"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

Click the icon of two bodies on the upper right hand screen next to the chat box icon. A list of "people you might know should appear".

Fb's logarithym for how they generate this is a tightly held secret, but for the most part should be relatively common sense. I suspect if you clicked on a profile, then fb will recommend you as someone that the person might know.

If you never used your real name, have a burner phone layered with GV, never brought a SB back to your house, don't have pictures of you, your so, your kids and your dog in the profile pic, and set your privacy filters to the highest and strongest settings, you won't have a problem.

You may need to explain to your so why you changed your profile pics to just the dog, but that's better than getting stalked by a crazy SB.

[QUOTE=StormyTuesday;2957287]Unless another brother has information otherwise I can say IMO they cannot determine you visited their FB page. Not only did I research this topic a few years ago bc of similar concerns, I recently started a 2nd FB account under my SA name. I have viewed my original account page from my 2nd account and saw no notifications of being viewed.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2957452]Based on what you've typed, I suspect she already knows. There are a lot of ways they can find us out, just like we find out things about them sometimes.

Back when I was married, it was a long time before FB or any of that, I was always amazed that most of these girls just knew, after a few weeks of regular banging. These were girls you'd call a mix of civvy and SB, basically niteclub pickups that are looking for a bf with a nice job and regularly complain about money problems (actual sugar help optional but appreciated). The thing is in the first week or so, they didn't care or inquire or think about it. After a couple of weeks they would get more attached and then soon after the friction always seemed to build up, resulting in them crying, saying "damnit I know you're married why don't you just admit it?" and stuff like that.

My point is if you see them regularly they build increasing attachment and interest in you. I think yours is at the point where she's just starting to wonder (but maybe already knows). So I don't see a big benefit in keeping her going, what's the worst that can happen if you tell her the truth? Very worst she says she is looking for an SD that can grow into a real relationship or something, at which point you cut her loose and just get a new one. But yeah it's okay that you lied about it before, just say something like you're still in denial about the whole thing and were not ready to cope with it on the surface until now or something to that effect. She might get pissed but I doubt it, and at least you've nipped any future uncomfortable attachment in the bud.[/QUOTE]Jeez. I have always felt I owe you a beer if we ever have the opportunity to meet, but I am now upgrading that statement to a steak dinner at the restaurant of your choice. Once again you have come through not only in a much appreciated timely fashion but with another "nail on the head" opinion. Thank you. Seriously.

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2957434]For LI, almost certainly yes, to the best of my knowledge a LI user will see everyone that directly viewed them (unless they've made a change here). About FB, I'm not sure, there was a time that it was putting people that had viewed you repeatedly into "people you may know", so based on what I saw there, there could be enough for her to see your pic come up there. I'd like to give more certain answers here, but the nature of social media is that they are constantly making changes, so the way it worked the last time I experimented with them may not be the way they work tomorrow.

What I'd recommend is get in the habit of only looking at them in private mode in a browser (at a minimum), ensuring that whatever browser you are using isn't tracking you across those sites. To be really safe have a dedicated computer for your "play" activities or set up a virtual machine (depending how technical you want to get) to separate your SD fun from regular computing.

And this one is going to sting a little, but if you value your SO, I'd just call off any existing POTS that you may have accidentally revealed your identity to, because once they know who you are you can never take it back. There will be plenty of SBs in the future. But now you need to be extra careful, because a lot of the SBs you talk to have friends on the site you may also have already corresponded to, so you may be talking to one that you've stayed anonymous to, but then she shares a picture with one of her friends you talked to before that saw your LI or FB profile.[/QUOTE]I concluded pretty much the same. I was trying to get intel yesterday on a POT who's very public. Too public for my comfort, and maybe a ball-buster. I also searched for a new 22 yo POT today and hit her LI profile. LinkedIn on my machines has a weird property that even if I logged out, it seems to be on if I go to the URL. I don't recall which browser. Likely on private, but. So, I can't be sure about the risk. I spent a lot of time on LI to see if I could suspend, but there's no way to do that, so I just shut the thing down. Provided they weren't on their linked ins, I believe I won't show up even if it did record me. I don't have any inkling that these SBs would be in contact with any others. My spread geographically is large.

[QUOTE=IluvSmellyFish;2957546]Click the icon of two bodies on the upper right hand screen next to the chat box icon. A list of "people you might know should appear".

Fb's logarithym for how they generate this is a tightly held secret, but for the most part should be relatively common sense. I suspect if you clicked on a profile, then fb will recommend you as someone that the person might know.

If you never used your real name, have a burner phone layered with GV, never brought a SB back to your house, don't have pictures of you, your so, your kids and your dog in the profile pic, and set your privacy filters to the highest and strongest settings, you won't have a problem.

You may need to explain to your so why you changed your profile pics to just the dog, but that's better than getting stalked by a crazy SB.[/QUOTE]I did click those two bodies and get a great list of people who could be friends. Even better, FB lists why in many cases (mutual friends, etc.). Some have nothing listed, which must be b / c I visited their page, making it easy to find the risky ones. So that is extremely helpful to know if I was on her page. It she's not there, it wasn't while I was logged into my own FB.

[QUOTE=StormyTuesday;2957588]Jeez. I have always felt I owe you a beer if we ever have the opportunity to meet, but I am now upgrading that statement to a steak dinner at the restaurant of your choice. Once again you have come through not only in a much appreciated timely fashion but with another "nail on the head" opinion. Thank you. Seriously.[/QUOTE]Glad to help when I can.

[QUOTE=FarFarAway;2957612]I concluded pretty much the same. I was trying to get intel yesterday on a POT who's very public. Too public for my comfort, and maybe a ball-buster. I also searched for a new 22 yo POT today and hit her LI profile. LinkedIn on my machines has a weird property that even if I logged out, it seems to be on if I go to the URL. I don't recall which browser. Likely on private, but. So, I can't be sure about the risk. I spent a lot of time on LI to see if I could suspend, but there's no way to do that, so I just shut the thing down. Provided they weren't on their linked ins, I believe I won't show up even if it did record me. I don't have any inkling that these SBs would be in contact with any others. My spread geographically is large.[/QUOTE]Sounds like the LI thing is just due to a site cookie. One thing you can do is just create another user account on your computer to keep all your SD activity separate. That way the website cookies won't intermingle and you can change the desktop background to help keep remember which one you're using at any given time. Just make sure SO doesn't have password to that account and that you can explain it away if she ever uses that computer.

I can't imagine that profiles before being revised are saved. Can you imagine the server space necessary for that?

I also mess with my "stats. ". One profile was revised to make me an overweight man of Mideast descent who is under 5 ft tall. That profile was making millions per year and is willing to provide an allowance at the "high" expectation level.

It continues to receive messages from pots that are looking to land their white whale.

[QUOTE=BikeRider;2957305]I do the same. It's unlikely they're saving revisions of profiles so the last one sticks.[/QUOTE]

I am about lite sugar. I f I have an interest and I think she has potential to be a 1-1 SB. I will give maybe a small gift card after our first meet and mention I enjoyed meeting her and here is a little something so she knows I am serious about seeing her again. I mean along the lines of $25 . Heck. Even a gas card. If they are a genuine SB9 My definition being looking for 1 SD) then they are happy with the gift and a rue SB will likely take 3+ meets before bedding.

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2957194]FWIW I think you're approaching it fine already. As long as you remember the golden rule of no sugar from you until you get sugar from them, you won't have to worry about getting burned. Just turn a blind eye to the ones that want money just to meet for dinner or whatever. You'll develop your own style. For example I never get into money negotiations, I just gift them after the fact, but plenty of others do and it works for them.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=LikeMike1963;2958598]I am about lite sugar. I f I have an interest and I think she has potential to be a 1-1 SB. I will give maybe a small gift card after our first meet and mention I enjoyed meeting her and here is a little something so she knows I am serious about seeing her again. I mean along the lines of $25 . Heck. Even a gas card. If they are a genuine SB9 My definition being looking for 1 SD) then they are happy with the gift and a rue SB will likely take 3+ meets before bedding.[/QUOTE]Yeah if it's working for you, then keep on keeping on. By no sugar up front I just meant no big payments just for showing up at the dinner table or whatever. I should probably disclose that it's not uncommon for me to spend $150 or more on dinner and drinks before we ever enter the FC, half of which is consumed by me, which to some extent could be considered sugar before the FC.

Tell me about the terms you are using (SB9, rue SB, 1-1 SB). I don't spend much time on USASG outside of this thread (and even this I sometimes go weeks without following), so if there are terms for categorizing SBs that are picking up momentum I'd be interested in either a summary or a link.

Just logged on for the first time in months. Good to see some of the old timers still here!

What an informative thread this is, gentlemen.

I have my fake FB page with fake pictures and fake profile. Never visit anyone in my real world from that page. Unlike a lot of you, I keep a tight stable and don't wander too much. I have a few friends here in RIC, a couple in MB and a few have scattered across the country. Only had one go rogue on me and had to be deleted.

One of my babies is bi and her friend was having some money problems. She suggested the three of us get together for some afternoon delight. I gave her some cash and she checked us into a local notel. She actually told the desk clerk we only needed the room for a couple hours. Since then the three of us have made it a regular thing. My SB is tall, thin with a beautiful face and ass. Pierced nipples are an added bonus. Her friend is five foot nothin and a true tight spinner. And a model to boot.

I don't deserve this, my friends.

FB is a fine place to keep your babies if you want to keep them for a while.

Hello All,

I want to share my todays experience. I chatted with 20 year BOS college girl, red head, slim, 5. 6. Her pics were awesome. We chatted and decided to meet after 1 hour. She gave a figure of 200 to 300 and I offered 200 for 2-3 hours visit. She agreed. I booked a room and drove to hotel. I agreed to book a uber taxi for her as she can't afford (she told me). She only asked to exchange our numbers and then we texted with updates. At the last minute, she said she can only stay for 30-1 hour. I said we need to be more or may be we can book another time. She apologized me and said meet next week and in 5 min deactivated the profile. She had joined sA yesterday. I realized she was panicked or someone suggest her she can get more money.

Then I texted her and asked if she is not interested so that I won't text. She replied she is not interested.

Seniors. Any suggestion? What could be gone wrong or this happens?

Thanks in advance for reading this.

Hello Seniors- I have read multiple threads abouts meet & greet allowance. In may boston area, I see many girls ask for that. I haven't given anyone so far so they don't meet me. Not sure what I will do. Don't know if people in my area give this allowance. Few girls ask pre-meet allowance to legitimize. Not sure what to do.

I appreciate any tip.

Thanks!!

[QUOTE=CoolRaj;2958859]Hello Seniors- I have read multiple threads abouts meet & greet allowance. In may boston area, I see many girls ask for that. I haven't given anyone so far so they don't meet me. Not sure what I will do. Don't know if people in my area give this allowance. Few girls ask pre-meet allowance to legitimize. Not sure what to do.

I appreciate any tip.

Thanks!![/QUOTE]When I was working the bowl on a regular basis I had two SBs ask for sugar after a nice meal. I told them I had some sugar at home if they would like to hang out. When they said no thanks I assumed it was a rinse job.

She flake out, she is 20. I see many girls who I message deactivate their profiles within a week or two. $200 may have been too cheap for 2-3 hours, I know that is a perfect dream here and I live in a poorer area than Boston.

[QUOTE=CoolRaj;2958854]Hello All,

I want to share my todays experience. I chatted with 20 year BOS college girl, red head, slim, 5. 6. Her pics were awesome. We chatted and decided to meet after 1 hour. She gave a figure of 200 to 300 and I offered 200 for 2-3 hours visit. She agreed. I booked a room and drove to hotel. I agreed to book a uber taxi for her as she can't afford (she told me). She only asked to exchange our numbers and then we texted with updates. At the last minute, she said she can only stay for 30-1 hour. I said we need to be more or may be we can book another time. She apologized me and said meet next week and in 5 min deactivated the profile. She had joined sA yesterday. I realized she was panicked or someone suggest her she can get more money.

Then I texted her and asked if she is not interested so that I won't text. She replied she is not interested.

Seniors. Any suggestion? What could be gone wrong or this happens?

Thanks in advance for reading this.[/QUOTE]

They are my own terms. LOL. SB) was a typo. Just meant SB 1-1 is meaning I look for a monogamous situation with my SB.

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2958650]Yeah if it's working for you, then keep on keeping on. By no sugar up front I just meant no big payments just for showing up at the dinner table or whatever. I should probably disclose that it's not uncommon for me to spend $150 or more on dinner and drinks before we ever enter the FC, half of which is consumed by me, which to some extent could be considered sugar before the FC.

Tell me about the terms you are using (SB9, rue SB, 1-1 SB). I don't spend much time on USASG outside of this thread (and even this I sometimes go weeks without following), so if there are terms for categorizing SBs that are picking up momentum I'd be interested in either a summary or a link.[/QUOTE]