[QUOTE=FogHorn1;6313551]I've said before, the opportunity to date some of these girls without PPM is more prevalent than people might assume. I'm no spring chicken or bottle service baller, but also on the younger side as SD standards go, and I can usually string together a coherent sentence or two. I've had ample opportunity to turn a sugar relationship into something more conventional. That said, as soon as there isn't a PPM involved, now you lose your autonomy and they start thinking they're your GF and expecting certain things.
I know from experience, sadly. She was actually a great girl but as you would expect, much younger. Sex was incredible and she was one of the coolest girls I've met. She finally moved on, and got a serious BF from hinge or some shit. I continued to bang her for a good part of her being with this guy, he was her age and according to her she really liked him, he was nice, age appropriate, etc. But he didn't eat her pussy and he was basically a two pumps and a pullback kind of guy so she never got hers. She's now engaged to the guy, and we no longer see each other. To be honest, I sort of kick myself over that one because it's the one time I actually caught feelings as well, but never actually let on to her that I did and she got tired of it.
Moral of the story, it's much easier / safer to keep the PPM in place and a clear line drawn so as not to muddy the waters and risk any hurt feelings for either party.[/QUOTE]Agreed. When things finally end, you want it to be on good terms. You want them to remember you fondly, not as some guy they wasted their time with. I've never been good at traditional relationships, and years ago realized that each time one ended it was replaced with something better (or at least newer which makes it fun) anyway.
Sugar relationships allow us to move on and remain Allie's, keepers of secrets, and good experiences.
As much as they wear a facade when we meet, and only show us their best, we are also doing the same. After a period of time when the masks finally come off, and what we are left with is our true imperfect selves, it becomes more work than fun. Sugaring allows us to -not answer phone calls and texts, respond to every little thing they deem an emergency, not care how she handles her finances, not care who about infidelity, etc.
The basis of sugaring is mutually beneficial. That means we give them something they are not able to achieve on their own, and we get something that is traditionally unavailable to us without extreme good looks, luck, and the ability to step out of normal social conventions by approaching someone 20 years younger than us in public. We meet in an appropriate place online, we are able to lay out boundaries before we meet, and as the more mature experienced person, it's up to us to maintain those boundaries.
Here are some things that help set those boundaries as well.
"Make sure you invite me to your wedding when you find that guy".
" Can we go shopping together? Help me pick out an outfit so that women will find me more attractive when you move on (with a laugh).
Sugaring helped me get comfortable with beautiful women, with the amount of effort I wanted to put in it. It's helped me to avoid bad relationships, it's helped raise my standards for traditional dating, and opened my eyes to things I wouldn't discover on my own.
The money, the gifts, the extra attention to detail, is payment for services rendered. I always get more out of a good sugar relationship than I give, and she will tell me the same.
They like us for our experiences, don't be afraid to tell them how the "new you" has attracted new fish. It gives them one more reason to do this. (People love to feel good about how they improved someone else's life).
