"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2403557]I've had that surgery too (it was actually due to heavy exercise). Very common surgery for athletes, I'd almost say inevitable. But the surgery itself is a walk in the park -- I was back at the gym only a few weeks later. Hopefully that wasn't your reason for giving up exercise.

Eating right is important too (I didn't even cover that in my message but probably should have). I have to say though, stair climbing is only good for you on a machine where you are always going up. Walking down stairs is bad for the body and a ticket to knee replacement surgery in the long run. Also you would need to continuously do the upstairs climb for about half an hour to get the same cardio benefit. Here and there throughout the same does not have the same effect.

Doctors would rather you go to them for ongoing revenue purposes than to solve issues the free and natural way. They want you to take the latest boner pills or hormone therapy, because quite simply they do not profit from healthy people, they profit from sick people.[/QUOTE]Well its 80 stairs round trip just to get to my front door. Gave me some pretty tight legs. As far as pills, its either that or fall down on the job. Also got lipo on the belly. Gave me a 4 pack, the rest is still buried under some baby fat. But no ones complaining. One reason I think I can date all these spinners. I have a male spinner mentality. In the midwest where I am from, everyone always said I looked too thin or sick. In hollywood they say I look like a rockstar. And there is a female spinner mentality. I always tap into it as fast as possible when I meet one. Its like a bonding experience.

[QUOTE=HollywoodGuy;2403846]Well its 80 stairs round trip just to get to my front door. Gave me some pretty tight legs. As far as pills, its either that or fall down on the job. Also got lipo on the belly. Gave me a 4 pack, the rest is still buried under some baby fat. But no ones complaining. One reason I think I can date all these spinners. I have a male spinner mentality. In the midwest where I am from, everyone always said I looked too thin or sick. In hollywood they say I look like a rockstar. And there is a female spinner mentality. I always tap into it as fast as possible when I meet one. Its like a bonding experience.[/QUOTE]I like to be as thin as I can get. Getting too skinny or too fat has never really been a problem for me, I have the kind of build that can tolerate a 25 lb weight difference before anyone even notices I've gained or lost. The realities of work (sitting a lot) make a 6-pack a goal that is possibly achievable, but I guess I don't want it bad enough to put in the effort. But, I have my "comfort zone" weight and then my "optimal" weight for picking up women. Getting rid of the last 5-8 lbs of "comfort zone" weight seems to bolster female reactions in my favor. Experiments with my weight have all been done in civy dating world, I'd imagine that success with SBs would be less affected if I let myself go a bit since financial support is part of their motivation. But when it comes to sex, to me fat just gets in the way (whether its on her or on me), so in general I want to minimize it. I like my women thin and fit, and the fitter I am the more sexual energy I think I have.

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2403892]I like to be as thin as I can get. Getting too skinny or too fat has never really been a problem for me, I have the kind of build that can tolerate a 25 lb weight difference before anyone even notices I've gained or lost. The realities of work (sitting a lot) make a 6-pack a goal that is possibly achievable, but I guess I don't want it bad enough to put in the effort. But, I have my "comfort zone" weight and then my "optimal" weight for picking up women. Getting rid of the last 5-8 lbs of "comfort zone" weight seems to bolster female reactions in my favor. Experiments with my weight have all been done in civy dating world, I'd imagine that success with SBs would be less affected if I let myself go a bit since financial support is part of their motivation. But when it comes to sex, to me fat just gets in the way (whether its on her or on me), so in general I want to minimize it. I like my women thin and fit, and the fitter I am the more sexual energy I think I have.[/QUOTE]No doubt. And the positions you can get in if you are fit, with a spinner, make it so much better all around. But girls are far less concerned with our bodies than we are with theirs.

[QUOTE=HollywoodGuy;2403937]No doubt. And the positions you can get in if you are fit, with a spinner, make it so much better all around. But girls are far less concerned with our bodies than we are with theirs.[/QUOTE]As a long time yo yo guy with weight, I will affirm HG on women not being as concerned. I have gotten calls from chicks wanting to get laid when I was heavy, I have gotten them when I am trim, no change in frequency that I could tell.

[QUOTE=Beachesnole02;2404885]As a long time yo yo guy with weight, I will affirm HG on women not being as concerned. I have gotten calls from chicks wanting to get laid when I was heavy, I have gotten them when I am trim, no change in frequency that I could tell.[/QUOTE]They don't care $$ talks.

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2388832]Just for the record, no legitimate SB would ever invite you to her place for the first meeting. If she does that, she is a hardened pro.[/QUOTE]I have to respectfully disagree with this particular point. My best SB ever (and longest SB relationship) invited me to her place for our first meet. To say it was amazing would be an understatement. I brought wine and cheese and after the first glass calmed our nervousness, we went at it like rabbits for hours. I popped at least 4 times. She was a foreign grad student (I didn't know that at the time) who I think genuinely needed the cash, but also wanted the sex. She was in her 30's, not interested in marriage or children and her sex drive was unbelievable. I may have mentioned her in the past. I still miss her. I will admit that her residence was in a secure building in a nice part of town, and it would definitely have been sketchier if she was in a house in a no-so-great area. But I don't think any SB who invites you to her place for a first meet is necessarily a scammer or thief.

She was also clearly not a hardened pro. It was pretty obvious I was the only Daddy she had, and we progressed to overnights and dinner dates and even the occasional long Saturday night into Sunday brunch combo. She was available anytime I wanted to see her if she was not working. All for the same low amount I left her (without ever discussing it) when I left after our first marathon session. In fact, she was grateful for every ounce of help. She was going home before Christmas, and I popped in to drop of a very inexpensive gift. I was really just planning on dropping off the gift and being on my way. But sShe was so thrilled, she literally couldn't stop thanking me and before I could say boo, she had dropped to her knees and had me out and in her mouth. I told her I didn't have any allowance, and she didn't care. It really about showing appreciation for the gift. A hardened pro would not have acted in any of the ways she did.

Norm!

[QUOTE=NormGerd;2405094]I have to respectfully disagree with this particular point. My best SB ever (and longest SB relationship) invited me to her place for our first meet. To say it was amazing would be an understatement. I brought wine and cheese and after the first glass calmed our nervousness, we went at it like rabbits for hours. I popped at least 4 times. She was a foreign grad student (I didn't know that at the time) who I think genuinely needed the cash, but also wanted the sex. She was in her 30's, not interested in marriage or children and her sex drive was unbelievable. I may have mentioned her in the past. I still miss her. I will admit that her residence was in a secure building in a nice part of town, and it would definitely have been sketchier if she was in a house in a no-so-great area. But I don't think any SB who invites you to her place for a first meet is necessarily a scammer or thief.

She was also clearly not a hardened pro. It was pretty obvious I was the only Daddy she had, and we progressed to overnights and dinner dates and even the occasional long Saturday night into Sunday brunch combo. She was available anytime I wanted to see her if she was not working. All for the same low amount I left her (without ever discussing it) when I left after our first marathon session. In fact, she was grateful for every ounce of help. She was going home before Christmas, and I popped in to drop of a very inexpensive gift. I was really just planning on dropping off the gift and being on my way. But sShe was so thrilled, she literally couldn't stop thanking me and before I could say boo, she had dropped to her knees and had me out and in her mouth. I told her I didn't have any allowance, and she didn't care. It really about showing appreciation for the gift. A hardened pro would not have acted in any of the ways she did.

Norm![/QUOTE]After literally hundreds of girls. Its hard to generalize. Girls are all over the map. Normally I don't go inside a lot of girls homes as their parents probably wouldn't appreciate that, but anything is possible. But have picked up plenty from their parents front door (practically the equivalent) and gone straight to the FC, whether that was the car or my home. I am continually surprised and entertained by some of the things that happen in the bowl.

It's what we all look for. NormGerd, I've been there. One of my first pots that became an SB was a Polish born foreign girl. We fucked like rabbits until her requests got larger. (eg she wanted clothes on top of her allowance which got increasingly more difficult to manage).

Long story short, they are out there- you just have to find them before they become greedy.

[QUOTE=NormGerd;2405094]I have to respectfully disagree with this particular point. My best SB ever (and longest SB relationship) invited me to her place for our first meet. To say it was amazing would be an understatement. I brought wine and cheese and after the first glass calmed our nervousness, we went at it like rabbits for hours. I popped at least 4 times. She was a foreign grad student (I didn't know that at the time) who I think genuinely needed the cash, but also wanted the sex. She was in her 30's, not interested in marriage or children and her sex drive was unbelievable. I may have mentioned her in the past. I still miss her. I will admit that her residence was in a secure building in a nice part of town, and it would definitely have been sketchier if she was in a house in a no-so-great area. But I don't think any SB who invites you to her place for a first meet is necessarily a scammer or thief.

She was also clearly not a hardened pro. It was pretty obvious I was the only Daddy she had, and we progressed to overnights and dinner dates and even the occasional long Saturday night into Sunday brunch combo. She was available anytime I wanted to see her if she was not working. All for the same low amount I left her (without ever discussing it) when I left after our first marathon session. In fact, she was grateful for every ounce of help. She was going home before Christmas, and I popped in to drop of a very inexpensive gift. I was really just planning on dropping off the gift and being on my way. But sShe was so thrilled, she literally couldn't stop thanking me and before I could say boo, she had dropped to her knees and had me out and in her mouth. I told her I didn't have any allowance, and she didn't care. It really about showing appreciation for the gift. A hardened pro would not have acted in any of the ways she did.

Norm![/QUOTE]

Ran into my 1st babies mother one morning when picking her up for breakfast! Dumbass me parks too close, mom opens the door to see what her little angle was doing, looks me straight in the eyes not 20' away. Kept calm, off we went. She had a bit to explain but wasnt an issue for me.

About a minute away from meeting an aunt of another baby. That would have been a lot more akward given the situation, A lot more.

[QUOTE=HollywoodGuy;2405125]After literally hundreds of girls. Its hard to generalize. Girls are all over the map. Normally I don't go inside a lot of girls homes as their parents probably wouldn't appreciate that, but anything is possible. But have picked up plenty from their parents front door (practically the equivalent) and gone straight to the FC, whether that was the car or my home. I am continually surprised and entertained by some of the things that happen in the bowl.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=NormGerd;2405094]I have to respectfully disagree with this particular point. My best SB ever (and longest SB relationship) invited me to her place for our first meet. To say it was amazing would be an understatement. I brought wine and cheese and after the first glass calmed our nervousness, we went at it like rabbits for hours. I popped at least 4 times. She was a foreign grad student (I didn't know that at the time) who I think genuinely needed the cash, but also wanted the sex. She was in her 30's, not interested in marriage or children and her sex drive was unbelievable. I may have mentioned her in the past. I still miss her. I will admit that her residence was in a secure building in a nice part of town, and it would definitely have been sketchier if she was in a house in a no-so-great area. But I don't think any SB who invites you to her place for a first meet is necessarily a scammer or thief.

She was also clearly not a hardened pro. It was pretty obvious I was the only Daddy she had, and we progressed to overnights and dinner dates and even the occasional long Saturday night into Sunday brunch combo. She was available anytime I wanted to see her if she was not working. All for the same low amount I left her (without ever discussing it) when I left after our first marathon session. In fact, she was grateful for every ounce of help. She was going home before Christmas, and I popped in to drop of a very inexpensive gift. I was really just planning on dropping off the gift and being on my way. But sShe was so thrilled, she literally couldn't stop thanking me and before I could say boo, she had dropped to her knees and had me out and in her mouth. I told her I didn't have any allowance, and she didn't care. It really about showing appreciation for the gift. A hardened pro would not have acted in any of the ways she did.
[/QUOTE]Without paging back to recall the full context in which I said that, if I'm not mistaken I think the poster was talking about someone he met who quickly invited him over, as-in "come on over sweetie" or that sort of thing, so I was mostly trying to warn him that this sort of thing can get you robbed, hurt, arrested or killed.

To your point however, I was really summarizing that particular situation. Are there situations that "fall outside the norm?" (no pun intended, but yes surely there are).

Encounters with real SBs have a lot in common with civy dating (both in their mind and in ours). So, whenever something happens in the bowl, either to us or through reading someone else's experience, it is often useful to put it into the context of plain-old-dating to see if it makes sense. And, sure, I have met women who were not after money who met me at their place first. A couple of years ago I met a stripper who didn't have a car, and for our first date she asked me to pick her up at her place (where she was still living with who she said was her ex-bf and his male roommate), so I drove right up front and picked her up as her roommate gawked, standing right there on the porch as she got in my car. She was annoyed with his desire to watch us take off, and was concerned he would run his mouth. She insisted her relationship was over anyway, but did not want to live with gossip. She was not a pro and to the best of my knowledge had never hooked up with a strip club patron prior to that night (she was very young and new to dancing). Even with casual bar hookups, I've had some take me straight back to their place for a round of fucking, some of which had advanced degrees with great jobs and certainly were not hardened pros.

It sounds like in your particular case you met an SB who was viewing the M&G as more of a date (which is how I like them to view it) than the kind of "come on over sweetie" danger sign I was alluding to. I'm also guessing that she did this because of conversations you had with her up to that point that gave her a comfort level (either that, or being foreign she was so new to the country that she brought habits and mannerisms with her to this country that betray my earlier definition). I don't know which country she was from, but foreign girls often have very different ideas about online socialization and even sex. She may have also had the "bobbing for greencard" habit that I've noticed (and also adored) in so many foreign college students, where they are feeling a bit rushed to hook up with some financial stability before their school visa runs out. There is really no way for you or I to know her background before she came to this country, and because in some countries prostitution is a way of life, we never really know her background. I've been there, done that, and enjoyed the benefits of foreign students studying here without over-analyzing the matter, so I don't intend to start now, I just wanted to say that the particular case you described wasn't really the type of thing I had in mind when I said what I did.

In general, I would be very suspicious of any girl found on an SD site who is okay with doing the M&G inside her place of residence. There is a chance you may strike gold, but more than likely it is an indication that she is not concerned about her potential new SD being a needy stalker type that just won't go away. This could be because her place of residence is fleeting (short term rental thus she doesn't care), which is more likely in a pro than anyone else, it could be because she feels completely safe (maybe an on-campus dorm while her roommate is away? I've been in that situation), or it could be that she just hasn't yet thought of the stalker possibility.

So, while it's true that it's unfair to say she is always a hardened pro if she invites you over for the M&G, I'd say this is not a typical scenario with a responsible young lady, and in most cases we should be suspicious of any girl who doesn't want to meet in a public place first.

I put my jersey back on. I'm officially back in The Sugar Bowl. This time taking my time before doing M&G. Also, picking the top of the crop. I put my photo up on my profile and I'm getting more traffic than I could ever imagine. Even spinners that I tried to link up with before are coming around now.

I met up with this one spinner that sort of was playing hard to get before. We meet up and go shopping. She spends her own money, she even had a wad of cash. She booked a hotel for us to crash after a night of partying. We get to the hotel and she's on her cycle. Nonetheless, she gives me oral over and over and over again all night. I may have came 4 times and then passed out. I've since been trying to set up the FC and she mentioned something about she'd need $1 K and how she gave me a sample.

I never did a lot of research on POTS, but she let her guard down. I gathered she used a fake name and some sort of cell phone number disguising app. I pull up her info and her criminal record is pretty surprising for a good looking 21 year old. She's got a couple of DUI's and a battery charge. Great mugshot pics though. I think I'll pass on the work required for the FC, but she's a hottie. She's probably batshit crazy and would key my car, but I'd imagine she's an awesome lay.

I got flaked on by the white rocker girl. No problem. Started chatting up a few girls on SA on my down time. Three 19 year olds and a super hot 27 year old in my neighborhood. One of those 19 year olds is a virgin. So she says. never had one.

Got my date with my new island girl tomorrow nite. My ATF got out of the hospital but wont be well for a few more days. So I am gonna do all 4 or 5 M&G's as fast as I can.

After messaging all those girls last night due to getting flaked on, I was horneee. So I went to my ATF at midnite for a 2 hour car date in her driveway. It was smoking hot. Suddenly she asks me "are you looking" And I am like you mean for a new girl? She says yes. So I tell her I am and that I interviewed about 5 to 10 in the FC since I met her. But that none of them worked out or made it to the third date. She said just hearing about it was getting her hot. And she wasn't lying as I had my finger inside her while we were talking and I suddenly felt it get a lot wetter. She then gave me one of the best BJ's she has done so far in 40 dates. I was so high (on the sex) I forgot to pay her. But we are more on a monthly arrangement anyway.

There are some awesome girls out there. So far I have gotten 20+ girls (all between 18-21 except 2) on SA in the first 6 weeks to agree to my $ a date. Meaning I have their phone number which I am only asking for after they agree, just so I don't forget where they are in the qualifying process. The one tonite (my new island girl) already knows the score in the bigger picture. I told her about my regulars and lifestyle because I think she might have a shot at a future. She is getting waxed just a few hours before our date tonite.

Here is a pretty one. An 18 year old mixed girl. She is down for the adventure.

I'd say she is an 8+ in any guys book. Look at that smile.

Just got back from a very strange date. The super hot island girl was super weird even though she looked good, had on a tight mini and had a fresh wax. But the chemistry was not happening. After an hour of awkwardness in the FC I just took her home. She didn't ask for any money. And apologized for her unsugarlike behavior. I just think she really wants a BF and not an SD. And I just wanted a booty call. Thank god for my ATF. After I dropped off said island girl I swung by her place for a quick BJ and came home. I have many many M&G's to do and I am determined to find a new SB. So there you have it.