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Been a bit more than a few years now. But I used to get tested for free at Hollywood Presbyterian. At the mens clinic and I believe there is a bit of anonymity. Like I said, can't recall all the details but I remember it was free. If you park in the back it's in the bldg on the left, maybe the 5th floor?
I am not sure why, I did have some recent negative interactions with some girls on SA. Is deleted the same as banned? I messaged support to get more answers but doubt I will hear back.
[QUOTE=MidnightDabber;6584199]I am not sure why, I did have some recent negative interactions with some girls on SA. Is deleted the same as banned? I messaged support to get more answers but doubt I will hear back.[/QUOTE]Yes banned pretty much. As HG has mentioned countless times here you have to be very careful what you say to the girls on SA. Most of the girls know what the site is about already and what is expected from them. So no need to talk about specifics such as PPM or sex details on the site itself. Once you've established something that may be going somewhere with a girl. You take those conversations off the site and discuss specifics through text, email, phonecall or facetime chat. So that the girl can't report you on the site or the algorithm SA uses doesn't catch those "taboo" keywords in your conversations.
[QUOTE=Lexx1;6584307]Yes banned pretty much. As HG has mentioned countless times here you have to be very careful what you say to the girls on SA. Most of the girls know what the site is about already and what is expected from them. So no need to talk about specifics such as PPM or sex details on the site itself. Once you've established something that may be going somewhere with a girl. You take those conversations off the site and discuss specifics through text, email, phone call or facetime chat. So that the girl can't report you on the site or the algorithm SA uses doesn't catch those "taboo" keywords in your conversations.[/QUOTE]When messaging on seeking I like to say I am spontaneous. Practically a synonym for sex. Or I ask them if they like kissing or are they submissive or naughty, pretty harmless. I never ask for sex directly on the site, but the point is made. If they say they do not like kissing you can assume they are more of a pro and depending on how hot they are choose to proceed or not.
If they pressure me for an answer on seeking about sex I just say I am looking for an intimate date. That could mean anything and has never gotten me in trouble.
As far as money talk I tell them I pay for "dates". That's it. If they want to know what happens on a date they can txt me. If they want to know how much I tell them it's less than most guys, so if they are looking for top dollar I am not interested, and if they are not interested that's fine and politely move on if we are not on the same page. At this point they will usually throw out a number or let me know they are either expensive or reasonable. This also gives them the option to just not reply, delete or block me. No problem. On to the next one.
[QUOTE=HollywoodGuy;6584321]When messaging on seeking I like to say I am spontaneous. Practically a synonym for sex. Or I ask them if they like kissing or are they submissive or naughty, pretty harmless. I never ask for sex directly on the site, but the point is made. If they say they do not like kissing you can assume they are more of a pro and depending on how hot they are choose to proceed or not.
If they pressure me for an answer on seeking about sex I just say I am looking for an intimate date. That could mean anything and has never gotten me in trouble.
As far as money talk I tell them I pay for "dates". That's it. If they want to know what happens on a date they can txt me. If they want to know how much I tell them it's less than most guys, so if they are looking for top dollar I am not interested, and if they are not interested that's fine and politely move on if we are not on the same page. At this point they will usually throw out a number or let me know they are either expensive or reasonable. This also gives them the option to just not reply, delete or block me. No problem. On to the next one.[/QUOTE]Good stuff as always HG. That last one is a hard rule some don't follow. You have to set a hard max for yourself of what you are willing to spend. I usually do PPM not monthly arrangements. At the most I go is weekly arrangement but I prefer PPM. It keeps the girl honest that she won't show up or flake. And if weekly I provide the cash at the end of the week not the beginning. Like a regular job where you work first and get paid later. I've had to raise my hard max since the non-pro days on Craigslist which was 200 then. The average back then though was 100, alot of times less and that was for all the beautiful colors / ethnicities of girls. But because of all the GPS / PPS, that's platinum pussy syndrome for the OGs that know. PPS are chics that go super crazy with there money expectations and is higher than GPS. So set a hard max you are comfortable with and stick to it. I've turned away super hot girls because they wanted to much. I don't care how hot a girl is. You need to think with your big head not the little head.
Iirc didn't someone have their account restored after emailing support and having to do some CYA course online about not being explicit or something? The site was kinda getting stale but I was planning to take a break for a month or 2. When I come back I don't want to drop $80-110 bucks just to be banned / deleted again. How do I come back safely? Anyone else banned and come back?
[QUOTE=Lexx1;6584415] I've turned away super hot girls because they wanted to much. I don't care how hot a girl is. You need to think with your big head not the little head.[/QUOTE]And as we all have learned, whether pro, semi-pro or civilian, hotness does not necessarily mean they are good in the FC. Or out of it for that matter.
[QUOTE=GiddenLade;6584534]And as we all have learned, whether pro, semi-pro or civilian, hotness does not necessarily mean they are good in the FC. Or out of it for that matter.[/QUOTE]Which is something I touched on earlier. As a low baller even if the session isn't all that, I can never really get too upset about it. But if I was paying a lot and didn't get what I was looking for? I mean there is a balance between looks and performance for sure. I find that to get that low ball agreement sometimes I am going to dip a bit on looks, but I am not willing to take much of a dip on their body. Ever since my teens I have always been more drawn to a hot body and been more forgiving on looks. But not to the point where I can say I am not attracted.
The one playboy or Cali 10 in looks & body I had as an actual GF was pretty average in the skills dept. Killer personality though which kept me around, but at this stage of the game, I would never accept that from a girl I was spending good money on. My current out of town GF isn't all that in skills (and she knows it) but she is very willing to please (actually has a pleasing kink) and takes direction to the T, so I am teaching her, and I am fine with that.
But if you mostly date the younger ones you have to be a bit forgiving. I mean some do have amazing god given talent but like anything it's something you get better at over time. But aside from all that if its gonna go beyond a one or two nite stand they would have to be of the sweet and very submissive variety or I wouldn't really be interested in them at all. And since I met my new GF I have really lost interest in any girl if they have any brattiness at all. If they're cute enough it's cute for a while, but the older I get the less patience I have for it.
[QUOTE=Lexx1;6584307]Yes banned pretty much. As HG has mentioned countless times here you have to be very careful what you say to the girls on SA. Most of the girls know what the site is about already and what is expected from them. So no need to talk about specifics such as PPM or sex details on the site itself. Once you've established something that may be going somewhere with a girl. You take those conversations off the site and discuss specifics through text, email, phonecall or facetime chat. So that the girl can't report you on the site or the algorithm SA uses doesn't catch those "taboo" keywords in your conversations.[/QUOTE]That's surprising. I have been using the site for years and have always said "and then we will go back to my hotel for the night" and I've never had a problem. It's clear I'm talking about sex. Sometimes they ask if intimacy is expected and I say yes and intimacy is also a word that clearly means sex.
I will say, and I've preached this a lot on this board, that I am and you should always be polite. Even if a girl is crass, trash, stupid, pushy. Always assume some admin or moderator might read your messages and you always want to be the gentleman. Even if she calls you a John, cheap, etc, the only response is something like "we probably aren't looking for the same thing. You are worth what you are asking, and more, and I want to respect your expectations so we will part ways here. All the best to you. You will make some guy very lucky. " I've said shit like that to the most trashy trash girls. Never once been reported.
[QUOTE=Murrican;6585238]That's surprising. I have been using the site for years and have always said "and then we will go back to my hotel for the night" and I've never had a problem. It's clear I'm talking about sex. Sometimes they ask if intimacy is expected and I say yes and intimacy is also a word that clearly means sex.
I will say, and I've preached this a lot on this board, that I am and you should always be polite. Even if a girl is crass, trash, stupid, pushy. Always assume some admin or moderator might read your messages and you always want to be the gentleman. Even if she calls you a John, cheap, etc, the only response is something like "we probably aren't looking for the same thing. You are worth what you are asking, and more, and I want to respect your expectations so we will part ways here. All the best to you. You will make some guy very lucky. " I've said shit like that to the most trashy trash girls. Never once been reported.[/QUOTE]Shouldn't be surprising. What you said about going back to room and intimacy is tame compared to what some dudes talk about explicitly directly on the site with some of the girls. That's what I was referring to and what gets dudes in trouble on SA. Your terms are not explicit and while they are assuming sex you are not specifically saying sex or any other explicit details. Which can be talked about off the site.
[QUOTE=Lexx1;6585396]Shouldn't be surprising. What you said about going back to room and intimacy is tame compared to what some dudes talk about explicitly directly on the site with some of the girls. That's what I was referring to and what gets dudes in trouble on SA. Your terms are not explicit and while they are assuming sex you are not specifically saying sex or any other explicit details. Which can be talked about off the site.[/QUOTE]For all seeking knows you're going to have a candle light dinner via room service.
It's not that hard to keep it clean.
so never ever ever:
talk explicitly about sex on seeking
send any money upfront prior to meeting
rent a room until she shows up in the parking lot
forget to check her ID if the situation requires it
go over your budget
get upsold in the moment - (pretty rare with seeking girls but it can happen)
bring more than a twenty in cash (or have it locked in the trunk), a DL, a AAA card and one CC to a first time meet
and I am sure a lot more stuff to think about if you're married.
and don't forget your gym bag - condoms, wipes, toys, bottled water, change of underwear, whatever... think like a boy scout. because even the most casual of M&G's can go straight to the FC.
Now that I don't have SA anymore I was thinking of going down my virtual rolodex, any tips for re-reaching out to past ghosted and such SBs? With so much "choice" on SA I kept looking but now that I don't I am willing to take a few chances.
[QUOTE=MidnightDabber;6586573]Now that I don't have SA anymore I was thinking of going down my virtual rolodex, any tips for re-reaching out to past ghosted and such SBs? With so much "choice" on SA I kept looking but now that I don't I am willing to take a few chances.[/QUOTE]I have 100% done this. With great results. The best results are from girls no longer on the site. They were very happy to hear from me. Very. Now when I go to some places I just canceled the Excel file that I have been accumulating (names, notes to remind me, and contact info).
[QUOTE=GiddenLade;6584534]And as we all have learned, whether pro, semi-pro or civilian, hotness does not necessarily mean they are good in the FC. Or out of it for that matter.[/QUOTE]Greed is often the chemistry destroyer of all natural flows; in this case chicks that carry a golden shovel wherever they go can keep digging til their forehead is engraved with "looking for gold".
Seeing more of this every month. Can be quite humorous.
Anyway, found a girl on seeking that I saw on HX once. Very cute. Had decent chemistry. Only saw her once. She was not independent and never had her own profile.
Now, I've gone on 2 dates with her, no PPM, just dates. No intimacy. She seems to be against PPM so I can't be sure where it's going. I've mentioned PPM a couple times and it seems to push her away so I've stopped doing so.
She seems to not remember me. I vividly remember her and 100% know that it is her.
She's 21 so maybe she forgot? Or?
Any advice?