Secret Benefits: A Rebuttal
[QUOTE=GoldenMan;7262750]Hello Gentlemen, it's been a long time. I have decided to step back into the online sugar baby world and have discovered two things:
1. Seeking wants me to take a selfie before they let me register. No thanks. One day that information will be hacked and leaked to the public. I don't need the grief.
2. The "SecretBenefits" website is a complete and total 100% scam. Do not give them your dollars. I signed up last week, searched and favorited many profiles, and a lot of young and sexy girls favorited me back and even filled up my inbox with messages. Wow, this is going to be like shooting fish in a barrel, I though.
So I paid the $59.99 to unlock 10 messages, replied to the 10 most promising sugar babies, and. Nothing. Not a single one of them wrote back. In fact, their initial messages were all something lazy like "Hey" or "What's up babe". Even their profiles are all low effort, even though many of them are video-verified..[/QUOTE]I will say I totally get your disappointment.
The Secret Benefits model is about as bad as the What's Your Price model. It costs you a fair bit of money to communicate with a single person, but there's no guarantee you're ever going to meet, let alone get a response. I think part of that problem is due to the girls are just randomly flirting to fulfill their ego when they're not remotely interested. If they ever were interested, by the time you reply, they no longer are. Some girls certainly try it long enough to get a profile up and then they likely get creeped out and bail. Meanwhile, were messaging them with our boners in-hand never to get a reply.
And I got to say a lot of times you can't just flaunt money. You have to win their affection with something perhaps charming or not creepy or in a manner that makes them feel cherished, versus treating them like a hooker.
I had been a long time user of Seeking and had pretty good success there, but it is the numbers game. I had plenty of failures, too.
I was intrigued by a few girls that were on Secret Benefits, but I could not find them anywhere else, so I took a chance and ironically, I got nowhere with those select girls. However, I did have some success at Secret Benefits with others.
I wrote before of a lovely girl I met on SB, and we had several platonic dinner / activity dates, but I still enjoyed the time I spent with her immensely, and that was my choice. Another girl I connected with on SB also resulted in a few platonic dates, butbthatbwas my fault. The winner was a girl with whom I texted for over a month before we finally met for dinner, and subsequently an exhilarating romp after (and our next date is already scheduled).
I will add that there were a few others on Secret Benefits that just wasted my time and tried to get me to send them money, or get me to let them teach me to invest in Crypto, but they could never meet for this reason or that, but that's something you'll find everywhere.
And yes, a lot of girls never replied, likely because I'm not their cup of tea, much like I never reply to girls I'm not interested in (primarily because on SB it costs a fair sum).
I did recently let myself run out of points on Secret Benefits. I'll continue to periodically hit up some of the girls that I've already communicated with to see if they might eventually bite. One can only hope, as they are right up my alley.
I do think Secret Benefits is not an efficient model for the prospective Daddy, but I'm glad I made the connections I did.