"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

Scott,

I think your recent experience is symbolic of the reasons we partake of this pastime (obsession?). Indeed isn't it the rush of something new and exciting that leads us here? I hate to say it, but I haven't been as diligent as you in protecting my real identity from my sb's. Since I live in a much smaller community than you, I make it a point to not "shit where I eat" to quote Tony Soprano, so I'm pretty sure I would never run into an acquaintance that I had experienced in the FC. Saying that however, I have actually seen a couple of ladies I saw from back in my escorting days, but in neither instance did they see me.

I'm not sure about you, but the attraction for me is feeling that heart pounding and experiencing something new as my life has become pretty routine and uninspiring. Not to say I would want to run into an old sb during dinner, but the rush had to be interesting to say the least. I'm just glad the evening ended without incident. I think it would be interesting to hear if either of you contacted the other afterwards, to share a laugh if nothing else.

[QUOTE=Magic Rat; 1371390]Scott,

I think it would be interesting to hear if either of you contacted the other afterwards, to share a laugh if nothing else.[/QUOTE]I hadn't thought of doing that. Honestly, I was glad to have dodged a possible bullet (if that can be done). In thinking more about it, there would have been no benefit to her to "out" me except vindictiveness, and as I said, we parted amicably, but you are right, Magic, the rush was intense.

Scott

I now have had 3 blackmailers.all from my escorting days, and two quasi escort / SB. All qualified as Nando 1.desperately poor and substance abusers. Obviously they saw me enough to discover who I am and hit on me. It is impossible to see someone a lot and not have them know who you are IMHO.

My suggestion to prevent this is to stay away from the Type 1's .never let that "white knight" personality prevail.

[QUOTE=Spitfire;1366426]Tigg, once you join is there a way to narrow the geographic area of the search on sugardaddie? Or is the best you can do is search by the entire state?[/QUOTE]You can it's under the advanced new option you enter a zipcode and give it a range, bit hard to find but it is there.

[QUOTE=Castlerae; 1364577]An interesting observation. Even more interesting: before I'd paid to join SA, before I even had a pic posted, I was got at least two "winks". So yeah, a lot of sites use fake profiles to "robo-respond" to guys to get them to join up (been there, done that too) , that doesn't mean they're all fakes. I'm also not sure all the profiles on SA are "real" either, given some of the experiences I've had there already, which brings me to the question part of the post.

I had one SB who contacted me fairly early on. The usual drill: wink, message, response, more messages, more responses. In this case, though, the SB sent me an email address and asked if I'd 'contact her off the site'. Past experience has taught me that this is usually Step #1 to getting you to sign up for a pay-per-view porn site or a "cam show" site. I sent her a response back indicating taht I'd be happy to keep discussing matters, if she'd stick with the site email service. Haven't heard from her since, so now to the question for the experts: did I guess right, or did I run off a HYB who might happily have met me for several hours worth of sweaty fun?[/QUOTE]Why not email her, if she sends you to signup site asks for webcam your done

[QUOTE=Zman429;1371723]You can it's under the advanced new option you enter a zipcode and give it a range, bit hard to find but it is there.[/QUOTE]Yeah, I know about the seeking arrangement site, but I was asking about sugardaddie. Com

I too was shocked when I typed in my name on the Pipl site. Yet another good reason to try to never let them know your full name.

Fortunately, it works the other way as well. I've been able to find facebook pages for a couple of ladies I've emailed just by keying in their email address.

Well this certainly is an interesting hobby. I signed up for SA on jan 3rd, inspired by the gentlemen here. Tried the "just in town. Let's meet"

First tartget is a 30 YO waitress. Meet in bar near her home for a beer. Well waitress yes and also part time stripper. Though she is very active on SA. Said she had to go to work but call her later. Did but no answer. Next week we are price negotiating. She's a little high but just not the right vibe so on the backburner.

Next up is MILF. We have dinner and promise to see each other again. Next time fucked my brains out (she was very very good) once we agreed on appropriate sugar. In the end I think the commitment was more important than the actual dollar amount. So she will be SB1 and regular for now as great sex, good personality and ready to please. Made a point that sugar in forms other than cash is all ok.

Met a mid 30's for a "drink " which wound up being 4 drinks, etc. Moaned about her life the whole time and provided nothing. OK I was duped.

Mid 20's girl who will not come over but meet for a drink. Downs 4 bloody marys in record time and opens up. Ex stripper, sister is ex stripper, Mom is big on the dom scene and all on SA! Glad for subsequent meetings and road head to drop her off. Could not see the body so not sure of overall. Sugar requirement for get togethers is higher than I like and she will not budge. Onto the backburner.

For next week is the SB1 for a morning and evening session, and another MILF and a late 20's. Negotiating meeting places. I am pretty damn busy! Not sure how I have time for work!

Can a Daddy return to an ATF Sugarbabe and fuck her like before when he has ignored her for eight months?

We shall see, as I am scheduled to meet sb4 and her perfect ass later today.

[QUOTE=Hernando; 1371409]I now have had 3 blackmailers. All from my escorting days, and two quasi escort / SB. All qualified as Nando 1. Desperately poor and substance abusers. Obviously they saw me enough to discover who I am and hit on me. It is impossible to see someone a lot and not have them know who you are IMHO.

My suggestion to prevent this is to stay away from the Type 1's. Never let that "white knight" personality prevail.[/QUOTE]This is good advice Nando. Of course the Nando 1's (who are impoverished compulsives as I recall) are often the easiest to fuck.

[QUOTE=F Scott; 1371398]I hadn't thought of doing that. Honestly, I was glad to have dodged a possible bullet (if that can be done). In thinking more about it, there would have been no benefit to her to "out" me except vindictiveness, and as I said, we parted amicably, but you are right, Magic, the rush was intense.

Scott[/QUOTE]You are a Dare Devil, Mr Scott. If one of my SBs walked in while I was eating with the fam, I would need the Heimlich Maneuver.

[QUOTE=Magic Rat; 1371390]Scott,

I think your recent experience is symbolic of the reasons we partake of this pastime (obsession?). Indeed isn't it the rush of something new and exciting that leads us here? I hate to say it, but I haven't been as diligent as you in protecting my real identity from my sb's. Since I live in a much smaller community than you, I make it a point to not "shit where I eat" to quote Tony Soprano, so I'm pretty sure I would never run into an acquaintance that I had experienced in the FC. Saying that however, I have actually seen a couple of ladies I saw from back in my escorting days, but in neither instance did they see me.

I'm not sure about you, but the attraction for me is feeling that heart pounding and experiencing something new as my life has become pretty routine and uninspiring. Not to say I would want to run into an old sb during dinner, but the rush had to be interesting to say the least. I'm just glad the evening ended without incident. I think it would be interesting to hear if either of you contacted the other afterwards, to share a laugh if nothing else.[/QUOTE]I agree the thrill of clandestine activity is one attraction of our little hobby. For me it is comparable (but inferior) to the thrill of closing in on the sugarbaby's vagina for the first time. The first touch under her panties, the first taste, the first scent, the first penetration, of a new baby's vagina are sublime, deeply satisfying and supremely thrilling in anticipation of what is about to happen. I sometimes ask the girl after she's made herself comfortable in the fucking chamber and maybe I've kissed her a few times,"what do you think is going to happen now?"

Gentlemen,

I hope you all remember the saga of me finding an old employee on SA, contacting her as my alter-ego, and indulging in sexy talk and ultimately getting some outstanding naked pictures from her. Well, yesterday I took it one step closer to the edge of the cliff, so to speak, and I'm kind of conflicted.

I contacted her and arranged a "meeting" in the city on the steps of the Art Institute. I told her that we could take a look around inside if she wanted, or go to a nearby Starbucks and talk. The weather here has been unseasonably warm, so I did not feel bad about asking her to stand outside to wait for me. The plan was to drive by until I saw that she was there, then take off and text later saying something had come up. My thinking here was to see if she still looked as hot in person as she did years ago, and maybe get a little thrill out of it in the bargain.

All went off as planned, and I got a visual confirmation that the hotness quotient is still as high as ever, contacted her later with my "excuse", and that was that - [B]except[/B]: I now feel really guilty that I jerked her chain and made her waste time waiting for me when I knew full well that I wasn't going to show up just to add to my personal fantasy script. I guess I am sharing this with the brotherhood with the intent of reminding us all, myself included, that many of these little babies are not masquerading pros, they are real people, with real lives and feelings, and we should do as Lit so wisely counseled,"do no harm" or something like that. I may try and figure out a way to send her a few grains of sugar to assuage my guilt. Or I could wait a few more days until it passes, which I know it will. Meanwhile, no more joy with my ATF. It may be over for good. I know I keep whining about this, and if I am becoming tediously similar to that guy in high school that we all tried to avoid because he was such a downer, please someone let me know.

Otherwise, keep up the good work. I have had several enjoyable exchanges via pm with a number of brothers, and I urge you all to dedicate yourselves to your pursuit of your little fish, and then let us know how it went.

Lastly, Lit, your post about the first touch under the panties and so on - pure poetry. Would you be willing to call me and talk like that some time? (just kidding)

Scott

[QUOTE=Literal2;1374459]You are a Dare Devil, Mr Scott. If one of my SBs walked in while I was eating with the fam, I would need the Heimlich Maneuver.[/QUOTE]I was kind of wishing I had been wearing a Depenz, honestly, if I'm spelling that correctly. My other thought was to get up to go to the bathroom and then just never come back. People get amnesia all the time, don't they?

Though once I ascertained that there would be no nuclear destruction of my life, the adrenaline buzz was an enjoyable addition to the pinot buzz. I'm not sure my heart could take a steady diet of it, however.

Gentlemen,

One last post before I impose radio silence for the weekend. I was in my local Trader Joe's on Wednesday, buying a few specialty items for the rest of the week's dinners, and found myself in line behind a very attractive 30ish young woman. She had a nose ring, a couple of visible tats, a very artistic outfit on, and some streaks of jet black in her short, spiky blonde hair. I mention this because my experience in the baby world has now alerted me to some details that many of these little fish have in common. My experience has also made me much more adept at talking to hot young women, so on a lark, I said the following: "Excuse me, I'm married, so I promise that this is not coming from some weird place, but I just have to tell you that I think you are one of the most interesting people I have laid eyes on all day long."

I have to back up a little at this point and say that as we were standing in line she had looked back at me and smiled, and I had been obviously looking at her, so it wasn't like I suddenly tapped her on the shoulder or anything. In any event, we got to talking, and it turns out she is a graphic design student at an art school in the city, and pursuing it as a second career after getting married to a Loser didn't work out quite the way she had planned. I introduced myself as my SA name, and casually dropped that I come to this TJ's every Wednesday at this same time, and hoped that I might run into her again. I promised to buy her a bottle of the wine she had in her basket if I did. It was all very fun, flirty, and casual, which I find is kind of the attitude at Trader Joe's, at least around here.

Now I have no expectations that she will be there next week, but [I]I[/I] certainly will, and we shall see what happens. Wouldn't that be fun?

What a world, huh?

Scott