Seeking Arrangements

[QUOTE=DengKemboko;7129878]Serious question: what is the definition of "pro" everybody is using? Is it a lady for whom sugaring is their full-time source of income? Or is it just a matter of professionalism and experience level?

There's someone I've seen a handful of times, who has a full-time job and outside revenue sources, but has also been on SA for a couple of years and has the experience down to a science. Would why'all consider her a "pro"?[/QUOTE]I think that often it's an attitude more than whether she has a job in addition to 'sugaring. '.

Easier to point out one type of Seeking member who's NOT a pro -- the undergrad, grad student, young professional, etc. , who is just sugaring for some combination of extra money, the kink, and the love of sex with older gentlemen. They exist but are getting harder and harder to find on there. This was much more prevalent 5-10 years ago.

[QUOTE=TrustTwoDeal;7129608][URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/107b32aa-eacd-4469-9eda-3efe961401c2[/URL]

Interacted with Amber -single mom of two. Seemed nice at first- good back and forth. Exchanged cells. Then she started negotiating price. Which I don't mind. Wants $3,000 per month with two visits a month- I gave here some feedback basically saying to him. Remind you all I have. Joy met her yet. Anyway text chain starts getting into "that's what I am worth" subject and "last guy gave me that" to which I said call him up again.

My general comment. Clearly there are women. Single parents looking to get extra income. I don't blame them. But they should stop being aggressive and see where a potential relationship or agreement can lead? I gave her lots of feedback. Anyway FYI.[/QUOTE]Her account is 2 days old most likely fake regardless of if you pony up 3 k.

[QUOTE=DengKemboko;7129878]Serious question: what is the definition of "pro" everybody is using?[/QUOTE]I've always consider a pro on SA as an actual escort (I. E. Someone who when cross referenced by number / pic / here that is also on Eros, STG, etc) and using the site.

A semi-pro, to me, is a "veteran" SA user who has been on the site for a while (some with the same profile; most change for either anonymity or throw off reference/review purposes) and is usually just looking for a quick pay and bang situation, watch the clock, and have a fairly high volume. UTR usually want connection, dates, and don't watch the clock with the 1-2 men they see.

Not all semi-pros are bad; the single mom who needs extra cash around the holidays who also is looking for good dick is usually a slam dunk for good times. Although if they do it for a while, they'll get jaded for various reasons (ghosting, bad reaction to raising rates, etc).

I will add, most girls you see on this forum. Fall into this category since they hit up and are open to so many potential suitors, they eventually find one of us who will report AND men, who when they find that unicorn UTR, will often not share those girls on here.

[QUOTE=Rome400;7130081]Her account is 2 days old most likely fake regardless of if you pony up 3 k.[/QUOTE]I assume every profile that new is fake and it takes a LOT of exculpatory evidence to convince me otherwise. Going too fast with a brand new profile is a great way to get scammed or blackmailed.

[QUOTE=DengKemboko;7129878]Serious question: what is the definition of "pro" everybody is using? Is it a lady for whom sugaring is their full-time source of income? Or is it just a matter of professionalism and experience level?

There's someone I've seen a handful of times, who has a full-time job and outside revenue sources, but has also been on SA for a couple of years and has the experience down to a science. Would why'all consider her a "pro"?[/QUOTE]I've always assumed it meant "escort", as in "professional working girl", or "prostitute".

[QUOTE=JClearMan1;7130730]I've always assumed it meant "escort", as in "professional working girl", or "prostitute".[/QUOTE]The lines blurr. . . Wouldn't ANY of these women who exchange sex for $ be "prostitutes" to the letter of the definition? Thus not that useful a distinction.

[QUOTE=Bran2025;7130913]The lines blurr. . . Wouldn't ANY of these women who exchange sex for $ be "prostitutes" to the letter of the definition? Thus not that useful a distinction.[/QUOTE]If you ask most actual SWers, then yes. Professionl SWers don't actually like the SB sites and find pro SBs (like the ones on reddit) to be callous and resentful of what they actually are.

But I think the distinction we use is important when getting intel on here when trying to figure out what a girl is about. Like, if someone reports on a profile that they've seen a girl on eros / STG before, I find that very helpful.

[QUOTE=Hobbyist420;7131023]If you ask most actual SWers, then yes. Professionl SWers don't actually like the SB sites and find pro SBs (like the ones on reddit) to be callous and resentful of what they actually are.

But I think the distinction we use is important when getting intel on here when trying to figure out what a girl is about. Like, if someone reports on a profile that they've seen a girl on eros / STG before, I find that very helpful.[/QUOTE]Yeah there are quite a few different categories we COULD put women in. The "pro SBs that post on Reddit" is definitely one; they target pretty much only the ultra high net worth men, value luxury travel and luxury goods, and from the way they talk are pure gold-diggers it seems to me. There are profiles like this on Seeking, and some are fake / scams (they rip off pics from IG) and I'm sure some are real. This is SO not what I look for that I never message with them, based on the pics and profile text alone. So I never have to worry which are fake / scame and which are real.

My fav category was always the undergrad or better yet grad student who just wants some extra $$ and actually likes the sex. They are few and far between now; I guess the ones that did it found it less than satisfying and that must be the word among them now. . . Because again they are just much more rare now than 5-10 yrs ago. I've had Harvard undergrad and grad students. Emerson. BU. Bentley. No MIT student but one recent grad software engineer.

[QUOTE=Bran2025;7131073]My fav category was always the undergrad or better yet grad student who just wants some extra $$ and actually likes the sex. They are few and far between now; I guess the ones that did it found it less than satisfying and that must be the word among them now[/QUOTE]I also think there are more sites (including dating sites and fetish sites) out there, so the pool is more spread; those types of girls may have well-to-do older men who take care of them, say on a site like Bumble.

COVID spawning inflation, the rise of FINDOM, onlyfans, and the reddit "how to sugar" literature doesn't help.

[QUOTE=Hobbyist420;7131165]I also think there are more sites (including dating sites and fetish sites) out there, so the pool is more spread; those types of girls may have well-to-do older men who take care of them, say on a site like Bumble.

COVID spawning inflation, the rise of FINDOM, onlyfans, and the reddit "how to sugar" literature doesn't help.[/QUOTE]I've not tried any other sites. . . How private can one be on Bumble?

Has anyone met her?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/deec65cd-48df-46e8-993b-be06dbb0c220[/URL]

Seems real. Maybe a pro?

Thanks.

[QUOTE=MarkPowers;7131697]Has anyone met her?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/deec65cd-48df-46e8-993b-be06dbb0c220[/URL]

Seems real. Maybe a pro?

Thanks.[/QUOTE]I have no idea what's going on here. She's been talkative lately but when I bring up actually meeting, goes silent.

[QUOTE=Bran2025;7131796]I have no idea what's going on here. She's been talkative lately but when I bring up actually meeting, goes silent.[/QUOTE]Ditto, doesn't seem to want to follow through, or is juggling too many.

[QUOTE=Bran2025;7116120]Really? I've been doing this for as long as I've been on and off and on again on that site. . . 10 yrs??

Nor do I see anything in the Terms that seems to restrict this in any sort of obvious verbiage, but I could have missed it of course.

And if they wanted to block right-click save, they could.[/QUOTE]Sorry, been off site for a few weeks. Same experience here, on the site for 12 plus years, no problems, flags, interruptions from saving pics (right click, save). I can't help wondering if there's overlap in our seeking experiences over the years.

[QUOTE=BostonJones;7135150]Sorry, been off site for a few weeks. Same experience here, on the site for 12 plus years, no problems, flags, interruptions from saving pics (right click, save). I can't help wondering if there's overlap in our seeking experiences over the years.[/QUOTE]Boston is a pretty small city when all is said and done. I'm sure many of us have f'ed some of the same, for sure.