"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2919909]

This one is much lower in priority than the first two, because honestly I don't get a chance to do it often enough. When I used to spend a lot of time in bars, and was involved in a lot of civy dating sites, I used to do it regularly because I was in the presence of random women often. I don't do either much these days, so the best opportunity I have is if I go somewhere to get a bite to eat and end up with a cute waitress, and even that seems few and far between. The last time I went into a Hooters alone for a sandwich I had a cute waitress that was a perfect prospect, and as I was planning my approach she got a phone call from her father who apparently chewed her out, and she spent the remaining hour balling her eyes out and barely doing her job. I had zero windows of opportunity, it happens.

The basic idea is just to practice steering the conversation where you want it to go. In civy dating circles (websites / bars) you might find this results in a lot of dates from "needy" girls that aren't really SBs per se but could easily flip. If you go randomly into restaurants you'll find results few and far between, but keep in mind the point of this is NOT to get laid. It's not even to come out of the restaurant with her phone number.

The goal is simply to get her to exhibit the behavior you planned for her to. For example, the last thing a waitress should be doing is complaining to customers about money, so if you can get her to do this, you've pulled her out of her professional zone and into your world, even if only for a moment. And that is a victory in itself (if you do actually get a phone number and get laid that's great, but honestly even though servers make great SBs, hitting on them while they're working is not really the best of plans). The win is simply in the act of intentionally causing some behavioral effect. Setting a goal then making it happen, particularly if that goal is contrary to her normal behavior, is affirmation that you're able to make things happen conversationally.

Once you become very adept at making those things happen, you will be better at more advanced techniques like invoking reactance and ego regression (see post #11359 for more on ego regression). I will write more about reactance and reverse psychology at a later date, but all of these techniques work in conjunction with each other.[/QUOTE]I'm going to respectfully disagree on the priority here. I always talk up women regardless of where I am. I have no intentions of "picking them up" (although it happens some times). I do it to be comfortable to talking to women, and hot women in general. I've found if I can get them to laugh, then you're usually on the right path.

The pick-up community (PUA) such as Mystery, Ross Jeffries, David DeAngelo, Mehow, Hypnotica, LoveDrop, all have different approaches and styles. Find what works (and feels good for you), and slowly start to apply it with the women you meet. It won't happen fast, but you'll be surprised what happens when you become comfortable with hot women.

As an aside, I don't practice on strippers. They just don't interest me. I focus on flight attendants, and sales women at very high end stores for practice.

[QUOTE=BikeRider;2919954]I'm going to respectfully disagree on the priority here. I always talk up women regardless of where I am. I have no intentions of "picking them up" (although it happens some times). I do it to be comfortable to talking to women, and hot women in general. I've found if I can get them to laugh, then you're usually on the right path.
[/QUOTE]I might not have conveyed it well, but I meant it is lower in priority for me and my current lifestyle (and therefore the way I chose to address it in the list of tips), not necessarily a lower priority for others. The most important part about tip #3 is what I wrote at the end, about particularly extracting a calculated and desired response and that being the precursor to somewhat more advanced and effective techniques. But yes anything that increases skill in talking to women. I would say that making them laugh is a bit more of a general skill than what I was covering in #3, but it can definitely help.

Above all I have to stress, when I relay these tips I'm conveying what works for me at a general level, and other's mileage can and will vary. This is why I don't offer (nor am I a believer in) pre-written scripts, opening lines, or other detailed methods. The only reason I'm really writing these now is the recent request from others, so I want this stuff documented such that I won't be repeating it.

I thought I'd share what happened to me a number of months ago while on a business trip in a city I visit often.

I had been chatting with this woman from SA for a few days, and she was free to meet one evening when I was in town. I was interested in her because she had a graduate professional degree, and was incredibly well spoken. We had a good conversation via chat, but I wasn't really ever able to get it to where I like before a meeting. Her pictures were average, and so I wasn't too worried though.

I was staying in a suite (upgrade since I stay there often) in a 5-star hotel. I always have a few plans for drinks / dinner based on how the woman looks when we meet. If she looks and dresses like a UTR, we head to a bar or modest restaurant. If she looks and dresses classy, then we'll hit a higher end place.

We agreed to meet in the lobby of my hotel as she worked near-by. She arrived by uber, and I saw her getting out of the cab with a huge briefcase. My jaw fell to the floor. She was as close to a model as anyone I've met from SA- tall, perfect figure, perfect face, and a brain to boot!

I told her let's leave your bag up at my place. I did this for two reasons. One. It gets her back to my room after dinner / drinks, and two it shows her that I'm cool being in the room with her. Once in my room, as she bent down to drop her case I see she's wearing a spaghetti thong. That was pretty much the end of it. I completely lost my game.

I wanted her (rookie mistake), and I tried to hard (huge rookie mistake). One of the important aspects of game is never show you're needy. That night I was, and I know better.

The evening ended with her coming up and getting her bag and leaving. I knew an hour into dinner that I had blown things. I acted needy and failed to read her. By the time I noticed, it was to late adjust and recover.

Learning points: #1 Don't be needy. You need to qualify yourself, but don't over do it. Self deprecating humour helps here at times. #2 Watch her reactions, and read her. If she's not reacting well, you need to adjust and recover. Some women are easy to read, and others are not. The mistake I made was that I was to focused on qualifying myself, and I didn't read her and use her reactions as feedback to adjust my approach until it was to late.

Fortunately. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

[URL]http://blog.seekingarrangement.com/2016/05/06/determining-allowance/[/URL]

Girls are crazy! GPS zombies!

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2919723]T

I'm better at talking about the pyschology and philosophy behind getting in women's pants, thwarting the mental games they play by their very nature with men, etc. This is what I often refer to as "game", and yes it can benefit an SD tremendously, but gaming women is not really an SD-specific topic.

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No I think, the enormity of posting "everything" is so daunting that it potentially stifles the enthusiasm for the effort?

That list of things your proposed writing about has been covered in length in the "Sugarbaby Thread Highlights, Index, and FAQ" thread. It is all there - every topic has different views or approaches to each of those items you mentioned. Why repeat that?

I strongly encourage you to do what any HS English Teacher would tell you, [b]write about what you know best![/b] (THAT is why I helped start this clamoring for you to start a new thread!) The existing resources cover the numbered items, NOTHING I have found focuses on "game" (as you put it)!

So a new thread where the discussion can be strictly limited to "the psychology and philosophy behind getting in women's pants" is what I think would be most useful to others.

Perhaps that limited scope is a smaller task and one that doesn't put one off from the task at hand.

Sorry if my encouragement seemed like a request for a broad brain dump! My bad!

Hope we can get your "rules" for "thwarting the mental games they play by their very nature with men."
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[QUOTE=BikeRider;2919978]I thought I'd share what happened to me a number of months ago while on a business trip in a city I visit often.

I had been chatting with this woman from SA for a few days, and she was free to meet one evening when I was in town. I was interested in her because she had a graduate professional degree, and was incredibly well spoken. We had a good conversation via chat, but I wasn't really ever able to get it to where I like before a meeting. Her pictures were average, and so I wasn't too worried though.

I was staying in a suite (upgrade since I stay there often) in a 5-star hotel. I always have a few plans for drinks / dinner based on how the woman looks when we meet. If she looks and dresses like a UTR, we head to a bar or modest restaurant. If she looks and dresses classy, then we'll hit a higher end place.

We agreed to meet in the lobby of my hotel as she worked near-by. She arrived by uber, and I saw her getting out of the cab with a huge briefcase. My jaw fell to the floor. She was as close to a model as anyone I've met from SA- tall, perfect figure, perfect face, and a brain to boot!

I told her let's leave your bag up at my place. I did this for two reasons. One. It gets her back to my room after dinner / drinks, and two it shows her that I'm cool being in the room with her. Once in my room, as she bent down to drop her case I see she's wearing a spaghetti thong. That was pretty much the end of it. I completely lost my game.

I wanted her (rookie mistake), and I tried to hard (huge rookie mistake). One of the important aspects of game is never show you're needy. That night I was, and I know better.

The evening ended with her coming up and getting her bag and leaving. I knew an hour into dinner that I had blown things. I acted needy and failed to read her. By the time I noticed, it was to late adjust and recover.

Learning points: #1 Don't be needy. You need to qualify yourself, but don't over do it. Self deprecating humour helps here at times. #2 Watch her reactions, and read her. If she's not reacting well, you need to adjust and recover. Some women are easy to read, and others are not. The mistake I made was that I was to focused on qualifying myself, and I didn't read her and use her reactions as feedback to adjust my approach until it was to late.

Fortunately. There are plenty of fish in the sea.[/QUOTE]Not really sure why your kicking urself. Remember not all on the site operate on the if you got cash were good system. Some actually require a connection / attraction. We're definitely not going to be everyones cup of tea. All the texting and talking goes out the window during an actual m / g for some of these girls who needs the connection / attraction. So be prepared to be shot down with these, part of life. Plenty of the cash we're good available.

[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;2920537]No I think, the enormity of posting "everything" is so daunting that it potentially stifles the enthusiasm for the effort?

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I strongly encourage you to do what any HS English Teacher would tell you, [b]write about what you know best![/b] (THAT is why I helped start this clamoring for you to start a new thread!) The existing resources cover the numbered items, NOTHING I have found focuses on "game" (as you put it)!
So a new thread where the discussion can be strictly limited to "the psychology and philosophy behind getting in women's pants" is what I think would be most useful to others.

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Hope we can get your "rules" for "thwarting the mental games they play by their very nature with men."
[/QUOTE]The thing is though: there are no rules and there can be no set rulebook for this. Thwarting their mental games is an art of sorts, and in order to become good at it, one must practice (this is why I recently focused on possible ways to practice). Even when I write about ways that I practice my game, those methods aren't necessarily the right method for everyone. For example, more than one person in the past has expressed opposition to the idea of practicing their game at strip clubs -- usually on the grounds that they just don't like the places. Well guess what? I don't really like them either. I can't remember the last time I enjoyed myself in a strip club -- I hate the places in all but the rarest instances, but I don't hate them so much when they result in me getting laid. And the rest of the time, I simply absorb it as an exercise in game-polishing. It's like going to the gym and stretching, I hate stretching, but I know its good for me, prevents injuries and makes me better at the things I do like to do like lifting weights. Hunting for strippers is a similar no-pain-no-gain process, to use an old cliché. Strip joints are one of the only places on earth that I know that you can meet so many manipulative, hot women in such a short period of time and practice flipping them. Yet, some still reject the idea and will probably never take to it. What's good for one is not necessarily good for another. My point is that if I write what I know best, it's only of moderate benefit. Even if someone does stop what they are doing and start following my advice to the letter, they are going to end up with a different experience than me.

All we really have here in this forum is the value of shared ideas. Its up to us to take the gems from those ideas that apply to our own situation. I've written in the past about how much "managing the addiction" influences my behavior these days. Meaning, I want to satisfy my sexual needs without jeopardizing my relationship with my GF which I value greatly. It's a tricky juggling act, and it impacts everything I do. I have to modify my game tactics somewhat to work around the larger goal; and my larger goal is different than another mans. There are SDs or players out there who could give fuck all about their wives as long as they don't end up having to pay alimony. Their game will be dictated by their basic goals.

In terms of seeking out larger-scale information on game, have you looked into things like the red pill thread on Reddit, books like "The Game" by Neil Strauss, etc? I personally find the general PUA community to be geared more toward more of newbies and unsuccessful daters (basically helping those who will benefit most from the assistance), and I've always felt I'm already many levels beyond what they preach, but there is a lot of good information to be found there about the psychology of women and it helps get the mind geared toward recognizing cues and thinking outside the box so to speak. It's a deep subject and should be studied from a variety of sources.

The bottom line is that my exact game is not going to work for everyone. I became sexually active very early, and learned a lot of my lessons about the female mind the hard way (by playing the chump and being raked over the coals), so it would be foolish for me to think I can transfer decades of experience on a forum like this. It is a constant learning process and my game is still evolving. I can really only share high-level experiences and hope they add cumulatively to the experiences of others here, making us all a bit better.

The general subject of game is a very complicated one (due mostly to the complex and unpredictable nature of the female mind). Practice and experience is everything, writing a playbook with documented tactics that works all the time is pretty much impossible when it comes to the psychological aspects.

I'll continue to contribute what I can when I can, but it's just like you said -- the enormity of the task successfully writing any amount that sufficiently covers game is just bigger than me, and if a topic is not sufficiently covered, it tends to just lead to a lot of debates and misunderstandings in my experience with this forum. So I want to be a bit careful about what I cover and how I do it. It's a forum designed for briefer report-type posts, and not really a good platform for elaborate writings on more complicated topics.

[QUOTE=JohnHandCock;2920692]Not really sure why your kicking urself. Remember not all on the site operate on the if you got cash were good system. Some actually require a connection / attraction. We're definitely not going to be everyones cup of tea. All the texting and talking goes out the window during an actual m / g for some of these girls who needs the connection / attraction. So be prepared to be shot down with these, part of life. Plenty of the cash we're good available.[/QUOTE]You're absolutely right. I kicked myself because I fell apart not because there wasn't a connection, but I learned from it.

I seldom (hasn't happened in the last 10 years) meet a woman who checks all of my boxes, and she did. Since I wasn't expecting her to be as beautiful as she was, and I hadn't prepared properly and lost it. It won't happen again.

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2920994]The general subject of game is a very complicated one (due mostly to the complex and unpredictable nature of the female mind). Practice and experience is everything, writing a playbook with documented tactics that works all the time is pretty much impossible when it comes to the psychological aspects.

[/QUOTE]+1 take everything you read from the PUA "experts" with a grain of salt. The general notions they preach are the important part: confidence, value, push pull, etc. Practice is, as Jeez mentions, the key. Don't expect immediate success.

[QUOTE=BikeRider;2921130]+1 take everything you read from the PUA "experts" with a grain of salt. The general notions they preach are the important part: confidence, value, push pull, etc. Practice is, as Jeez mentions, the key. Don't expect immediate success.[/QUOTE]Can't tell you how many hours of PUA stuff I watched from some dude with and English accent. It boiled down to "multilevel communication" or in other words being a nice guy and carrying on a normal conversation while feeling up the girl or girls. The naughtiness of it is what intrigues the girl and the fact that you aren't overt about it allows her to save face with her friends. Pretty simplistic and boring stuff.

There has to be a half dozen or so techniques that will work on 75% of the women out there. Not expecting to see a complete essay that covers every situation with every girl. But mentioned at one point was "ego suppression" or something like that. How about we start there?

[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;2921273]Can't tell you how many hours of PUA stuff I watched from some dude with and English accent. It boiled down to "multilevel communication" or in other words being a nice guy and carrying on a normal conversation while feeling up the girl or girls. The naughtiness of it is what intrigues the girl and the fact that you aren't overt about it allows her to save face with her friends. Pretty simplistic and boring stuff.

There has to be a half dozen or so techniques that will work on 75% of the women out there. Not expecting to see a complete essay that covers every situation with every girl. But mentioned at one point was "ego suppression" or something like that. How about we start there?[/QUOTE]I talked a bit about ego regression in this post:

[url]http://www.usasexguide.info/forum/showthread.php?9746-quot-Sugarbabies-quot-quot-Arrangements-quot-Amateurs-or-Not&p=2849195&viewfull=1#post2849195[/url]

That example is about as good as I can do without posting transcripts of email conversations (which I will never do here, because this forum is searchable and certain things can be linked back to me). The detail of the conversations aren't particularly useful anyway, because they are highly contextual.

So I guess going from that post, if you have a specific question I can try to answer it?

Also not sure about the PUA stuff you saw, but I personally think a lot of them are frauds. Maybe I just don't relate to their particular brand of game but I think these goofballs like Mystery that dress like they're putting on a magic show, complete with top hat and eye-liner are complete ass clowns. That might work in clubs in LA on teenybopper girls but if he tried to pull that crap in my world he'd never get laid. Neil Strauss is probably the most credible of the PUAs that I've read, and even he once said something like if you already banged 10 girls of your choice by the time you were 20 (I don't recall the exact number), your game was already developed enough that you probably won't benefit from his writings, so while I agreed with a lot of what he said I could never be one of his students. All of that stuff is really geared toward the totally socially awkward guy or late bloomer that needs a place to start.

And also if there are half a dozen techniques that work on 75% of the women out there, then I'd love someone to tell me about them because it has never been that simple or methodical for me.

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Also not sure about the PUA stuff you saw, but I personally think a lot of them are frauds. Maybe I just don't relate to their particular brand of game but I think these goofballs like Mystery that dress like they're putting on a magic show, complete with top hat and eye-liner are complete ass clowns. That might work in clubs in LA on teenybopper girls but if he tried to pull that crap in my world he'd never get laid. Neil Strauss is probably the most credible of the PUAs that I've read, and even he once said something like if you already banged 10 girls of your choice by the time you were 20 (I don't recall the exact number), your game was already developed enough that you probably won't benefit from his writings, so while I agreed with a lot of what he said I could never be one of his students. All of that stuff is really geared toward the totally socially awkward guy or late bloomer that needs a place to start.

And also if there are half a dozen techniques that work on 75% of the women out there, then I'd love someone to tell me about them because it has never been that simple or methodical for me.[/QUOTE]I agree that the "peacocking" and other garbage Mystery and others propose is insane. I've never tried it, and I never will. Their "model" for attraction is useful, if only to try and understand what attracts women.

Meehow I thought was able to take most of the Mystery style and leverage it with out being absurd. Lovedrop and Cajon also play a normal game.

I was lucky in my youth. Part of it was falling into the right crowd, and part of it was probably game. There's a Seinfeld episode where George is out with a new wallet. Inside the wallet is a picture of a model. The girl next to him sees the picture and says "is that your gf / wife?" George spins a tale from there, and gets the hot girl (well until George screws it up). This is essentially pre-qualification. If a model looking woman likes you, then others will automatically want you. When I hit Vegas with my pre-med baby, we have no problem finding an equally hot girl for a threesome. She picks the girl up at the club, and brings her to our table. Did I say I love Vegas?

Even though I was lucky in my 20's, I still managed to learn a bit from the PUA space. In some cases, it highlighted what I already knew. I had a few "no shit" moments too. It's going to take some time, but if you have the time it's worth looking into. You'll recognize garbage when you see it.

Ultimately, if you can keep a woman interested with conversation without creeping her out. You'll do fine.

BTW. Don't EVER pay for the bootcamps etc. You can pretty much find everything you'll need with torrents.

[QUOTE=BikeRider;2921338]I agree that the "peacocking" and other garbage Mystery and others propose is insane. I've never tried it, and I never will. Their "model" for attraction is useful, if only to try and understand what attracts women.

Meehow I thought was able to take most of the Mystery style and leverage it with out being absurd. Lovedrop and Cajon also play a normal game.

I was lucky in my youth. Part of it was falling into the right crowd, and part of it was probably game. There's a Seinfeld episode where George is out with a new wallet. Inside the wallet is a picture of a model. The girl next to him sees the picture and says "is that your gf / wife?" George spins a tale from there, and gets the hot girl (well until George screws it up). This is essentially pre-qualification. If a model looking woman likes you, then others will automatically want you. When I hit Vegas with my pre-med baby, we have no problem finding an equally hot girl for a threesome. She picks the girl up at the club, and brings her to our table. Did I say I love Vegas?

Even though I was lucky in my 20's, I still managed to learn a bit from the PUA space. In some cases, it highlighted what I already knew. I had a few "no shit" moments too. It's going to take some time, but if you have the time it's worth looking into. You'll recognize garbage when you see it.

Ultimately, if you can keep a woman interested with conversation without creeping her out. You'll do fine.[/QUOTE]There is probably something to be learned from any of them, but I think so many of them try to come up with a formula or method they can sell and make a career out of. The problem is that execution of any particular method starts to create a built-in bias, such that as the PUA is executing said method from memory, what he is really doing is inadvertently filtering out all of the opportunities that aren't responding to his method, without even realizing it (because those opportunities don't become apparent). This is why I'm a bigger fan of discarding as many canned methods, plans, tactics, etc. As possible and focus on one thing and one thing only -- understanding the female mind. I believe that focusing on that singular task pays the greatest rewards in the greatest number of situations.

Does peacocking work for Mystery? Perhaps, in Hollywood clubs on 20 year olds. Will it work for him when he's 50? Nope, not unless he has another career he has managed well and made a success at. No sugar baby is going to be impressed by someone who has made a career as a "professional pickup artist". Some sluttier LA UTRs will probably fuck him if he's willing to pay, but outside that small bubble market he is going to find a different way.

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BTW. Don't EVER pay for the bootcamps etc. You can pretty much find everything you'll need with torrents.[/QUOTE]I can't even imagine being the type of person that would pay for something like that. If you want to see something creepy, search for those videos of George Sodini attending those PUA seminars (he was that guy that went mental and shot up an aerobics class because women wouldn't give him the time of day). I can't remember the name of the guy who held those seminars but I hope the Sodini tragedy ended his career as a professional PUA, proving his shit didn't work.

Talking about PUAs I should admit that I've always thought its one sure way to get the girls to drop down their pants. But mostly for financial reasons and time availability I never pursued it. While I am not interested anymore to pay for such training or seminars I am curious to know if there are good PUA trainers that's worth their salt. If yes, I would consider checking out their books that might help in improving one's game. Are there any recommendations.

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2921371]There is probably something to be learned from any of them, but I think so many of them try to come up with a formula or method they can sell and make a career out of. The problem is that execution of any particular method starts to create a built-in bias, such that as the PUA is executing said method from memory, what he is really doing is inadvertently filtering out all of the opportunities that aren't responding to his method, without even realizing it (because those opportunities don't become apparent). This is why I'm a bigger fan of discarding as many canned methods, plans, tactics, etc. As possible and focus on one thing and one thing only -- understanding the female mind. I believe that focusing on that singular task pays the greatest rewards in the greatest number of situations.

Does peacocking work for Mystery? Perhaps, in Hollywood clubs on 20 year olds. Will it work for him when he's 50? Nope, not unless he has another career he has managed well and made a success at. No sugar baby is going to be impressed by someone who has made a career as a "professional pickup artist". Some sluttier LA UTRs will probably fuck him if he's willing to pay, but outside that small bubble market he is going to find a different way.

I can't even imagine being the type of person that would pay for something like that. If you want to see something creepy, search for those videos of George Sodini attending those PUA seminars (he was that guy that went mental and shot up an aerobics class because women wouldn't give him the time of day). I can't remember the name of the guy who held those seminars but I hope the Sodini tragedy ended his career as a professional PUA, proving his shit didn't work.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Lebruno;2922943]Talking about PUAs I should admit that I've always thought its one sure way to get the girls to drop down their pants. But mostly for financial reasons and time availability I never pursued it. While I am not interested anymore to pay for such training or seminars I am curious to know if there are good PUA trainers that's worth their salt. If yes, I would consider checking out their books that might help in improving one's game. Are there any recommendations.[/QUOTE]I look at the practice of game as any other skill, like mastery of a musical instrument or sport. When you want to be good at something, you study every available resource, even if you think its crap. To be a good guitar player you'd need to study a wide variety of musical styles and musicians. You're at an elevated level of study when you're able to listen to what they are actually doing from a technical standpoint and know how they are doing it at a deep level without getting distracted by things like whether you are a fan of their musical style or not. If you want to be the best at a sport, you don't just watch your favorite team play, you watch the best players from all teams. You also watch the worst and learn from their mistakes.

So, just know that if anyone recommends a particular PUA they are basically only saying "I like this particular PUAs style". It's a personal bias. It doesn't mean that PUA is necessarily better than any other. Its better to study as many as you can, take what you find as useful and develop it into your own style.

When I first embarked on developing my game I was basically still a pre-puberty kid. Information on the subject was few and far between, every now and then I would sneak a read on a helpful article in Penthouse or Playboy magazine, or I would pick up a tip here or there.

I can remember being maybe 10 or 11 years old and being in the school library. I was looking at an article in some women's magazine (maybe Cosmo? Glamour something like that I don't remember) that was giving girls advice on manipulating their man. My buddy at the time started busting my balls when he saw what I was reading, implying I was a fruit. I showed him what I was reading and why and he kind of looked at me like I was an evil genius. He wanted to read the article after I told him what I was doing and why. LOL.

Point is, you have to understand your opponent if you want to win. Read everything you can, the Internet makes it all dead easy to get to.