Rants and Raves

*Rant / question*.

I've hit a very long dry spell going on for a yr and some change since I've been divorced. The dating / having fun game has definitely changed since I got hitched back in 2013. I'm trying to see where I can fit in but nothing has worked aside from SW / Providers. I tried hookup apps you name it I tried it. My only real success was over on fetlife and I been in the lifestyle for a good minute but I'm very vanilla in it and I'm fine with were I'm at in the lifestyle. Recently met with this nice chick from there who talks big game but it's vanilla like me. Hooked up because she said I was respectful compared to all other guys who messaged her. Within that month we hooked up on her birthday and it's been very awkward since to the point that I guess I pissed her off and she ghosted me. All I asked was if I was doing too much twice. The first time was before we met and she said no and then the 2nd time was after we met and things got awkward (1 worded responses / lost of interest) and she says why do I keep asking her that and that was the last thing she said to me. Overthinking everything is what ultimately screwed me over and I know fet is definitely not a dating place but I liked our conversations and had a alot of things in common. Issue for me was communication. I'm very big on it and she even stated she needs to do better at it and she appreciates me for understanding her personal situations. She would post on fet she wants this and that but never relayed that to me and then reading the comments just pissed me off cause of her past / present master responses. I knew getting into this I told myself I'm just having fun no feelings will be involved but actually meeting someone with similar interests kinda changed that. Anyway I've been ghosted over a million times but damn it sucks but I know it's not the end of the world. I was chatting up with a buddy from work and he was like he's been in the same boat minus the lifestyle. He's a great talker / opener but horrible closer and I'm both since I have a slight stuttering issue when nervous. I'm not good at dating app profiles but I thought being in the lifestyle it would be at the very least easier. I guess being respectful / nice doesn't work anymore and they only require money but on fet it's some real freaks out there I just haven't been able to plant my feet on how I should / need to approach. I tried being respectful and disrespectful all the way to just sending something about an event or something on their profile and still nothing. It tough trying to stand out when the ratio is like 100:1 and I'm like at the bottom of the barrel and I'm definitely not trying to compare me vs some other guy but damn I be like what does he have that I don't type shit.

For people in the lifestyle or just in general what's the best way to get someone's attention on the first message on dating apps or in general? How is it extremely easy for some and difficult for others? Tips? Mind you I'm a fairly decent guy mid 30's so all hope isn't lost just need the proper guidance/tools since Ive back in the game lol

Now I'm ready to get roasted *Rant / question over*.

[QUOTE=Marcus07;7273267]*Rant / question*.

I've hit a very long dry spell going on for a yr and some change since I've been divorced. The dating / having fun game has definitely changed since I got hitched back in 2013. I'm trying to see where I can fit in but nothing has worked aside from SW / Providers. I tried hookup apps you name it I tried it. My only real success was over on fetlife and I been in the lifestyle for a good minute but I'm very vanilla in it and I'm fine with were I'm at in the lifestyle. Recently met with this nice chick from there who talks big game but it's vanilla like me. Hooked up because she said I was respectful compared to all other guys who messaged her. Within that month we hooked up on her birthday and it's been very awkward since to the point that I guess I pissed her off and she ghosted me. All I asked was if I was doing too much twice. The first time was before we met and she said no and then the 2nd time was after we met and things got awkward (1 worded responses / lost of interest) and she says why do I keep asking her that and that was the last thing she said to me. Overthinking everything is what ultimately screwed me over and I know fet is definitely not a dating place but I liked our conversations and had a alot of things in common. Issue for me was communication. I'm very big on it and she even stated she needs to do better at it and she appreciates me for understanding her personal situations. She would post on fet she wants this and that but never relayed that to me and then reading the comments just pissed me off cause of her past / present master responses. I knew getting into this I told myself I'm just having fun no feelings will be involved but actually meeting someone with similar interests kinda changed that. Anyway I've been ghosted over a million times but damn it sucks but I know it's not the end of the world. I was chatting up with a buddy from work and he was like he's been in the same boat minus the lifestyle. He's a great talker / opener but horrible closer and I'm both since I have a slight stuttering issue when nervous. I'm not good at dating app profiles but I thought being in the lifestyle it would be at the very least easier. I guess being respectful / nice doesn't work anymore and they only require money but on fet it's some real freaks out there I just haven't been able to plant my feet on how I should / need to approach. I tried being respectful and disrespectful all the way to just sending something about an event or something on their profile and still nothing. It tough trying to stand out when the ratio is like 100:1 and I'm like at the bottom of the barrel and I'm definitely not trying to compare me vs some other guy but damn I be like what does he have that I don't type shit.

For people in the lifestyle or just in general what's the best way to get someone's attention on the first message on dating apps or in general? How is it extremely easy for some and difficult for others? Tips? Mind you I'm a fairly decent guy mid 30's so all hope isn't lost just need the proper guidance/tools since Ive back in the game lol

Now I'm ready to get roasted *Rant / question over*.[/QUOTE]I ain't going to roast you at all. But don't get too attached to anyone for a WHILE. Re-bounds are rough. Pay to play keeps your mind in check and your dick wet. Don't be too hard on yourself, always be respectful until she wants something else, don't be overly pushy at first. Kinda play hard to get, or the "just not that interested" atitude. After my divorce (13 yrs) I went on a bender with any escort I found attractive. In multiple states. Met 1 in a little town north of Philly, fucked her senseless one night and SHE called me the next day to ask where I would be the following week, that turned into she and I meeting every night for the next 3 weeks and she moved to Georgia a month later. And a year later we got married. What a fucking disaster. We were great in bed, but she was a raving ***** 80% of the time outside of the bedroom. Divorced her after 2 years and was happy to see that truck leave my driveway.

[QUOTE=Airmantroy;7273305]I ain't going to roast you at all. But don't get too attached to anyone for a WHILE. Re-bounds are rough. Pay to play keeps your mind in check and your dick wet. Don't be too hard on yourself, always be respectful until she wants something else, don't be overly pushy at first. Kinda play hard to get, or the "just not that interested" atitude. After my divorce (13 yrs) I went on a bender with any escort I found attractive. In multiple states. Met 1 in a little town north of Philly, fucked her senseless one night and SHE called me the next day to ask where I would be the following week, that turned into she and I meeting every night for the next 3 weeks and she moved to Georgia a month later. And a year later we got married. What a fucking disaster. We were great in bed, but she was a raving ***** 80% of the time outside of the bedroom. Divorced her after 2 years and was happy to see that truck leave my driveway.[/QUOTE]Damn sounds like you had it rougher than me. My issue since I was a kid is that I wear my heart on my sleeve and I don't know how to separate my emotions from whatever I need to. Prime example would be providers or FWB or even going to Tokyo I know it's just sex and nothing else but with her it was different, I guess because we had similar interests and we cuddled and it felt like a true gf at that moment. Something that I love and have been missing for a very long time even when I was married. It's something about cuddling compared to just sex and leaving with providers that is just different. I know this feeling of being mad because she is fucking other people with pass but like I mentioned I wear my heart on my sleeve and it's getting to the point that I can't sleep or eat wondering what she's doing. I guess I wasn't emotionally or mentally healed from my disastrous divorce like I thought I was. I talked to my big bro and he was like to forget about someone the easiest thing is to fuck with someone else. Easier for him because he has the looks and the talking game and I haven't been in a lot of relationships to really practice the talking game.

I haven't saw anyone post a real review on a escort in a fucking while. And also I'm trying to figure out why all these bitches are posting $150 QV in their ads! I'm pretty sure there's plenty of busters paying that shit too. I haven't called a escort in a minute but I do try to find some I saw before so I can do a review on them.

[QUOTE=BigMoney21;7289217]I haven't saw anyone post a real review on a escort in a fucking while. And also I'm trying to figure out why all these bitches are posting $150 QV in their ads! I'm pretty sure there's plenty of busters paying that shit too. I haven't called a escort in a minute but I do try to find some I saw before so I can do a review on them.[/QUOTE]Pussy at a premium these days. The economy is slipping. Much respect to whoever paying those prices man. $20 more you get a hr massage with FS. They must not enjoy massages.

[QUOTE=Marcus07;7273267]Within that month we hooked up on her birthday and it's been very awkward since to the point that I guess I pissed her off and she ghosted me. All I asked was if I was doing too much twice. The first time was before we met and she said no and then the 2nd time was after we met and things got awkward (1 worded responses / lost of interest) and she says why do I keep asking her that and that was the last thing she said to me.[/QUOTE]You got too attached too quickly. It's a red flag. My advice is to work on yourself til you get to a place where you could take it or leave it. Nothing's going to get you ghosted quicker than the stink of desperation.

I don't understand how these hoes sell cat all day everyday and can't afford a room? Its a few thick broads that I want to see but I know they're too thick for a car date and I refuse to bring woman that I see for the first time to the crib. Annoying.

[QUOTE=BigMoney21;7289217]I haven't saw anyone post a real review on a escort in a fucking while. And also I'm trying to figure out why all these bitches are posting $150 QV in their ads! I'm pretty sure there's plenty of busters paying that shit too. I haven't called a escort in a minute but I do try to find some I saw before so I can do a review on them.[/QUOTE]Thats bc Johnny not posting here like that these days. I used to post detailed reviews but so many times weirdos on here went back and showed the broads my review and messed up the situation for me so now I limit what I say or refrain from posting certain ones. I tend to get in good with some of the ones I see and end up working out crazy deals with them but when weirdos go back and say things I said then they end up going up on the price with me. No bueno LOL.

Can you please put a password reveal option on the login?! I hate being locked out for 15 minutes at a time. Sometimes more.

Just want to say always always trust your gut and stick to your routine. I can't find the ad, so I'm ranting instead of reviewing.

About a week ago I had some last minute free time and decided to hit up a LC girl I never seen. Communication was standard and everything was cool with the set up.

I know others do this as well, but I always arrive to the location and scope out the area before I tell them I'm there. External rooms so I can see the coming and going, and so far only some kids walking down the walkway. Right as I was about to text that I was there, the kids go to a room 2 doors down and knock on the door. Thinking they were going to go in I waited a bit, but instead a grown man came out and some strung out looking chick came from somewhere else and was talking to the kids. Eventually the dude went inside, and the chick walked up the stairs to the second floor. They were scoping me out a few times, but I figure they were probably just trying to see who I was.

After the adults dispersed, for some reason the kids stayed outside by the door. I text the LC girl I was there, but I was waiting for the kids to go on their way (they never did). She reply, just come because the kids are at another door, not hers (I knew this and that wasn't my point), at that time a women came out of her door and got in a car right in front of it. This is nothing new, a lot of LC girls share rooms and one leave while the other works.

Kids still hanging out by the other door, I was like fuck it and got out of my car and proceeded to walk to the door, when I was about 5 steps away the girl in the car honk the horn a few times. And I see the first chick who was at the door with the dude and the kids walking down the walk away from the other side of the building. At the point I was like fuck this and got in my car and left. I felts like it was too much going on by her door, and then the second chick blowing the horn right as I was walking up, my mind went to "set up".

After I left the LC chick started blowing up my burner number saying why I'm playing games, I fucked up and I fuck with the wrong one, etc. I just blocked the number. But she continued from 3 other numbers as I continued to block. Then she sent be a screenshot of some whitepages name and address attached to my burner number that of course was someone else.

Her reaction made me feel like I made the right decision turning around. Most LC girls would say fuck you, block you and move on.

Tl; dr. Went to see LC girl, but got a bad feeling after too much was going on near her room. Left and she started spamming me from multiple numbers after I block the first number.

[URL]https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2025-09-09/girlsdoporn-owner-sentenced[/URL]

I wonder back in the day if I did see this porn and.

Didn't even realize.

[QUOTE=PeterPan;7393094][URL]https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2025-09-09/girlsdoporn-owner-sentenced[/URL]

I wonder back in the day if I did see this porn and.

Didn't even realize.[/QUOTE]This is old news, by a few years. They were terrible people. The women who were in the videos all now own the rights to those videos and all were purged. They were drugging women, and getting them drunk, and essentially kidnapping them. The trial details are readily available. There have been a few podcasts about it too, with some of them coming forward. This changed my consumption of porn.

[QUOTE=Bobby6758;7394117]Bro it's never too late because I can spot a shemale a mile away there's nothing feminine about them.

Adam's apple, muscular, manly face, big ass hands and feet. Ain't no tricking me. If you're into that.

Then just be into that gay shit. You keep promoting it on here. Even if one looks close to a woman.

And he tells me he's a man it's a big no thanks. Trannys hit on me and I'd never I'm not into men.

Over here only pussy and bad bitches allowed.[/QUOTE]Let's be real some of them trannies look better then natural women and don't fool yourself because lot of men are into transgender women these days. Guys like you who say you can spot a tranny a mile away be the main ones into them.

[QUOTE=MrAtlanta;7395588]Let's be real some of them trannies look better then natural women and don't fool yourself because lot of men are into transgender women these days. Guys like you who say you can spot a tranny a mile away be the main ones into them.[/QUOTE]We are just tired of you trying to convince us the trannies look better. We get you also like men. And I said you can spot them a mile away because they look like men with wigs and big as hell. Make sure you strap up because that shit is nasty.

[QUOTE=Bobby6758;7396274]We are just tired of you trying to convince us the trannies look better. [/QUOTE]I laughed at this.