Sugar story of hiding and discovery
I am messaging w / a 30's girl on the site. Smart! Her profile name includes her first name, that she gives me. Her sugar story is that she works as a scientist for a Federal cabinet Dept. This freaks me a bit, this might give her access to some investigative tools that the average girl doesn't have, to track me down. But I proceed. We get on great, I start digging to get counterbalancing intelligence. I use one of the face rec sites on her profile photo. I do see one hit on Twitter that looks like her. The handle is at (another feminine name)(the name she gave me). So, her twitter is either her first and middle name, and for sugaring she uses her middle name (many people do this, including me), or that name she gave me as her first name is actually a last name. So, what do I learn from her twitter? She is involved w / a group that tries to use psychedelics therapeutically. Not the worst I have ever seen, but perhaps a little shady. Perhaps she is a government employee and this is a side hustle. Or recreation.
I will still pursue her, with eyes wide open.
SB Inflation alive and well in LA
I've been quite active on SA for the last 60 days and have chatted with more than 20 potential SBs. Lots of scammers just based on their lack of English language or grammatical errors. My guess is Google translate. Lots of scammers based on using famous IG or model photos. Lots of scammers wanting a "date fee" even though they look legit and check out legit. Surprising what searching their photos comes back with. No chance on that. Lots of scammer or fakes based on wanting me to be "patient" and get to know them online. My guess on these are either a woman that has no intention of meeting or some woman / guy trying to hook me into some scam.
The rest is a mixed bag of good to very very hot. The downside is how $1 k per meet seems to be the going ask from these ladies. Had a legit actress / model with a significant IG and IMDB presence wanting $300 date fee and $1. 5 k per meet. Girls that are on PD wanting $1 k to $2 k per meet. (stupid when you can see them for $500 to $700 on HX or PD). Even mid 30's to 40's women asking for $1 k+ per meet.
Then there's the rest. Cute but heavy girls that want to "date". Dinner, flowers, etc. And also want financial help.
Thankfully my 3 month membership is expiring soon. Trying to maximize it before it expires but not holding my breath.
OMFG. Seeking is nuts, or has bad AI policing its communications
I was ticketed today for violating TOS by 'soliciting sex for compensation'. I will paste in below my exchange w / the profile involved, which I reported. I *truly* could not have imagined this would get me written up. I have submitted an appeal.
Her: My private photo comes at a cost (cashapp is *) so I know you're legit.
Me: yeah, right. Sorry, I am no newbie here. If that is the way you roll, I'm out.
Her: I'm not sure what you mean by "that's how you roll" you asked for a photo I said with payment so I know you're real. Otherwise no hard feelings and no pics LOL.
Me: If that is the way you aim to operate here, which BTW is a violation of the terms of service on the site.
Her: I was chatting you up just fine and we can continue to do so just without seeing that photo.
Me: no, if you think that violating TOS is a good idea, and asking to be paid for every minute or whatever, I would say you have chosen the wrong site. I won't suggest one, I am sure you can find it on your own.
Observations on SA in 2023
I've been a member off and on since 2012. I've had longer term arrangements as well as short term ones. Last one I just ended was for 4 years. Previous one was 4 years. Back then, SBs were students, girls / women that had fallen on hard times. Lots of actresses and models that couldn't make rent. There were some escorts but not many. There were very few professional SBs who used it as their main source of income.
Now that I'm actively looking I'm seeing the PPM pricing jaw dropping. Granted, HG has found quite reasonable ones. From early 20's to late 40's, I'm finding that the general standard for a very attractive woman (not drop dead gorgeous model) is around $1 k. A few are $500, some at $700, some at $1. 5 k. But the majority are at this $1 k PPM level. Likewise, many, and I mean many, of the SBs are either professional women that you can find on Linkedin (just use the various face matching websites), IG "entrepreneurs", and then your proverbial "party" girls who bop around from event to event, concert to concert. Who is funding all of this?
This reminds me of SF during the late 90's when Silicon Valley money was flowing. This happened again, during the 2000's, when again, lots of bros were making $$ from the IPOs, and although not stupid rich, retired with $10 million+. Really changed dating as you saw the influx of very attractive women coming to the SV to meet these rich bros. Beloved restaurants started jacking up their prices and you no longer could get reservations. Home and nicer apartment pricing soon followed suit. This was not inflation. This was event driven.
I'm wondering if the pandemic flow of cash, as well as the crypto bros has uplifted the PPM to this level.
Your well to do attorneys and I Bankers can fund $10 k / month during good times when bonuses are large. But now, not so much. Individual business owners have more freedom but still their businesses have to being doing well to afford a $10 k+/ month SB. Same for retirees.
So, who's paying all this money?
Maybe start a dedicated post of bad / scammers / entitled sbs
I was a founding member of HX. For many years, HX provided a great service both to Johns and escorts. The bad actors who were ripping off guys got reported. The bad guys who ripped off girls got reported. Saved me $$.
Now that SBs have this crazy sense of entitlement, maybe it's time to create a list of these bad acting / annoying SBs. Don't list personal info which is not allowed. But listing profile name and photos is allowed. Using Facecheck or any other website will get a SD a pretty good idea of who that person is.
Report those SBs that take the monthly allowance and either ghost or feign perpetual sickness. Bait and switch.
Let's face it, as much as farfaraway glosses endlessly about how SBs aren't escorts and there's this emotional connection, the vast majority of SBs are mercenary $$ hunters.
Need to make this more of a level playing field.
Thoughts?