Sorry, didn't see this until just now
[QUOTE=Francis Eight;1394010]Was wondering. When you do the out of town thing, how specific are you about what you want and are willing to spend?[/QUOTE]I am very circumspect in my initial contact with OTR babies. My opening line is this "I may be way off base here, and if I am I sincerely apologize, but I am an experienced SD from the Chicago area, and I will be in "X" next week for business and was wondering if you might like to meet for drinks and perhaps dinner one night." As has been pointed out before, you are not contacting someone on Match. Com. The two of you are on an SD / SB website, so you both know the subtext.
If I get a reply in the positive, I judge from her language whether to mention, in a very discreet manner, that the night could end agreeably for us both. Many have come right out and asked if there is the possibility for something more beyond dinner, to which I always reply in the affirmative. I never mention the amount of sugar at this stage, and some never bring it up at all. I have thought about why this might be, since virtually all my home-town babies are keenly interested in the subject, but I just can't figure it out. Maybe if they don't refer to it with what is essentially a one-night stand, it doesn't feel like hooking? Don't know, don't care really, as long as there are panties on the floor!
I have used this approach over and over, and, except for one spectacular strike out, it always works, and now I have a phone full of babies to call in 5 cities I travel to for work. Got to love that!
Again, sorry to have missed this, and hope it proves helpful.
Don't forget to write,
Scott