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It's only a matter of time before Bruce Jenner boycotts the Sugar Daddy sites for asking him whether he's male or female.
Can we all at least agree that a Sugar Baby by definition must be female at birth? And that on dating websites, SugarBabies should be easily distinguishable from SugarBubbas? Anything less is deception.
As far as the bathrooms in one state or the other I really couldn't care less as long as nobody, male or female, pees on my shoe.
I always put negotiable, and always make it clear during the messaging and the m&g that allowance is based on chemistry along with lots of other factors.
If a pot more interested in cash and her allowance, than I know its not going to work out for me. When pressed about allowance amounts, I give broad ranges, and explain the factors that I take into consideration. I also give concrete examples of prior arrangements that I've had to help them better understand what I'm talking about. Finally, I make sure that I don't tolerate someone looking to rinse a guy who isn't smart enough to realize it. Typically the conversation will go something like this.
"I list negotiable in my profile, because it really depends on chemistry and a lot of different factors. If what you're looking for is a payday, then I'm not your guy. If you're looking to spend time enjoying the finer things in life, with an attractive guy, who knows what he's doing and get taken care of in the process, then we should meet. For example, I've been in prior arrangements where the allowance started off as an allowance per meet situation, but after time passed, we switched to a monthly situation after we developed trust. Initially the allowance was lower because I was also responsible for taking care of hotels, but once she was comfortable enough with having me over, I was able to be more generous with her, rather than giving part of her allowance to a hotel. ".
I've found that the conversation above to be helpful since it weeds out girls who are solely in it for the cash, makes it clear that I expect a trip to the FC in a sugar relationship, and also puts the pot / sb on her best behavior because it makes her understand that her allowance is tied to how well she pleases me.
[QUOTE=ToeLover57;2867121]What are you guys putting as budget on your SA profile? I paid no mind to it and put practical. Well today a POT that I had been messaging asked how can I afford up 3,000 a month based on my income I was showing. I told her how many guys do you think are posting their real income. I don't post mine as I am not looking to attract greedy babies. She read it but didn't reply so I guess that date ain't going to happen.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2870336]
Can we all at least agree that a Sugar Baby by definition must be female at birth? And that on dating websites, SugarBabies should be easily distinguishable from SugarBubbas? Anything less is deception.
.[/QUOTE]JL.
I ended up with a trans in the FC and found out only after feeling his / her breasts!
Yes there are many SBs who indicate their status on their profiles and the SD community appreciates their honesty!
I think I will at some point just ask before FC as I do not want a repeat of the prior experience.
[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;2871046]JL. I ended up with a trans in the FC and found out only after feeling his / her breasts!
Yes there are many SBs who indicate their status on their profiles and the SD community appreciates their honesty!
I think I will at some point just ask before FC as I do not want a repeat of the prior experience.[/QUOTE]That's scary -- I can't even imagine being in that situation. I hope you reported him to the site, not only for his own safety, but because if these sites are charging $70 a month or whatever for the ability to communicate with girls, they better damn well be taking appropriate steps to make sure the their customers are getting what they expected to be paying for and that the girls are girls, or at least that they are properly identifying themselves.
I don't pass judgement on other folks' lifestyle, but for those who attempt to impose their lifestyle on others by tricking them, they are playing a very dangerous game.
Hi folks,
Planning on creating an acct on SA.
While I was checking the site out, I noticed that recurring subscription fees are automaticly billed per month /3 MON /6 MON.
Is there a way to prevent recurring payments.
I sometimes travel for long period, so will not be available for times during the month?
Also, I read there is a daily limit of emails you can send out, even as premium member?
Thanks,
[QUOTE=IluvSmellyFish;2870568]I always put negotiable, and always make it clear during the messaging and the m&g that allowance is based on chemistry along with lots of other factors.
If a pot more interested in cash and her allowance, than I know its not going to work out for me. When pressed about allowance amounts, I give broad ranges, and explain the factors that I take into consideration. I also give concrete examples of prior arrangements that I've had to help them better understand what I'm talking about. Finally, I make sure that I don't tolerate someone looking to rinse a guy who isn't smart enough to realize it. Typically the conversation will go something like this.
"I list negotiable in my profile, because it really depends on chemistry and a lot of different factors. If what you're looking for is a payday, then I'm not your guy. If you're looking to spend time enjoying the finer things in life, with an attractive guy, who knows what he's doing and get taken care of in the process, then we should meet. For example, I've been in prior arrangements where the allowance started off as an allowance per meet situation, but after time passed, we switched to a monthly situation after we developed trust. Initially the allowance was lower because I was also responsible for taking care of hotels, but once she was comfortable enough with having me over, I was able to be more generous with her, rather than giving part of her allowance to a hotel. ".
I've found that the conversation above to be helpful since it weeds out girls who are solely in it for the cash, makes it clear that I expect a trip to the FC in a sugar relationship, and also puts the pot / sb on her best behavior because it makes her understand that her allowance is tied to how well she pleases me.[/QUOTE]Thank you! That is good advice. I will keep that in mind for the future. This go around on SA runs out in 4 days and has been the least fruitful. Too many last minute cancels, 30 minutes or less for M&G. I'll wait until college is out for the summer and try again.
[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;2871046]JL.
I ended up with a trans in the FC and found out only after feeling his / her breasts!
Yes there are many SBs who indicate their status on their profiles and the SD community appreciates their honesty!
I think I will at some point just ask before FC as I do not want a repeat of the prior experience.[/QUOTE]Ok probably stupid question but why not post a link to that profile. Most trans post in the profile that info on sa.
Hi folks,
I am planning on opening a SA acct, but had a few questions if you do not mind.
Is there a way to bypass recurring subs. Fees?
On the website, it stated that premium status is monthly /3 Mon. /6 Mon recurring subscription.
Would deactivating and reactivating be the only way out?
Thanks!
[QUOTE=Crow999;2871299]Hi folks,
I am planning on opening a SA acct, but had a few questions if you do not mind.
Is there a way to bypass recurring subs. Fees?
On the website, it stated that premium status is monthly /3 Mon. /6 Mon recurring subscription.
Would deactivating and reactivating be the only way out?
Thanks![/QUOTE]If you take monthly subscription then it will give you access for 30 days. After that you won't be able to read / write messages / emails. I believe 90 day /6 month are pre paid, means they will bill you upfront. Only way out is go month by month.
Yeah, when I was m&g'ing heavily the cancellations got annoying. I would double or triple book to increase the odds of actually having a m&g happen.
I would set the meets up at locations that were five minutes from each other and have the dates start 15 minutes apart. If on the rare chance they both showed up, then I could let the second know that I was running 15-20 minutes behind. If the first m&g wasn't going well or if she didn't look like her pics, then 15 minutes is really all I would need. Then the text from the second m&g gives you the perfect excuse to leave.
Of course if the first m&g is going so well that you end up at the FC, and the second does show. You can promise to make it up to her. Worst case scenario, if you get a girl that holds grudges, and who won't meet you because you stood her up. Create a new profile and "groundhog day" her. You know what it takes to get her to the m&g and she's never met you in person, but at least now you know that she's not a flake.
Booking multiple m&g makes it so that you're only wasting 15 minutes if there is a no show. Spending time getting ready and then trekking out to the m&g spot only to get flakes on is a collossal time suck if its not managed properly.
[QUOTE=ToeLover57;2871125]Thank you! That is good advice. I will keep that in mind for the future. This go around on SA runs out in 4 days and has been the least fruitful. Too many last minute cancels, 30 minutes or less for M&G. I'll wait until college is out for the summer and try again.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Crow999;2871299]Hi folks,
I am planning on opening a SA acct, but had a few questions if you do not mind.
Is there a way to bypass recurring subs. Fees?
On the website, it stated that premium status is monthly /3 Mon. /6 Mon recurring subscription.
Would deactivating and reactivating be the only way out?
Thanks![/QUOTE]First advice is take a chill pill. You posted the same question twice two hours apart. No one is sitting there waiting for your question, guys log on when they have time.
You should be signing up using a prepaid card in the first place, IMHO. So if reoccurring charges get billed and there is nothing on the card, then it won't happen. There is also a way to voluntarily cancel one's subscription to avoid the recharge. Otherwise as others suggest, just sign up for the one month.
Seeing that you are new and have gotten some help here, I hope you will return to "payforward" at some point.
Good luck! Happy hunting!
[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2871085]That's scary -- I can't even imagine being in that situation. I hope you reported him to the site, not only for his own safety, but because if these sites are charging $70 a month or whatever for the ability to communicate with girls, they better damn well be taking appropriate steps to make sure the their customers are getting what they expected to be paying for and that the girls are girls, or at least that they are properly identifying themselves..[/QUOTE]To report him / her. Well if I find his profile I will certainly do it.
I just attributed it to a bad draw / scoop? From the bowl and moved on.
[QUOTE=JohnHandCock;2871273]Ok probably stupid question but why not post a link to that profile. Most trans post in the profile that info on sa.[/QUOTE]Tammy.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/af1c016a-3a31-4a00-1e9b-d83b104188fb[/URL]
[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;2871046]JL.
I ended up with a trans in the FC and found out only after feeling his / her breasts!
Yes there are many SBs who indicate their status on their profiles and the SD community appreciates their honesty!
I think I will at some point just ask before FC as I do not want a repeat of the prior experience.[/QUOTE]Man I want your hands! If you can determine the chromosomes of a person by feeling their breasts, then that's some amazing skills!
Kidding aside. As a frequent traveler to Asia you hear stories like this all of the time. There isn't a sure fire way to make a determination in some cases without the "Dundee test" so don't kick yourself.
[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;2872323]Tammy.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/af1c016a-3a31-4a00-1e9b-d83b104188fb[/URL][/QUOTE]First let me say congratulations. Of the 11,000 odd pages you are one of the very few that has actually produced helpful info with an honest to god actual link. Thank you.