Is it a huge time sink? Yes, indeed. And not everyone has the time. But the huge investment is really needed if (like me) you like a lot of variety. If you're just looking for 2-3 reasonable regulars, that is easy as cake to find. Maybe my memory is faulty, but I've been doing this for long enough going back to SW and CL days and I think we tend to over-romanticize the past. Things have actually gotten WAY better! Also, we lose the energy to pursue the way we once did. The scammers are easy to identify and steer clear of. Finally, I never block anyone. There is no need to take extreme measures. I've had ladies throw huge numbers at me and I just wait them out. In a weak moment (planning a trip to Florida) they will agree to a more reasonable arrangement. But you need to be very organized. The number of times I've had fellow mongers ask me who I'm talking about when we've discussed her many times just causes me to shake my head. Keep a notebook (physical or electronic) otherwise you're toast in this game (or any game that you wish to take seriously). If you're impatient and looking for quick results (like I need something today or now) you're going to have a lot of failures. Play the long game and you will do well. At least those whom I have shared with at some point or another will hopefully agree that a methodical and patient approach pays off in the end.
[QUOTE=NastySD;6875646]I think that you just have to play the law of large numbers. When I am looking I send the same message basically, making it clear that I'm not looking for anything serious but would love to discuss a ppm thing if she's into that. I get a lot of bites and often from girls you definitely wouldn't suspect some of them straight say they're not into it in their profile but they really are and the PPM is always reasonable. I get 400 the most frequently which can always be widdled down to 300 or even 250. I have had a couple say 1000 and I just blocked them and I've had some say 600 to which I always just politely say, wow. You're so pretty I get it. I just can't justify that to myself. Best of luck. 80% of the time they come down. I don't play with small talk. I get them off site asap and explain what I am looking for and ask what kinda allowance would work of they're game. This is as difficult as you make it. My advice is cast a wide net, see what bites negotiate with several then choose. It will take a few hours, but in the end you'll have at least a fist full of hopefuls.[/QUOTE]
