Thinking about it...need advice
Hi guys,
For the past couple of days I have been reading through all these posts and I must say that this place is an incredible resource and would like to thank everyone who has contributed. Before I get to my questions, I will tell you a little about myself. I am 21 years and currently go to college in Boston, I am from NJ though. I have less experience with girls than probably anyone on this board. Never kissed, never held hands, never even been on a date. I attribute this mainly to my low self esteem since I am very embarrased by my physical appearance (slightly overweight, losing my hair, lazy eye.) let's just say that I have become so depressed by how I look that I cannot even look in mirrors anymore. I recently turned 21 and figured that I would hit the bars around here looking for girls (I could even go older as I have a thing for MILFS) even though I can't stand the taste of alcohol, but my low self-confidence has prevented me from even trying, plus I do not have any close friends up here, again due to the poor self esteem.
OK, enough ranting. I wanted to ask you guys for your recommendation of where exactly to go in Providence and what to do. In NJ, I have been to a club that offers 5 minute/20 dollar lapdances which includes unlimited hugging, tit and ass grabbing, as well as intense grinding. After the first visit I began wearing condoms to the club and would cum during the dances. It is pretty great. I have realized that Boston is kind of a wasteland when it comes to adult entertainment so I have decided to venture down to Providence. At first I had wanted to go to a strip club, but then I started reading about these AMPs. I am pretty sure that I want more than HR since I pretty much get that from myself everyday, but I am somewhat hesitant to go all the way, partly becuase I am somewhat of a germophobe and partly becuse I don't know how I will feel in the future about losing my virginity to an AMP girl. A girlfriend is what I really want, but that is not looking to good anytime soon. Since I will be taking the Commuter rail to get there, the problem of transportation also comes up. I know that DT is pretty close to the station though so I have kind of been leaning towards going there. I think about what the experience would be like as I give myself HR and it gets me hot, that is until I blow. Then for about the next 5 mins I feel like I might regret it. I am also kind of afraid of blowing it as soon as she touches me and ruining the whole thing. Sorry I have gone on for so long, I would like to hear what you guys have to say. Given my situation, what do you guys think I should do?
Thank You.
21 is still young enough change your mindset change your world.
Mate 21 is still a young enough age to make changes.
Work on improving your self image and confidence.
I didn't come to age til I was almost 30. get in shape. walk daily don't eat too much crap and junk food.
Thinning hair is not rare get a good haircut and show the world you can be a Picard and not a capt kirk.
Make small changes and be patient.Listen to good music read some good books follow world events and learn about fine wine.
Show the world you are a smart learned young man.
It is your choice how you will get your sexual experience. I could easily make arguments either way.
Nothing like your own girlfriend
[QUOTE=Rocket97]Hi guys,
For the past couple of days I have been reading through all these posts and I must say that this place is an incredible resource and would like to thank everyone who has contributed. Before I get to my questions, I will tell you a little about myself. I am 21 years and currently go to college in Boston, I am from NJ though. I have less experience with girls than probably anyone on this board. Never kissed, never held hands, never even been on a date. I attribute this mainly to my low self esteem since I am very embarrased by my physical appearance (slightly overweight, losing my hair, lazy eye.) let's just say that I have become so depressed by how I look that I cannot even look in mirrors anymore. I recently turned 21 and figured that I would hit the bars around here looking for girls (I could even go older as I have a thing for MILFS) even though I can't stand the taste of alcohol, but my low self-confidence has prevented me from even trying, plus I do not have any close friends up here, again due to the poor self esteem.
OK, enough ranting. I wanted to ask you guys for your recommendation of where exactly to go in Providence and what to do. In NJ, I have been to a club that offers 5 minute/20 dollar lapdances which includes unlimited hugging, tit and ass grabbing, as well as intense grinding. After the first visit I began wearing condoms to the club and would cum during the dances. It is pretty great. I have realized that Boston is kind of a wasteland when it comes to adult entertainment so I have decided to venture down to Providence. At first I had wanted to go to a strip club, but then I started reading about these AMPs. I am pretty sure that I want more than HR since I pretty much get that from myself everyday, but I am somewhat hesitant to go all the way, partly becuase I am somewhat of a germophobe and partly becuse I don't know how I will feel in the future about losing my virginity to an AMP girl. A girlfriend is what I really want, but that is not looking to good anytime soon. Since I will be taking the Commuter rail to get there, the problem of transportation also comes up. I know that DT is pretty close to the station though so I have kind of been leaning towards going there. I think about what the experience would be like as I give myself HR and it gets me hot, that is until I blow. Then for about the next 5 mins I feel like I might regret it. I am also kind of afraid of blowing it as soon as she touches me and ruining the whole thing. Sorry I have gone on for so long, I would like to hear what you guys have to say. Given my situation, what do you guys think I should do?
Thank You.[/QUOTE]
There is nothing like your own girlfriend. And there is nothing like your first time with your own girlfriend. There just is not. Period.
The "GFE" for which people pay a premium is not even close, not even in the same galaxy. The term "GFE" is bullshit.
Robaba and Toodw give sage advice. You sound like a nice guy. Be patient. Stay positive. Work at bettering yourself. You will meet a nice girl.
A risk is that if you get used to sex with attractive, skilled professionals, having clumsy sex with your imperfect girlfriend might not compare favorably. You might miss out on the mutual learning experience that helps bind lovers.
Relax. Be patient. You will be fine.
Rocket ,just be able to say to yourself no regrets/no worries
Rocket,
You have a good bunch of guys here wishing the best for you.
We all in some way can identify with you and we may have been faced with your choices.I know I was.
You are a man and my only advice is :if you can make the choice to "go for it" and and truly have no regrets/no worries, then enjoy. I imagine many men developed some sexual confidence from AMP experiences.It can be a fun learning experience if you keep perspective/emotional boundaries in place.
I dated a couple girls in college even had "a girfriend or 2" but no girlfriend sex...but the romance was still good while it lasted.even if it was a roller coaster sometimes.Confuscius once said "he who looks from afar fucks air."
"You get what you give..." (Young Radicals)
I spent 70 bucks on from a Boston Phoenix ad for a 30 min "experience" neither gfe or pse .It was actually a bland,mechanical,uninspiring moment. I had better physical climatic experiences going "solo".I got "it over with "but I didnt feel any better or different.Life went on.
The "blueballed" experiences with the girls I dated I would trade for any gfe(certainly without the blueballs!) because they were real and with real emotions ,even if some of the emotions were not all cloud nine and at times painful.
Hopefully you will learn that gfe can never compare to girlfriend emotional/sexual intimacy.You can enjoy AMP's if you put the experience for "what it is" in perspective whether you just want a good TS/massage or going in looking for the "works".