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[QUOTE=FriendlyKing;6961045]When someone says she wants to be discreet and doesn't want to meet in public until she is comfortable, I know it's a red flag. Do you completely drop the idea of meeting or proceed cautiously? I usually don't go ahead with those profiles but thought I'd get other opinions. Have you had any positive experiences meeting someone who insisted on being discreet?[/QUOTE]I think at this point you need to view "discreet" in the context of their profile. I've chatted with a couple of "frustrated" wives who need a bit of discretion. Some of these want the attention behind the doors and what I consider a minor gift (dinner drinks / take them out to buy clothes etc). Rare but they are out there.

Others use "discreet" as more of an advertisting term, aka their a pro or at least semi-pro. They start falling more into the GPS category, and I tend to avoid.

My key words at which I start to lose interest are things like WhatsApp, Telegram or when they want to text in the first couple of messages. I'm going with that anyone using Whatsapp or Telegram is overseas, and they are tricking the SA login location with a VPN. I'd be interested in anyone else thoughts on this.

[QUOTE=IOnDaStreet;6961758]I think at this point you need to view "discreet" in the context of their profile. I've chatted with a couple of "frustrated" wives who need a bit of discretion. Some of these want the attention behind the doors and what I consider a minor gift (dinner drinks / take them out to buy clothes etc). Rare but they are out there.

Others use "discreet" as more of an advertisting term, aka their a pro or at least semi-pro. They start falling more into the GPS category, and I tend to avoid.

My key words at which I start to lose interest are things like WhatsApp, Telegram or when they want to text in the first couple of messages. I'm going with that anyone using Whatsapp or Telegram is overseas, and they are tricking the SA login location with a VPN. I'd be interested in anyone else thoughts on this.[/QUOTE]I agree with you about whatsapp. Under no circumstances will I ever give my whatsapp to anyone on tinder or seeking because it traces back to your phone and you can not (or at least I have not found a way to use it with a textnow or googlevoice account. I get enough spam texts from beautiful asian girls playing the long crypto con and I haven't given out my real number in years. Disagree with you big time on Telegram. Its an amazing app that you basically have two distinct uses. If you are chatting with someone on seeking you can just give them your at username and they can not figure out your identity or phone number. You can set automatic disappearing messages or delete the whole chat on both phones without the other users consent. Case in point I was chatting with this girl and I let my guard down and gave her my address for a session because I totally thought she was authentic, but she asked me for 75 for some bullshit before the appointment. Without any discussion I deleted the chat for both of us so she no longer had my address. (usually I meet at a dunkies a block from my house and drive with them to my house).

As far as discretion goes some of the girls I have had long term success with are college girls that like to maybe grab a meal but also they don't want anyone around their campus or their families to see them with a guy in his 50's. I have no Significant other and my friends all know I love young girls and ****** so discretion isn't something I really need except from my neighbors. I would imagine that married guys value discretion so I don't think you can generalize with that word.

If all their pics are model pics I won't bother. If its a new profile I am wary but will connect if I think its legit and have them send me a video or a picture saying my name or something.

Just my three cents.

[QUOTE=Rome400;6961921]I agree with you about whatsapp. Under no circumstances will I ever give my whatsapp to anyone on tinder or seeking because it traces back to your phone and you can not (or at least I have not found a way to use it with a textnow or googlevoice account. I get enough spam texts from beautiful asian girls playing the long crypto con and I haven't given out my real number in years. Disagree with you big time on Telegram. Its an amazing app that you basically have two distinct uses. If you are chatting with someone on seeking you can just give them your at username and they can not figure out your identity or phone number. You can set automatic disappearing messages or delete the whole chat on both phones without the other users consent. Case in point I was chatting with this girl and I let my guard down and gave her my address for a session because I totally thought she was authentic, but she asked me for 75 for some bullshit before the appointment. Without any discussion I deleted the chat for both of us so she no longer had my address. (usually I meet at a dunkies a block from my house and drive with them to my house).

As far as discretion goes some of the girls I have had long term success with are college girls that like to maybe grab a meal but also they don't want anyone around their campus or their families to see them with a guy in his 50's. I have no Significant other and my friends all know I love young girls and ****** so discretion isn't something I really need except from my neighbors. I would imagine that married guys value discretion so I don't think you can generalize with that word..[/QUOTE]I agree with all of this.

What'sApp is a solid no-go for me. If I'm asked to use it I always say "I only use it for business. " 100% of the asks to use WhatsApp have come from what I'm pretty sure are ex-US scammers.

Telegram however is somewhat commonly used by legit SB's and it's a very good app.

I certainly appreciate that some girls want to be "discreet" and not be seen with an older guy in their neighborhood / by their friends. But the ones who will ONLY meet behind closed doors and are "scared" of even meeting in a hotel lobby. . . Those I assume are up to no good and aim to rob me or worse. If a girl won't meet me in a public place at least to chat for 10 minutes before getting a room, it's a total non-starter for me.

Have been talking to this chick. Seems real. Anyone had any experience with her by any chance?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/f681d4cd-ff8f-4e06-87db-82f64efcf0d7[/URL]

[QUOTE=Bran2025;6962246]I agree with all of this.

What'sApp is a solid no-go for me. If I'm asked to use it I always say "I only use it for business. " 100% of the asks to use WhatsApp have come from what I'm pretty sure are ex-US scammers.

Telegram however is somewhat commonly used by legit SB's and it's a very good app.

I certainly appreciate that some girls want to be "discreet" and not be seen with an older guy in their neighborhood / by their friends. But the ones who will ONLY meet behind closed doors and are "scared" of even meeting in a hotel lobby. . . Those I assume are up to no good and aim to rob me or worse. If a girl won't meet me in a public place at least to chat for 10 minutes before getting a room, it's a total non-starter for me.[/QUOTE]Can pay for a free trial on a phone app number to connect it to WhatsApp then discontinue the trial to not pay for the app number service. I have Android so I'm able to duplicate my apps to be able to log into one account and on the copy app to another. That way my real number WhatsApp is still up and running with my monger one as well. Mainly use WhatsApp in South American countries when I sex travel but there are a few SB in the MA / RI area who use it and I've communicated with. Didn't know about telegram being able to just send your user name but also been askd to communicate on that. Regardless of the commutation platform I always do a video call. Snapchat, WhatsApp, SA or Face Time as now iphone users can send a link to connect a Android users to the FaceTime channel. Definitely saves time and money when you can see them and if they look like their pictures. When they don't want to then that's the red flag that stops everything for me.

This is my first time using seeking in the US. Got VIP primarily for my end of the month trip to the Cape.

Anyone had any experience with this chick? [URL]https://members.seeking.com/messages/inbox/acbefe53-f66b-4034-99ae-8b7e16e560e3[/URL].

I'm texting with her. She seems real. It seems like we're going in the right direction but something makes me wonder. Anyone knows what I'm dealing with here?

Also this: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/messages/inbox/85c44ec8-8d1c-47e0-82dc-650f714c8c0e[/URL].

[QUOTE=Bran2025;6962246]I agree with all of this.

What'sApp is a solid no-go for me. If I'm asked to use it I always say "I only use it for business. " 100% of the asks to use WhatsApp have come from what I'm pretty sure are ex-US scammers.

Telegram however is somewhat commonly used by legit SB's and it's a very good app.

I certainly appreciate that some girls want to be "discreet" and not be seen with an older guy in their neighborhood / by their friends. But the ones who will ONLY meet behind closed doors and are "scared" of even meeting in a hotel lobby. . . Those I assume are up to no good and aim to rob me or worse. If a girl won't meet me in a public place at least to chat for 10 minutes before getting a room, it's a total non-starter for me.[/QUOTE]I know our phones listen and pick up things we search or write for marketing but didn't know SB's were too! Hahaha I'm pulling the trigger though gents wish me luck 😬!

[QUOTE=EmvLa;6963069]I know our phones listen and pick up things we search or write for marketing but didn't know SB's were too! Hahaha I'm pulling the trigger though gents wish me luck![/QUOTE]LOL. If it were me I would push and push to see how discreet a 'public' meetup they might agree to. The one I was talking to here in the Boston area wanted to meet in a hotel room, but would not even agree to say hi in the lobby first. I pushed it to "let's just meet at the elevator and ride up together" and she claimed she was not comfortable with that. Her (bad) intentions were clear.

[QUOTE=EmvLa;6962882]Can pay for a free trial on a phone app number to connect it to WhatsApp then discontinue the trial to not pay for the app number service. I have Android so I'm able to duplicate my apps to be able to log into one account and on the copy app to another. That way my real number WhatsApp is still up and running with my monger one as well. Mainly use WhatsApp in South American countries when I sex travel but there are a few SB in the MA / RI area who use it and I've communicated with. Didn't know about telegram being able to just send your user name but also been askd to communicate on that. Regardless of the commutation platform I always do a video call. Snapchat, WhatsApp, SA or Face Time as now iphone users can send a link to connect a Android users to the FaceTime channel. Definitely saves time and money when you can see them and if they look like their pictures. When they don't want to then that's the red flag that stops everything for me.[/QUOTE]I've never tried but is there a way to FaceTime where they don't see your real contact info?

[QUOTE=Bran2025;6963160]LOL. If it were me I would push and push to see how discreet a 'public' meetup they might agree to. The one I was talking to here in the Boston area wanted to meet in a hotel room, but would not even agree to say hi in the lobby first. I pushed it to "let's just meet at the elevator and ride up together" and she claimed she was not comfortable with that. Her (bad) intentions were clear.[/QUOTE]Push for the video call. I mean I've seen escorts before without doing that and knocking hoping when they open it as they're behind the door they look like their pictures and not a set up haha. I'm still young and fit my monger standards so not worried to get into a tussle, always carry a "tool" to fight dirty just incase. Luckily never have needed it so knock on my hard wood hahah I don't need to in the future. If she doesn't do a video call however than it's all to shambles.

[QUOTE=Bran2025;6963161]I've never tried but is there a way to FaceTime where they don't see your real contact info?[/QUOTE]I don't know. Try it with some of your friends or hell me if you want. I clicked a link to her Face Time room or whatever it's called but don't remember if I wrote my name in there or saw her name or number. I'll ask her actually come to think of it.

[QUOTE=Bran2025;6963161]I've never tried but is there a way to FaceTime where they don't see your real contact info?[/QUOTE][URL]https://www.reddit.com/r/iphone/comments/8n7wow/is_there_anyway_to_set_up_a_facetime_that_wont/[/URL]

[QUOTE=Nrlmus;6962657]Have been talking to this chick. Seems real. Anyone had any experience with her by any chance?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/f681d4cd-ff8f-4e06-87db-82f64efcf0d7[/URL][/QUOTE]I've texted on and off with her, I have not been able to see her. My experiences, She seems sincere, not too pushy at all. Actually sent me a follow-up messages as we had lost connection but I have sensed a good vibe.

Jolene is on "vacation". Not sure how long. Initial experience, not as well. She contacted and wanted to meet that day. I wasn't available and definitely felt like I got an attitude with her. I asked about a different day. Just reread the message and it was a hard nope, I'm on vacation. She has reached out to me since but the initial attitude, I don't feel like dealing with a princess.

[QUOTE=IOnDaStreet;6964722]I've texted on and off with her, I have not been able to see her. My experiences, She seems sincere, not too pushy at all. Actually sent me a follow-up messages as we had lost connection but I have sensed a good vibe.

Jolene is on "vacation". Not sure how long. Initial experience, not as well. She contacted and wanted to meet that day. I wasn't available and definitely felt like I got an attitude with her. I asked about a different day. Just reread the message and it was a hard nope, I'm on vacation. She has reached out to me since but the initial attitude, I don't feel like dealing with a princess.[/QUOTE]Thank you for your response. I haven't contacted Jolene yet and am not sure if I will but I get the same vibe from the babygirl.

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