Plus all the secondary accounts
[QUOTE=TnaHunter2014;5644237]Starting to think Rex is fishing. And we are the fish? No one in the hobby for 20 plus years can be this aggressively naive? Right?
Rex, if your dying to have a kid and tons of family law problems, just meet a girl online or do a mail order bride. It sounds like you might have some disposable income. There are tons of skanks who will gladly. Ughhh I'm falling for it. Yeah he's definitely a troll. Or maybe a provider playing games.[/QUOTE]Yea that and all the accounts he creates and makes one or two posts on.
But you can't hide your DNA
[QUOTE=GreatdDane269;5643188]Just curious, but why would anyone participate in this using their real name, phone, etc? I take great care in distancing my persona here from my real life, I always assumed everyone else would as well.[/QUOTE]There have been cases where DNA samples from 23 andMe and [URL]ancestry.com[/URL] have been used to identify biological fathers. So you can't really escape it.
In my case, I was acting reasonably and in good faith to do the right thing. I insisted that everything be handled above board on supporting the kid and she freaked out and absconded. According to my attorneys even if she came back later and asked for child support there was a pretty low upper limit on how much the courts would award her. Given that this all happened quite some time ago my liability is very limited and I don't worry much about it.
Two additional things: about a year after she absconded I hired a skip tracer to track her down and he easily found her, I was able to do a document request from the state she was in and get a copy of the birth certificate. No father was identified on the birth certificate. The other thing was some months later I spoke to another provider who knew her well and she filled me in on some salacious details -- mainly that she was hitting up several customers and a couple of boyfriends for money as well, and several of them were still paying her as of that time. I helpfully passed on the information to that provider so she could helpfully pass that information onto her other victims.
So she was a filthy scammer.
Not a troll. More of a Lost Soul
[QUOTE=TnaHunter2014;5644237]Starting to think Rex is fishing. And we are the fish? No one in the hobby for 20 plus years can be this aggressively naive? Right?
Rex, if your dying to have a kid and tons of family law problems, just meet a girl online or do a mail order bride. It sounds like you might have some disposable income. There are tons of skanks who will gladly. Ughhh I'm falling for it. Yeah he's definitely a troll. Or maybe a provider playing games.[/QUOTE]A troll is someone who makes stuff up.
I call myself more of a "Lost Soul. ".
Mail order brides: What is an attractive early 20's girl, going to want with a Yankee hitting 50, who looks like Mr. Fernortner (the Minit Lube commercials: The radiator. It radiates things)? I actually found out about an American man who got a Filipino mail order bride, still in her 20's, and already had a kid of her own. Not what I have in mind.
How could I hobby for 20 years, and be so naive about certain things? Not being lucky enough to fall into being informed. Just as two examples, I did NOT know until 2020, that BBFS was the NORM at places like Euro Touch, Kings, and VIP. Also, not until 2020, did I know that BBFS could be had in Seattle at places like KAngels.
I want to have my cake and eat it: I want to "score this on my internal scoreboard," and NOT deal with family law problems. For anyone who calls me selfish for that, well, me and BILLIONS of others are selfish, too. My attitude is, Screw it, everybody else does such and such action, why shouldn't I?
Bandwaggoner, is another word that always described me.
Her kids. Proves my point
[QUOTE=WonderGuy69;5644789]Same here. I do have her mom's number when I met her once at her mom's house but I'm leaving it there. She always figure out the best ways for herself and her kids and hoping this time it will be stable enough to have a better life. She's the only few providers I know for years that got me close enough to their personal life. We treated each other like just buddies with benefits. Will absolutely miss her and also I really hope she's doing very well.[/QUOTE]This is not directed at Wonderguy.
Yet another "her kids. ".
I think that proves my point (for my opinion on things).
Disagreement is fine. Misbelief is not with me.
I can totally accept those who disagree with me on this "wanting to be a parent" thing.
The worst thing? For someone to say, or even think "I think Rex is really single and childless, and happy and content with it. I think that this "desired parenthood" is all an act that he's putting on. ".
It's equivalent to, whether at work, or even playing a sport, "You can question my effectiveness, but never question my effort. ".
As for anybody who thinks I've "made anything up" that I've posted, especially the parenthood thing: I don't have that creative of an imagination.