? Please don't be mean about your answers, as this is a serious question for me. Thanks so much!![/QUOTE]I am new to this SD game, only been like 9 months in (but I have also read lots of great posts here and in the Richmond forum). I have a met a few (one which I still see since I started this), and in my experience, they are not interested in being "exclusive". They make more money by having multiple SD's that give them either average allowances or just PPM. They only need to have a Part-Time job if they maintain these type of arrangements. If you want to be exclusive, then get ready to pay a very high allowance and you have to see the SB very frequently otherwise she will still go around with other guys to make even more cash. Most of these girls are in this lifestyle because they need the money and would not date you if it was not for that reason. Even if they do like you, as is my current case, the girl might not want an actual boyfriend, so she won't commit to being exclusive. The fact that the relationship started with money already puts a barrier in them liking for "real". There are exemptions, but I am just stating the norm.

As far as protection goes. You be the judge of that, I have done without it and thankfully disease free. I just get to know the girl a bit and ask for test results. It did not happen for me until at least the 2nd or 3rd meet. Although it's never 100% safe since she is sleeping around with others, sometimes you just take the risk and go with it. I think of it as the same as meeting someone at a bar and then sleeping with them. Many times people forget to use protection cause they are drunk. Just wear protection in the beginning and see how things from there.

[QUOTE=AnonDemon69;6572650]I am new to this SD game, only been like 9 months in (but I have also read lots of great posts here and in the Richmond forum). I have a met a few (one which I still see since I started this), and in my experience, they are not interested in being "exclusive". They make more money by having multiple SD's that give them either average allowances or just PPM. They only need to have a Part-Time job if they maintain these type of arrangements. If you want to be exclusive, then get ready to pay a very high allowance and you have to see the SB very frequently otherwise she will still go around with other guys to make even more cash. Most of these girls are in this lifestyle because they need the money and would not date you if it was not for that reason. Even if they do like you, as is my current case, the girl might not want an actual boyfriend, so she won't commit to being exclusive. The fact that the relationship started with money already puts a barrier in them liking for "real". There are exemptions, but I am just stating the norm.

As far as protection goes. You be the judge of that, I have done without it and thankfully disease free. I just get to know the girl a bit and ask for test results. It did not happen for me until at least the 2nd or 3rd meet. Although it's never 100% safe since she is sleeping around with others, sometimes you just take the risk and go with it. I think of it as the same as meeting someone at a bar and then sleeping with them. Many times people forget to use protection cause they are drunk. Just wear protection in the beginning and see how things from there.[/QUOTE]Thanks so much for that AnonDemon. I met this super sexy half Chinese half Thai hottie. We have great phone chemistry, she finds me attractive, and she wants to do an exclusive but is asking for an insane amount. $5 k + gifts. I live an hour from her so we would be able to meet maybe once every week or two. But you're right. What would stop.

Her from making more money with another SD on that days she doesn't meet with me? I don't think I can do this. It's a lot of money and that trust will never be there.

Has anyone tried both? Which one is better?

[QUOTE=VictorSmitham;6572521]I have met quite a few women on seeking but I haven't slept with any of them. I am married and in need of some intimacy. The girls on seeking find me attractive and are ready for an arrangement but I always question whether they will actually be exclusive if I ask them. I see many of you asking to sleep with women without protection. How are you gauging if this will be safe? Do you ask them about it? Are you on an HIV preventative medication for this lifestyle? I want to be able to get out of my compulsiveness about diseases but what can I do? Please don't be mean about your answers, as this is a serious question for me. Thanks so much!![/QUOTE]I was in the same boat as you, 17 years, no intimacy, sought sex with SBs. Relationship ended, am in a much better one, sex better but still not ideal (she looks like Barbie and is a nympho because she has trouble cumming but she gives the best BJs), but sex never is except in rare cases. I find it would have been better to work on my real relationship than have a fake sex-based one with SBs. It all depends on what you want, sex with a variety of women, or work on existing real relationship with spouse / gf and make it better but SBs don't really give you real intimacy. They are in it for the money and you are paying them for sex, different dynamic which will never change and translate into a real relationship. Am sure some have progressed their SB relationship into a permanent real one but I'd say more the exception than the norm.

[QUOTE=VictorSmitham;6572521]I have met quite a few women on seeking but I haven't slept with any of them. I am married and in need of some intimacy. The girls on seeking find me attractive and are ready for an arrangement but I always question whether they will actually be exclusive if I ask them. I see many of you asking to sleep with women without protection. How are you gauging if this will be safe? Do you ask them about it? Are you on an HIV preventative medication for this lifestyle? I want to be able to get out of my compulsiveness about diseases but what can I do? Please don't be mean about your answers, as this is a serious question for me. Thanks so much!![/QUOTE]Here is a scenario: single mother, professional, looks banging hot, and works 9 to 5 and has the baby to take care of. Not looking for a relationship nor has the time or energy. Lives close by. Sneak over for a night and put her to sleep after good sex. Bring her breakfast and have nice sex and she is refreshed to go to work. Keep her happy, until you see signals that she is getting clingy or wants a real boyfriend or husband. Typically can last few years.

[QUOTE=VictorSmitham;6572718]Thanks so much for that AnonDemon. I met this super sexy half Chinese half Thai hottie. We have great phone chemistry, she finds me attractive, and she wants to do an exclusive but is asking for an insane amount. $5 k + gifts. I live an hour from her so we would be able to meet maybe once every week or two. But you're right. What would stop.

Her from making more money with another SD on that days she doesn't meet with me? I don't think I can do this. It's a lot of money and that trust will never be there.[/QUOTE]Yes, $5 k is insane, don't do it. I been reading that most hot SB's that get allowance don't get more than $2. 5 K to $3 K. This would mean that they meet weekly or more sometimes. I would stick to PPM and keep it under $500. My current one ranges from $300 to $400, depends on my mood and her performance LOL. These girls like to try to up the price and then take advantage of the person. Some times they try to charge more if you are older since they know you have more cash. Start with PPM, meet a few times a month, then after a few months move on to allowance if you like her. Think of it this way, the first few times (maybe 10 to 20?) you have sex feels more thrilling than later on. Maybe the thrill wears out and then you can move on to another and keep on doing PPM. I am about to move on now because the sex is starting to feel just like regular sex. Also, I wouldn't worry too much about diseases with uncovered Oral. At least get a BBJ from some of these girls that you are meeting.

[QUOTE=VictorSmitham;6572521]I have met quite a few women on seeking but I haven't slept with any of them. I am married and in need of some intimacy. The girls on seeking find me attractive and are ready for an arrangement but I always question whether they will actually be exclusive if I ask them. I see many of you asking to sleep with women without protection. How are you gauging if this will be safe? Do you ask them about it? Are you on an HIV preventative medication for this lifestyle? I want to be able to get out of my compulsiveness about diseases but what can I do? Please don't be mean about your answers, as this is a serious question for me. Thanks so much!![/QUOTE]1) They are not going to be exclusive. Too much money to made and no over sight. Why make 2000 a month when I can make 4000 a month. I have not had an arrangement last more than 2 years because it gets boring. Yours will too. Some do after 2 months. Once she has the cash no reason to earn it. Headaches, got busy with family and friends, stuck at work. The excuses pile up pretty quick usually by month 2.

2) get tested regularly. I had one scare (sb texted me). I got away clean. Trust your gut. Always ask if what BC they are on. Have plan b ready just in case. If they hit with the pregnancy thing plenty of advice here.

3) this game has risk. Accept and play or don't and be safe. Both are valid options.

4) don't stick it in crazy or even if you think crazy might happen.

5)always exceptions to all rules and patterns.

[QUOTE=VictorSmitham;6572521]I have met quite a few women on seeking but I haven't slept with any of them. I am married and in need of some intimacy. The girls on seeking find me attractive and are ready for an arrangement but I always question whether they will actually be exclusive if I ask them. I see many of you asking to sleep with women without protection. How are you gauging if this will be safe? Do you ask them about it? Are you on an HIV preventative medication for this lifestyle? I want to be able to get out of my compulsiveness about diseases but what can I do? Please don't be mean about your answers, as this is a serious question for me. Thanks so much!![/QUOTE]I've had some gems and some fails and you will too. I have twice had SB's that where things were exclusive, as in they enjoyed our time and the money was just a bonus, but that is hard to repeat. You have to be a good judge of character and a bit of a sleuth. Just like civy dating, start with rubbers and once trust is earned move to more intimate arrangements.

[QUOTE=Tophat31;6572493]If you are blocked then you can access messages but not the profile. Tried a few times. There has been references to former usernames, didn't record them as it has been many years. Liberty university? No idea.

However here are the text photos. Have fun.[/QUOTE]Anyone still have contacts with this girl? Nobody has posted an SA link so I can't reach out to her.

Does anyone know if those Vanilla prepaid cards work with SugarDaddyMeet?

Want to be sure before I run out and buy one. Thanks.