Beesential: why do you think she had a scam?
[QUOTE=Shier;6330176]Shares some racy pics right off the bat and wants to move to text right away. Good communicator so it seem English is her first language.
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Once texting she proposes a facetime session, so right away of course I suspect she's running some kind of scam. I reply "Can't do it" and instead of arguing or repeatedly trying again she just said best of luck and went on her way. I'd love to be wrong about her so I figured I'd ask if anyone here had any info.
Cheers![/QUOTE]Why did the FaceTime request signal a scam to you? I would welcome this versus sending a face pic. What set you off?
Thanks, you have convinced me not to do it again
[QUOTE=Shier;6330503]This pretty much sums up my reasons too. I'm really paranoid about this stuff, having had a bad experience. The really bad ones. And they do exist. Are out to get ANY piece of your PII that they can and potentially use it against you. Also, I've heard of scams in which they get you on a video call and the girl on the other end is underage. Even if you disconnect right away they have the screenshot and can then leverage it against you.
It really sucks. SA has become a sewer. At this point I flat out tell SBs that like it or not they won't see my face or know my name until we meet, and that they have to be willing to risk a bit of gas money and an hour of their time. It's definitely put a damper on M&G. Many of them get it and are ok with it. I generally suspect the ones who kick up a fuss are scammers.[/QUOTE]Thanks. I will continue to have chick's meet me at the bar of a close hotel and see what happens.
I do video calls all the time
[QUOTE=FogHorn1;6330274]Everyone has to have their own level of comfort, but I NEVER agree to a FT or any video call. Way to easy for the SB (scammer) to record the call and use it for blackmail.
And before anyone says "just don't talk about anything damaging" - it's not that easy. What do you do if she outright asks "what are you comfortable with paying per date with intimacy" or "how has Seeking Arrangements been for you" or "how long was your last sugar relationship, and why did it end?" etc. Even if you don't answer, you still have to be able to explain what you were doing on a video call with this much younger lady in the first place, and why she'd be asking you about SA or paying her for a date.
If you're married, that would be hard to explain away. If you're single and just want to be autonomous, it could still be damaging. So. No video calls for me, ever.[/QUOTE]I do video calls all the time. It super easy to avoid anything in criminating. But I never FaceTime well mainly because don't have an iPhone. If she asks to snap I request a Google duo call. If she requests to FaceTime I ask to snap. I also let her know from the beginning this just a call to verify we are both real and who we say we are. I have had several try and get sexual or go into something that could be incriminating I just end the call. Sure they could record the video or take screen shots. To use them against me, they would have to have personel information on me. Just to be able to give to someone to be a risky and generally my opsec is pretty good.