Very good advice all around
[QUOTE=Percius917;7229208]The longer you are in the hobby you will develop the 6th sense to move past the scams without wasting your own time.
For escorts this is my process:
1. Do a google image search on all photos.
2. Do a search for the phone numbers.
3. Look for cross posts.
4. Look for reviews.
5. If it seems like its TGTBT then it most likely is TGTBT.
6. I absolutely do not pay deposits except under 1 circumstance: I am seeing a high end, well known, and well reviewed provider that is trustworthy.
7. Do a google search of parts of their ad copy. If it hits multiple ads from multiple women in multiple cities, that is a tell sign it is a scam.
Just use common sense. When you find a legit provider follow their rules and do not text them every 15 minutes. Follow the KISS method and you will be fine.
For massage places, read reviews to find out what places offer what sort of services. Not all offer FS.
Do not walk in nervous. Make your intentions very clear during the beginning of the meeting. Do not be afraid to touch them. I will wait for the provider to come in the room and will walk up to her and give her a big hug butt naked with a hard on out in the open.
Once you go to a few massage places you will become a lot more comfortable and it will be a lot easier to get what you want if you are in the right place.[/QUOTE]Very true on the 6th sense that is developed over time.
I just want to address deposits, since I know it is a touchy subject, especially around here. I have paid a number of deposits in my time doing this. And, I have only been scammed out of one. It was a pornstar I had seen before, so I thought it was fine. But she had stopped escorting and her boyfriend had taken over her online profiles to scam deposits.
Point is, you may be scammed out of a deposit eventually. In some ways, if the occasional lost deposit is the worst thing that happens to you in this hobby, it could be A LOT worse. I'd rather be scammed out of a deposit once a decade than have lackluster experiences with low-end providers who don't even try to connect with you as a person, rush you out of the session, etc. In those experiences, I feel like I'm being scammed for the whole fee.
I just paid a deposit for a high end girl in a different city. Some things that I look for before paying a deposit: 1) a high end website that contains a fair amount of text describing the provider and allows me to get a sense of her personality, 2) a presence on an advertisement platform like Tryst / Slixa, 3) Ideally, reviews, although with some high end girls they don't like reviews published, and I understand their perspective there, 4) a twitter / bluesky presence where they are engaging and posting frequently (again, to get a sense of their personality), including selfies / pictures, and 5) welcoming communication. Re: #5, with a true high end girl their communication is on point and professional. There should be a welcoming presence in emails and not just blanket demands for deposits.
If you make it through all of those things and she still seems like a real person, I have no problem sending the deposit. That is a lot of legwork for someone to do just to scam someone. And, so many guys out there won't even consider deposits anyway, so the segment of the market they are targeting is one that is really combing through the web presence of the provider to make sure they are likely to have a good experience / connect with that person. It's hard to fake.
Just my two cents. I recognize deposits aren't for everyone. I'm sure plenty of people will call me an idiot for paying deposits ever. That said, I've had a lot of really great experiences with girls that require a deposit. And, I'm glad I paid it, instead of missing out.
Kat Sounds like she is burnt out
Many people get burn out of their job. Accountants, police, factory worker and now we can add *****. I been on this forum a few years and I remember the reviews of KatDMilf. I wanted to see her early on but I am cheap and the times I did have some extra money I wasn't close to her location and the times I was close didn't have the, or really didn't want to spend, the money. Early reviews seem positive and now the reviews seem to run mostly negative. We need to realize that she may just be sick of her job for any number of reasons. As she ages she will be less in demand. And the ones who would still want to see her will no longer be seeking her services. I hope she has been saving.
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