An interesting experiment
Gentlemen,
I'm not sure why I didn't think of this sooner, but there you have it. I am currently seeing a baby who has asked me to find a third to join us on occasions. I think I mentioned her a while back. In any event, I have been working SA pretty hard and have been contacting any baby who's profile indicates they are looking for women as well as men. So far, no luck, although I have tangentially picked up two new babies who are added to the line-up.
It has been a ton of work, however, and there have been far more flakes and no-shows than m&g's. Today, however, inspiration struck, and I created a second, far more direct profile, explicity stating that I am an experienced SD with a baby who is looking for a third. My text is short and to the point, and I have high hopes that it will produce at least a few responses. My thought is that this approach will allow the babies to self-select, and in their contacting me, they have indicated a willingness to engage.
At least that's the theory. As we all know only too well, you can never tell what these little fish are thinking. It will take a day for SA to approve my profile, so I expect to be inundated with replies by this time tomorrow.
Fingers crossed,
Scott.
Better have an I'd for the name on the reservation
[QUOTE=Mike7794;2702153]I have had success checking in and stating I was getting the room for a business collegue from out of town.[/QUOTE]It worked for me the first time I. E. I said my friend made the reservation. The next time a different hotel insisted the guest on the reservation check in and I had to contact [URL]hotels.com[/URL] to change the name of the guest to my real name.
While searching online for something else I came across many posts where people wanted to know how to check in if a different person made the reservation so it seems more often than not hotels are strict about the person making the reservation actually checking in.
Your best bet would be to use F Scott's method. You can improve on it by using your passport instead of DL as the former does not have your address and if they ask for an address use a P. O. Box, work address or even a fake one!
She is gaining your confidence
It first starts with her moving in, then talk about baby names, before you know it, you'll be putting a ring on her finger (or at least that's what she thinks). It's all a test to see where she stands with you and how far she can take things. If you shut down during the baby talk conversation, it will likely lead to her pouting.
She is starting out slow (kind of like spreading the cheeks a little wider) then the baby name talk will turn into invites home to meet the parents over the holidays (like putting the tip in) and next thing you know, you're having your second wedding.
More power to you brother. As an unmarried, relatively young player in the bowl, its all about how much fun you're having. Hell, who knows, if she's good for daddy, why not see how far you can take it without putting a ring on that finger? Your situation lets you enjoy aspects of the bowl that most others cannot. For that I envy your position, but wouldn't trade spots with you.
As for reaching this point with my babies? No, I make it clear that they are the other woman and that I won't be changing that situation. It prevents having the same kind of emotional relationship you have with your SB/so, but makes it infinitely easier when I decide to drop any one of them from my rotation.
[QUOTE=HoyaSvnFgr;2702614]Brethren,
My SB was talking about baby names the other day. It was casual enough until it dawned on me where this could lead. I admit I can be a "dude" sometimes and just going with the flow. A sweet girl, awesome sex and her calling me "Daddy" can cause confusion and poor judgement. It's definitely not your standard vanilla dating scenario.
The baby talk has me thinking this may be going to another territory.
Any of you guys hit this point with your girls?[/QUOTE]
Just for shits and giggles
Next time she brings up baby names (I am guessing it will happen within the next few months), tell her that you've decided not to have children. The reaction might be eye opening.
Based on my own personal experience, when a girl moves in, she assumes the next step is a ring, and then a baby. This of course is a gross generalization and I have no idea what your specific situation with your SB / so is, so for all I know your girl may have no intention of trying to get you to settle down.
You may not have any plans to get married or have a kid, but that feeling may not be mutual. It may very well be her intention to keep things as interesting as they are right now for as long as possible, so she can keep gaining your confidence and wear you down.
I doubt you'd be living with a SB / so that wasn't a semi decent young lady. That being said, in my humble opinion, most decent young ladies who want to move in with a guy are looking for more than just a simple sugar daddy. If you were with a utr gold digger, than my analysis would be completely different, but I doubt that's the case.
Sounds like you're having fun though which is the most important part. Who knows, maybe she'll even convince you to settle down? Even crazier, who knows, maybe you'll even like it.
The only thing I would personally be concerned about is if you are both on completely different pages. While having a serious sit down conversation about what you're both looking for kills the fun of the game, I've found that it can avoid a huge headache later. She might be assuming that your willingness to engage in names of future babies as a sign that you're ready to settle down with her now that you've been living together for a couple months. When she finds out that you've been just enjoying the ride (literally and figuratively) it might throw her into one of those rages where she takes a bat to your car, cuts up your clothes, and then shows up to your office and makes a huge scene. Might not happen now, might not happen tomorrow, but the longer you hold off on having that serious conversation, the more likely its going to happen.
Having the conversation sucks because the very possibility of marraige and kids (no matter how slim) is often a huge driving force in the emotional attachment a baby will give to you, and along with it, the willingness to submit to you. Sexually, emotionally, mentally, etc.
On the other hand, if its not a possibility, and you don't make it clear up front, then the more the girl is going to feel like you've been stringing her along, and the more likely she is going to go apeshit when you drop the bomb that its not in the realm of possibility.
Just my two cents based on my own experiences. Your situation may be completely different, and its quite possible that I've only dated crazy women in the past. Even more importantly, you may be keeping a slim opening of the possibility that you might one day consider settling down with her. And if that's the case, then there is no good reason to ever have a serious conversation, or at least until you know that the possibility is one that is completely foreclosed.
[QUOTE=HoyaSvnFgr;2705923]I don't foresee marriage anytime soon. I'm in the recovery stage from my first divorce and slowly working to build my assets back up. The only thing that saved me in my first divorce was not having any children. I played The Bowl hardcore my first year. It may sound crazy to most Bros, but it really burnt me out.
I found working with one SB that met all my criteria would be cheaper in the long run. There's more pros than cons. My SB left her college apartment and moved in. Since she had very little overhead, it works. Being a youthful 40 yr old SD helps. She mostly submitted to my stability and it's been an awesome ride. She's still a woman, so there's some bitchiness to deal with. Obviously living in the same space and sharing my lifestyle I can see her mind calculating a future. Due to the medium we met, I'm unsure if her LTR hints are her being a gamer girl or if she's "really" serious.
It's an interesting dance we're engaged in. NO plans to marry or have a kid, but I can tell you that this ride is certainly entertaining.[/QUOTE]
