Daisy and the unpredictability of the hobby
[QUOTE=JasonDono;7360923]Fair enough. Thank you. She gave the headache excuse for this weekend instead of telling me the truth. And then randomly texted me yesterday saying she could meet up this week but I'm out of town so I'll try with her next weekend but I'm not terribly worried about it. You guys are ridiculously more patient than I am. It's why I appreciate these posts you guys make so much. I just can't do it.[/QUOTE]I think she's going through some stuff because her availability has waned. I can go into more detail about it through PM, but she has a lot going on. My usual plan whenever I try to get together with someone is to have at least 4 to 5 options around so that if one falls through, I can go with another. The problem is that there can be some days where everyone flakes (which happened to me this weekend actually), so it's good to always stay adaptable and keep your cool whenever things go awry. Women in general can be scatter-brained and don't really consider anything outside of their own personal feelings or how they feel about a situation, so there are going to be a lot of times where they make plans on the fly and not care to tell you anything because they're hooking up with a guy they'd rather see over you. Most women are talking to 20-30 guys at a time, and if they're really hot, it'll be at least 50 guys. They have more options than we do, so we have to be either quick on the draw or patient with their excuses until we get a chance to see them.
Case in point, for the past year I've been seeing this one single mom I met off of Seeking on and off, and she can never get together when I want to, so I keep her on the backburner until she hits me up. Usually her feeler texts are something like "Where've you been?" or "I miss you," etc. Etc. In most scenarios, I'd cut her off, but because I know she's scatter-brained, I put up with it because she's got a great body, performs well, and is hot. But I make sure to keep my options open, because I know if I focus on her constantly, I'll never get any enjoyment out of the hobby. It's a weird situation, because modern dating being as bad as it is extends to the hobby. If most guys were getting what they need at home or women were more approachable, I think most of us wouldn't even be in the hobby at all, honestly.