Safe Sex Information and Advice

[QUOTE=Twincast]This is my first time posting, and probably my last.

Like most people who frequent these forums, I was a lurker who frequented AMPs based on tips obtained here. This has been going on for the past five years, even though I'm a married man. Never did it without a condom, though I do remember getting BBBJ once or twice.

The problem is that recently I learned about HPV and how that can easily be transmitted even for those who wear condoms. That's more than enough to make me stop. But now I'm scared s--tless, because it is now likely that I caught HPV and transmitted it to my wife. (My wife claims that I'm the only one she's ever had sex with, and I believe her. She's also a germaphobe, so if something happens, she'll know it's me.)

I don't plan on telling my wife ever, so I have the following questions:

a) How likely is it that I'm now carrying HPV? How can I tell? There is no "FDA-approved" HPV test for men, and apparently most people who have HPV never see symptoms or only see them years after catching it.

b) Among those who are exposed to HPV, how many of these HPV cases go away on their own? I've seen conflicting reports on the web, from "Once you have it, you have it forever" to "In most cases, the immune system chases away symptoms and eliminates HPV or keeps it under control."

c) Is there any way I can get my wife tested without revealing to her what I've done? How much will it help her in terms of her health?

I really don't want a divorce, since I love my wife too much. I've done stupid things before, though, but this is just beyond stupid for me. Hopefully this will serve as a warning to other mongers who think condoms prevent everything, because they won't.[/QUOTE]


IF your wife ever turns up a positive HPV test, simply shrug and say, sorry dear, but I was active BEFORE we got married. These virii can lay dormant for years before showing themselves. Check out the CDC and other health related sites before worrying yourself sick over this.

Clif

[QUOTE=Hungry Clif]IF your wife ever turns up a positive HPV test, simply shrug and say, sorry dear, but I was active BEFORE we got married. These virii can lay dormant for years before showing themselves. Check out the CDC and other health related sites before worrying yourself sick over this.

Clif[/QUOTE]This is the story I'm considering if something bad happens. Fortunately for me, it seems HPV is very common, so the chances of getting genital warts might be low.

No warts yet on either me or my wife, but what else can I do besides get out of the game, which I have already resolved to do? It's about time for me anyway. I didn't find exactly what I was looking for (and I'm not even sure what that is), but that's a personal issue for me that really should have been resolved before I got married.

Anyway, had I known the real risks earlier, I might have ended my mongering ways sooner, but better now than much later. I don't want to make any moral judgements, but I do hope everyone who's in the game knows exactly what the risks are and always uses their big head before the little head.

How hard is it to just stop by the store on your way and buy a 3pack. All that you don't use, leave with the girl. If you strike out that night, toss them and hope for better luck next time. The cost for tossing non-used wraps is a lot less expensive than getting caught with them, and all that ensues, or taking home little lurkers.

[QUOTE=Daka1]
So, how does a guy with an SO at home explain a big box of condoms? Look, if it comes down to it, buy a locking brief case to store them in. Many people deal with sensitive material at work, such as trade secrets or sales strategies, and companies may require them to keep such media under lock-and-key.

D[/QUOTE]

Hello Eveyone. I really need your help, I have been a mess lately. Last week a friend and I visited an AMP. It was my first time. I'm 22 and sometimes I just get horny. The nice lady gave me an HJ and some ball licking.

It might be my OCD, but I'm really worried about contracting somehting from her. Is it possible to pick up an STD from an HJ and some ball licking or am I just being paraoid. I can't sleep or eat. I'm been so worried. When should I get tested, does it take a while for the STDs to show up on testing.

Thank you for all of your help, I really appreciate any advice you guys can give me.

American Hw

Rest n Relax and have her do it again. As far as I have ever learned a HJ/ball licking isnt going to do a dang thing to you. I would go back and get a few more or if not send me a gift card and I will go for you and tell you the details. Hows that idea? You will be fine.

Happy Hunting..


[QUOTE=American Hw]Hello Eveyone. I really need your help, I have been a mess lately. Last week a friend and I visited an AMP. It was my first time. I'm 22 and sometimes I just get horny. The nice lady gave me an HJ and some ball licking.

It might be my OCD, but I'm really worried about contracting somehting from her. Is it possible to pick up an STD from an HJ and some ball licking or am I just being paraoid. I can't sleep or eat. I'm been so worried. When should I get tested, does it take a while for the STDs to show up on testing.

Thank you for all of your help, I really appreciate any advice you guys can give me.

American Hw[/QUOTE]

Glenn61

Dude you are so on about Divorced & Over 40. I've gotten so much action off these social dating sites, that I might give up mongering.

Okay not that extreme, I mean who can resist a nice 22 yr old staring at you with that "I getting the shit fucked out of me look".

Wireless91910


[QUOTE=Glenn61]

Then you can work and recover financially and relax and be on the prowl for cute wh0res at your leisure.,,,,Date divorced women (over 40 is an easy lay)....and not have to live in fear of your SO,,,nor have to lie and be subject to accusations.

You gotta make a choice or the choice will be made for you and not in a nice way....just my 2 cents......G61[/QUOTE]

When I first got divorced I went to a few divorced groups most of these ladies are so bent and want to screw everything out of spite of the X old man. Now who am I to refuse them. Please take you hate out on me, LOL!

I can say I went for like 6 months and then it got old but I know theres a lot of groups out there and all you have to really do is lend a sad ear and before you know it -Game On!!

All of these ladies are pretty safe I went out with. They are just upset over the divorce and want to be wanted by somebody. Its a give and take kinda set up. You listen they give themselves up and you get what you want.
Hope that helps get some of you laid.

Happy Hunting..

[QUOTE=Wireless91910]Glenn61

Dude you are so on about Divorced & Over 40. I've gotten so much action off these social dating sites, that I might give up mongering.

Okay not that extreme, I mean who can resist a nice 22 yr old staring at you with that "I getting the shit fucked out of me look".

Wireless91910[/QUOTE]

Hello All,

I live in Texas. Can anyone advice me on how I could get (not only tested but also) treated for STD "anonymously"? It seems that government sponsored programs require you to pull-in your spouse/sex-parnter in case you test positive. Is this also the same for private doctors? If you go to a doctor for treatment is he/she required to inform your insurance?

Many thanks in advance for all useful advice.

-Dragonflyxxx

[QUOTE=Dragonflyxxx]Can anyone advice me on how I could get (not only tested but also) treated for STD "anonymously"?[/QUOTE]All STD testing and treatment should be completely confidential, if not anonymous. You may be asked for your name, but they probably won't ask for ID.

If you test positive, they will most likely ask for the names of all recent sexual partners. I would hope that you would at least notify all recent sexual partners immediately so that they can get tested and treated before they spread the disease further.

If you have symptoms, or have been told by a partner that she's tested positive, the only responsible thing to do is to seek immediate medical attention.

STD treatment is usually made as hassle-free and confidential as possible in order to reach those needing attention. The only way your insurance should be notified is if you want to file a claim.

[b]Bottom line - see a clinic or doctor immediately! [/b]

D

Stds are the reason why I stick to HJ/TJ action only. No BJ or FS of any sort. Too much hassle out there I say. Plus, the kind of fun I go for is usually a bit less of a strain on the wallet and tends to make the girl happy 'cause she doesn't have to do as much. But that's just me.

[QUOTE=Dragonflyxxx]Hello All,

Is this also the same for private doctors? If you go to a doctor for treatment is he/she required to inform your insurance?

Many thanks in advance for all useful advice.

-Dragonflyxxx[/QUOTE]

Don't be an ass when it come to the health of your dick and the health of others. Do not rely on the advice given on the internet. Go ask a professional. Go to a doctor, ask questions and get answers. If need be, don't even tell them about you insurance provider.

Get proper advice from a proper professional.

[b]Get treatment if nesassary[/b] and worry about the small shit later.



[QUOTE=Glenn61]OK,,,then where does the Federal Government get it's accurate statistics on treated cases of,,,,, new cases of,,, and death from HIV, ,Syphilis, Gonorrhoeae, Herpes, Hepatitis, cervical cancer...etc.,,etc.

And the regional, ethnic, gender, sex and sexual preference break down of their information......?

The fact is that all persons with a communicable deadly diseases are reported to the CDC...it's all on their web site.......

[url]http://www.cdc.gov/nchstp/dstd/Stats_Trends/Stats_and_Trends.htm[/url]

And available in printed version free,,,just pay the cost of shipping.

Don't kid yourself Daka1,,,your dangerous medical history is recorded by the Federal Government once you've been diagnosed by a medical professional.

Only the cheek swab test that you can buy for about $40 in a drug store allows you to have an HIV antibodies test anonymously.......G61[/QUOTE]

I don't know about that Glenn. They can come up with that kind of statistical information without getting the individuals name or identity.

Personally, I don’t give a fuck – they can have my name, address, social security number, mother’s maiden name, and a signed confession – just as long as they stop the damn burning and drip, drip, drip. What options do we have, it’s either get treatment or let your damn dick fall off.

I get a yearly check-up and my doctor knows why and I don’t give a damn who he tells. Let’s face facts; if I get HIV, I am more likely to die from aids then from the shame of what I did to get it.

Don’t get me wrong, this is 2008; but it may as well be 1984, because Big Brother is watching and we all damn well better know that. In this particular case I am not so sure I mind it all that much, after all, the more people keeping an eye out for my dick and its health the better.

LOL

CookyJar

Medical professionals report [b]cases,[/b] not individuals, to the CDC. The CDC has specific protocols in place to ensure confidentiality. Cases are identified by number, not by name. Even so, not all cases are reported to the CDC. For example, California (and some other states) offers [b]anonymous[/b] testing (no name is asked) as well as [b]confidential[/b] testing. If you want [b]written[/b] results, though, you have to give a name.

STD testing and treatment are available at county health clinics, Planned Parenthood clinics, and hospitals, as well as private labs.

Free, low cost, and confidential clinics in Texas: [url]http://www.dshs.state.tx.us/hivstd/services/service_e.shtm[/url], [url]http://yourstdhelp.com/texas.html[/url]

Free and confidential clinics in NYC: [url]http://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/html/std/std2.shtml[/url]

Free and confidential clinics in LA County: [url]http://www.lapublichealth.org/std/clinics.htm[/url]

Confidential private testing: [url]http://www.localstdtesting.com/[/url], [url]http://www.tstd.org/[/url]

You can Google "confidential std testing" for more information.

What do you think a doctors reply would even be to an answer like this::

And if you do get an STD, and they want to know with whom you've been in the last 6 months,,,proudly announce you're a wh0re-monger and good luck tracking down those cases.........

In my neck of the woods they charge you to stay anonymous. Im not sure they do it but who really knows but the government anyway.

Happy Hunting..

[QUOTE=Dragonflyxxx]Hello All,

I live in Texas. Can anyone advice me on how I could get (not only tested but also) treated for STD "anonymously"? It seems that government sponsored programs require you to pull-in your spouse/sex-parnter in case you test positive. Is this also the same for private doctors? If you go to a doctor for treatment is he/she required to inform your insurance?

Many thanks in advance for all useful advice.

-Dragonflyxxx[/QUOTE]I would recommend this : [url]www.nonprofitstdtesting.org[/url] 1-800-682-3047

I did a lot of research on HSV testing, and this is the best. They do three kinds of Herpes testing (lgG, IgM and another one) to reduce the possibility of false negative results and this set of tests is called Herpes panel. This detects HSV-1, HSV2 and any recent infection. Also they offer $49 for HIV antibody. Their process is completely anonymous. Call them and tell them what tests you need. I did Herpes Panel (3 tests) and HIV antibody. Costs $273. Remember, you can't order the tests yourself at the lab. I looked other sites, I found one that said Herpes Panel for $98 only. When I asked for more info, they didn't include all three tests.

You pick the lab and time. I picked a time which is 2 hrs from the time I called. It is better to do it early in the morning, so that the results will be available next day. You give your name and credit card#. A doctor orders the test via fax to the lab. You show up, the lab doesn't ask you anything (just a signature for a waiver) and your blood is drawn. Call next day to get the results. Eric from [url]www.nonprofitstdtesting.org[/url] is extremely helpful. I did my test in the evening and the results were not available next day. He said he will call me and he did. Negative for all the tests. They also offer post test counseling and they will send the results by post or fax.

BTW, I tried at the public health. If you have any insurance coverage, you can't get tested there. They advised me to call my insurance company for the tests. Which is NOT Anonymous.

HillyBilly

[QUOTE=Hillybilly]Their process is completely anonymous. You give your name and credit card#. they will send the results by post or fax.[/QUOTE]
The process may (or may not) be [b]confidential,[/b] but what you describe is certainly not [b]anonymous.[/b]