There is a fine line between "help" and "enabling"
[QUOTE=Mamouna;6721405]... But, you're right, she's a mess and no one. Particularly dudes on arrangement sites. Are in a position to really help.[/QUOTE]Yeah. Realistically some people are so damaged that they are beyond your resources and expertise to help and chances are any "help" you manage to give them will do more harm than good. That isn't their fault and it isn't your fault either.
Guys have to remember that they aren't charitable institutions or government agencies. We are all here to have a good time and we shouldn't ever make any of these girls into a project.
Long ago I was dating this lady I really liked. Except when she had too much to drink and then it was a hot mess. I finally gave her an ultimatum to get into substance abuse counseling or GTFO. She chose the latter and I never saw her or heard from her again. More recently another girl I was seeing had obvious severe problems, I gave her a similar ultimatum to get help or GTFO. She agreed to get help and improved. But after about six months she blew it all off, but was lying to me that she was still in counseling. Some time later it all detonated. At this point in time she has multiple warrants out for her arrest and AFAIK is living on the streets someplace, probably in the greater Seattle area. At some point the cops will become involved in this mess and I'll likely be drug into it.
So no, its never worth it to help someone when they are too messed up.