Thinking of dipping backing into the sugar bowl
I was on SA about 5 years ago with moderate success. I nailed two absolutely hottie 19 year olds, but it took a lot of work to do it. In my time away, I've been RTFF and it seems like the BS is higher than ever. And yet, my probably too high self-confidence tells me I can complete the mission again.
However, the development of the last 5 years is that I'm now married. It's happy, she's great. I'd never have an affair per se. There's just something about getting these super young ones I couldn't have otherwise (I'm 52). Obviously, as I consider this, I'm obviously not going to monger here in Raleigh. And any potential partner is getting NO personal information with which they might blackmail me until we're waaaaaay down the road, IF we got that far. I'll use a google number, cash apps tied to a reloadable cash card, etc, all the stuff you do to protect yourself.
So here's my question, and I assume there are other married mongers on here. Do I be upfront about the fact that I'm married? On the one hand, it would cut through the BS that I had to keep up with, but it also might affect my ability to find a partner. If I didn't tell, it's certainly easier to find a partner, but then I have to keep up with what I'm telling them. One middle ground I thought of is to perhaps just lie and say I'm married with permission to go have fun.
Thoughts? Apart from all that, I've been reading through the ads and yeah, the BS has increased a thousand times. It's going to take a little work, but I think I can find an earnest college girl or two to give me what I want. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?
That's a valid, interesting, perspective.
DJprofessorK. Thanks for a point of view I hadn't thought of, which is exactly why I asked the question.
I suppose if I'm going to have to put in this effort anyway, it's not that much added effort to find one that doesn't care about my marital status.
Vanilla dating turned sugar.
I was out last night with some buddies for drinks and this topic came up:
If you were on a vanilla date, and it was going okay, but not great. Something that looked like it would end pleasantly, but not progress any further, as a last ditch effort, would you ever offer her something in order to be intimate with her? What percentage of women do you think would agree? And what percentage do you think would become offended and walk out? I happen to think a lot of these Raleigh, Durham, and Chapel Hill girls are more into it than we may assume.
I have one friend who is lightly in the hobby, but his standards are weird, so he rarely gets anything off the ground. And another friend who used to scroll through backpage with his coworkers some years ago, but I don't think he ever pulled the trigger.
I actually think the success rate would be higher than most would expect if you weren't a complete jerk about it.