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Lighten Up Francis!
[QUOTE=FMichaels4533;3579888]Between NFL players taking a knee, people tearing down historic statues and generally trying to rewrite our history, the last place I expect to have to be preached to is in this hobby. News flash girls, we come to visit you to escape from the BS and enjoy just a bit of fantasy and pleasure (hopefully for both). So please keep political commentary to yourself unless it comes up in polite conversation initiated by your client. Here is what set me off, a quote from Cassie's post yesterday:
"Or as I like to call it, Happy National Genicide of Indigenous People Day!" I'm guessing she pissed off quite a few Italian American clients. I've seen her before and had fun, but she's off my list now.
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Stay Safe.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Willow1535;3598095]Lighten Up Francis![/QUOTE]Who cares. WTF, you want to build a long time relationship / life with her? Have fun and be on your way.
So for the first time I had a provider ask for references. I had no idea even where to start with that. I was honest with her about that, and she told me that references were just a couple other providers I had seen before. I'm thinking if this were a job reference, I would first ask the other provider if she would be willing to be a reference for me, but in this context that seems awkward.
Any advice?
In a session? If you are disappointed do you say anything? Even though it was just ok, would you see her again?
A lot of escorts are asked that. The worst that could happen is that they give you an attitude about it and that's on them. If I were you I'd just text escorts I'd seen before and see if they are willing to provide references for you, that way if they cop an attitude you don't have to deal with them on the phone. Otherwise I think most escorts would be willing to vouch for you.
[QUOTE=Filmbyter;3598397]So for the first time I had a provider ask for references. I had no idea even where to start with that. I was honest with her about that, and she told me that references were just a couple other providers I had seen before. I'm thinking if this were a job reference, I would first ask the other provider if she would be willing to be a reference for me, but in this context that seems awkward.
Any advice?[/QUOTE]My two cents. Which ever other ladies or lady you seen that can vouch for you. Just ask, as it is business. The arrangement you have with a provider or providers shouldn't be monogamous by any means. And in reality, your just a paycheck. I say just ask her. The lady in question, you may be reluctant to ask may either step up her game to keep your business or help you out. Either way it could be a win for you. And if she cuts you off. Move on. It is her lose!
Personally i perfer a lady to ask me for references as i know that they are the safer provider, than ones they throw out their address and donation right away. Especially for a first time meeting. Are the ones i am reluctant to meet. This past weekend i was set to meet a lady that has had awesome reviews of her performance, but when i contacted her there was no mention or reference or a member of USA. Which sounds goofy, but my spidey senses wont let me get confortable for fear this is a setup or the lady may be under servalence and someone is building a case and keeping records. That is just my 2 cents
Just floating an idea, if there should be another separate cathegory for anything other than vanilla.
From time to time it's nice to see a provider who specifically wears something you really like or is willing to do what regulars "do it for a tip", meaning is really into any of the subcultures of getting off.
Thoughts?
Cheers.
[QUOTE=TapThat;3598439]My two cents. Which ever other ladies or lady you seen that can vouch for you. Just ask, as it is business. The arrangement you have with a provider or providers shouldn't be monogamous by any means. And in reality, your just a paycheck. I say just ask her. The lady in question, you may be reluctant to ask may either step up her game to keep your business or help you out. Either way it could be a win for you. And if she cuts you off. Move on. It is her lose!
Personally i perfer a lady to ask me for references as i know that they are the safer provider, than ones they throw out their address and donation right away. Especially for a first time meeting. Are the ones i am reluctant to meet. This past weekend i was set to meet a lady that has had awesome reviews of her performance, but when i contacted her there was no mention or reference or a member of USA. Which sounds goofy, but my spidey senses wont let me get confortable for fear this is a setup or the lady may be under servalence and someone is building a case and keeping records. That is just my 2 cents[/QUOTE]Personally, I don't mind giving references. It is reassuring to know that providers can give each other reliable information based on experience.
I can B. S. Some big long explanation on why I don't as to why I don't ask for references but honestly its due to sheer laziness and disordergnizstion.
[QUOTE=SalaMander;3598499]Just floating an idea, if there should be another separate cathegory for anything other than vanilla.
From time to time it's nice to see a provider who specifically wears something you really like or is willing to do what regulars "do it for a tip", meaning is really into any of the subcultures of getting off.
Thoughts?
Cheers.[/QUOTE]Top end providers will accommodate your request.
[QUOTE=SalaMander;3598499]Just floating an idea, if there should be another separate cathegory for anything other than vanilla.
From time to time it's nice to see a provider who specifically wears something you really like or is willing to do what regulars "do it for a tip", meaning is really into any of the subcultures of getting off.
Thoughts?
Cheers.[/QUOTE]I tend to agree with this. I find the words "fetish friendly" to be generally overbroad--There is a VAST difference between a lady that wears Garters and likes a bit of spanking and one that will freely recreate "2 girls, 1 cup" while showing up dressed as Smokey bear with a diaper on. As I really don't like to get into specifics with a provider until after I know her a bit. I never like directly associating an act with a price before I am certain her Uncle is not in the room with us. Sometimes I feel a little blind in asking what specific fetishes she either 1) Enjoys tremendously, 2) Pays for Play or 3) OH HELL NO. Not at any price. Reviews help flesh out the specifics. But sometimes, particularly in the fetish realm. The information is either not available or kept close hold until you are in the room with her.
[QUOTE=Deb4512;3598420]In a session? If you are disappointed do you say anything? Even though it was just ok, would you see her again?[/QUOTE]I don't have any real deep fetishes. I rattle off a few things I like (just ask Cassie ha) and they either do a good job or not.
If I'm bored I simply get up, get dressed and leave. If it is obvious they aren't going to live up to their end of the deal or they are just "phoning it in" so to speak, I'll say something, but at that point usually, I'm bored and dressing.
I vote with my wallet. If there's nothing I really like, I won't be back. On the flip side, if they really trip my trigger, they stand a good chance of seeing quite a bit of me.
[QUOTE=Cassie92;3598517]Personally, I don't mind giving references. It is reassuring to know that providers can give each other reliable information based on experience.
I can B. S. Some big long explanation on why I don't as to why I don't ask for references but honestly its due to sheer laziness and disordergnizstion.[/QUOTE]Sweetiepie, you should be asking for references and screening, because eventually, if you don't, one of two things will happen:
[B]1. Best case. You'll get hooked by Uncle LEO. I understand downtown incarceration is pretty organized.[/B]
[B]2. Worst case. You're going to meet a nutcase that's dangerous. I know a couple of girls that this has happened to, especially on outcall.[/B]
Not lecturing. It's your business. Be careful.
[QUOTE=Cassie92;3598517]Personally, I don't mind giving references. It is reassuring to know that providers can give each other reliable information based on experience.
I can B. S. Some big long explanation on why I don't as to why I don't ask for references but honestly its due to sheer laziness and disordergnizstion.[/QUOTE]It is your business, you run it as you see fit. Laziness and disorganization is no excuse, but carelessness. You put your self at risk and potentially your client. This is an arrangement with the expectation of a dramafree meeting. Also you ladies watching out for one another and yourselves at the same time. Just be safe.
[QUOTE=RogerOver;3598775]I don't have any real deep fetishes. I rattle off a few things I like (just ask Cassie ha) and they either do a good job or not.
If I'm bored I simply get up, get dressed and leave. If it is obvious they aren't going to live up to their end of the deal or they are just "phoning it in" so to speak, I'll say something, but at that point usually, I'm bored and dressing.
I vote with my wallet. If there's nothing I really like, I won't be back. On the flip side, if they really trip my trigger, they stand a good chance of seeing quite a bit of me.[/QUOTE]Voting with the wallet is the best way. Saying something usually doesn't accomplish much. Everyone has a bad or off day abd lets face it not everyone gets the same treatment. But my question is how much does one not going back actually hurt a provider. Also what does a provider actually consider a regular or valued customer. How many times a month does one need to show up to be considered a regular? Most guys like variety and always looking for someone new so even a great provider doesn't get a mongers monthly budget for play.