Sexual Addiction Reports

[QUOTE=Von1995;4848532]I get what you're saying about women being picky and having incredibly high standards, but its escalation through social media is only a side effect. That's just how women are. The bottom 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men.

You're very open about what you like, a tight-bodied girl who knows how to turn you on in the sheets. That's what every guy wants. Welcome to the club. It's only fair to recognize that women have preferences too, though they aren't anymore noble than ours.

At the end of the day, you have to be what women want you to be. That largely means being wealthy, charismatic, and looking like you can beat the shit out of other men. Be at least one of those things if you want to keep them interested.[/QUOTE]I agreed with you absolutely.

[QUOTE=Bozoner;4767881]I have likened my cravings to a drink from a poisoned fountain that leaves one eternally thirsty. I drank from the fountain when I was 27 and have never stopped looking for that rush again. Yes, I "quit" too for a while, but now I really I can never do it. I want it too much, and have risked everything to get it. Even now, with this epidemic, I know I would not hesitate if there were providers nearby. Only my isolation keeps this hunger in check.[/QUOTE]I'm one of us too. Covid has been a distraction that keeps me from "acting out" as its called in the SA community. Its a tough disease and can't do it alone. One of the best resources that's frank and non judgmental is the work of Robert Weiss. Google him, watch his YouTube videos or pod casts in car. He's spot on when it comes to this.

[QUOTE=Eyes1515;4742289]Title says it all. PM for details![/QUOTE]Eyes1515, I was trying to send you message but your inbox is full I guess lot of interest made it full before I saw your ad. .

I am same as one of you here. Thinking lot of time to quit. Get addicted but also can control. But again addition is addiction. More or less dpesnt matter. I'm glad visit this page. Because lot of time I feel like I want to discuss this with someone and like to hear something from others. I found this is the place to share feelings.

[QUOTE=Ymch520;4888924]I am same as one of you here. Thinking lot of time to quit. Get addicted but also can control. But again addition is addiction. More or less dpesnt matter. I'm glad visit this page. Because lot of time I feel like I want to discuss this with someone and like to hear something from others. I found this is the place to share feelings.[/QUOTE]Has anyone ever gone to SAA meetings? Like AA but its all about Sex and Love Addiction.

I attended a few meetings and I think I was mostly in denial at the time, but to hear some of the struggles it certainly showed how serious this can be. One of the worst part was hearing from some of the young guys in their early 20's that have porn Addiction and porn induced erectile dysfunction. Literally brain is hooked and cannot meaningfully do anything in their lives except look at porn all day. Really sad state of affairs.

[QUOTE=Urbanite;4901750]Has anyone ever gone to SAA meetings? Like AA but its all about Sex and Love Addiction.

I attended a few meetings and I think I was mostly in denial at the time, but to hear some of the struggles it certainly showed how serious this can be. One of the worst part was hearing from some of the young guys in their early 20's that have porn Addiction and porn induced erectile dysfunction. Literally brain is hooked and cannot meaningfully do anything in their lives except look at porn all day. Really sad state of affairs.[/QUOTE]I went to quite a few about twenty years ago. I got very uncomfortable with the cult-like feel of the 12 step program and came to realize it was not relevant to my situation. I am not an addict due to any trauma or self-loathing issues and found it curiously odd to be sitting in a group of men (women do not go to SAA meetings in my experice) who I had little in common with other than a sex drive I find difficult to control. It was oppressive in the extreme and depressing in its practice.

I have not been to SAA meetings or even heard of them.

But I got busted years ago and S. O. Sent me to SA Counseling. It started out OK, "you shouldn't do this because of AIDS, immoral, diseases", etc. FINE. I get it. Then after a few weeks she showed me this circle of the evolution of Sexual Addiction.

Starts with Porn.

Then actual meets, cheating or prostitutes.

Then 3 somes.

Then Group sex.

Then possible Bi interactions.

OK I was with her up to this point. I wasn't even bi-curious but I can see how that can happen. I mean with a blindfold on, head is head, right?

OK then the next ring is pedophile!

That's when I left and never returned. No way would that ever happen!

[QUOTE=Urbanite;4901750]Has anyone ever gone to SAA meetings? [/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=DaveSalem;4903896]I have not been to SAA meetings or even heard of them.

But I got busted years ago and S. O. Sent me to SA Counseling. It started out OK, "you shouldn't do this because of AIDS, immoral, diseases", etc. FINE. I get it. Then after a few weeks she showed me this circle of the evolution of Sexual Addiction.

Starts with Porn.

Then actual meets, cheating or prostitutes.

Then 3 somes.

Then Group sex.

Then possible Bi interactions.

OK I was with her up to this point. I wasn't even bi-curious but I can see how that can happen. I mean with a blindfold on, head is head, right?

OK then the next ring is pedophile!

That's when I left and never returned. No way would that ever happen![/QUOTE]I was busted too, and sent to a therapist. After he expressed what almost seemed like disappointment when I confirmed that I had no interest in "peeping," he sent me to SAA. I am not sure why an overactive libido is instantly classified as "addiction. " One could also label obesity as "food addiction" I suppose.

I've been inactive in meet ups ever since this pandemic took off. I've noticed my family life getting better. I've noticed my finances improve. I've noticed that I have taken more time to engage in healthy eating and exercising. Overall I'm a better person who's actively pursuing more of my interests. I think a lot of that is tied into my not meeting up with girls, not spending as much energy on trying to homework on girls to meet up with. I think that in a lot of ways I should be much happier and running away from this hobby. Yet I'm still checking theses boards, less frequently, but still more than I'm happy with. I've started to scope out postings again. I've never truly gotten any level of enjoyment from a girl that hasn't been attached to some level of shame. I guess I'm not really sure what direction to go in anymore. I don't see SA as a place for me based off some comments I've been reading here, but I think it's becoming clearer to me that this is not something that I'm in control of anymore. What other options have you men found for dealing with addiction? Have you found threads that have been helpful here? Have you found them elsewhere? I'm not sure what my next steps are, or if I'll go back to the hobby later, but I think it's worth exploring more now.

[QUOTE=Vbenny;4924779]I've been inactive in meet ups ever since this pandemic took off. I've noticed my family life getting better. I've noticed my finances improve. I've noticed that I have taken more time to engage in healthy eating and exercising. Overall I'm a better person who's actively pursuing more of my interests. I think a lot of that is tied into my not meeting up with girls, not spending as much energy on trying to homework on girls to meet up with. I think that in a lot of ways I should be much happier and running away from this hobby. Yet I'm still checking theses boards, less frequently, but still more than I'm happy with. I've started to scope out postings again. I've never truly gotten any level of enjoyment from a girl that hasn't been attached to some level of shame. I guess I'm not really sure what direction to go in anymore. I don't see SA as a place for me based off some comments I've been reading here, but I think it's becoming clearer to me that this is not something that I'm in control of anymore. What other options have you men found for dealing with addiction? Have you found threads that have been helpful here? Have you found them elsewhere? I'm not sure what my next steps are, or if I'll go back to the hobby later, but I think it's worth exploring more now.[/QUOTE]Definitely going through the same stuff. Since the pandemic, theres been no acting out, but have still ventured here on occasion. I will say that reading the works of Robert Weiss (Sex and Love Addiction) expert has been helpful. He's non judgmental and not pushy on 12 step, but the way he frames everything is spot on. Rediscovering other interests and financial benefits are eye opening and rewarding, but the cycle is still easy to fall back in if not careful.

[QUOTE=Vbenny;4924779]I've been inactive in meet ups ever since this pandemic took off. I've noticed my family life getting better. I've noticed my finances improve. I've noticed that I have taken more time to engage in healthy eating and exercising. Overall I'm a better person who's actively pursuing more of my interests. I think a lot of that is tied into my not meeting up with girls, not spending as much energy on trying to homework on girls to meet up with. I think that in a lot of ways I should be much happier and running away from this hobby. Yet I'm still checking theses boards, less frequently, but still more than I'm happy with. I've started to scope out postings again. I've never truly gotten any level of enjoyment from a girl that hasn't been attached to some level of shame. I guess I'm not really sure what direction to go in anymore. I don't see SA as a place for me based off some comments I've been reading here, but I think it's becoming clearer to me that this is not something that I'm in control of anymore. What other options have you men found for dealing with addiction? Have you found threads that have been helpful here? Have you found them elsewhere? I'm not sure what my next steps are, or if I'll go back to the hobby later, but I think it's worth exploring more now.[/QUOTE]Just thought I'd stop by see how my crazy Bro's where doing in this Cov -19 time of depression, loneliness. LOL Yes, we all feel the same way, we have cut back, or maybe stopped our addiction temporary, we say, but still we have that urge that's overpowered our mind, and to still think with our little head. Will it ever go away? Family life has gotten better, more time with the wife, more money, less lie's, but I so miss that high, I need to get me through the day's, thinking about the young, old woman I've fucked and the thrill it gave me, only to need more, more more?

Am I a addict?

Fuck Yaaaa!

Stay safe.

I don't miss the lying, the discomfort of possible discovery, and the health hazards. I do miss the rush. So much.

[QUOTE=Bozoner;4973487]I don't miss the lying, the discomfort of possible discovery, and the health hazards. I do miss the rush. So much.[/QUOTE]Thats exactly it.

Just have to chime in with my two cents here. After my back to back nightmares (which you can read in my post history), I'm beginning to wonder what happened to the hobby, and what the answer to this problem is.

[QUOTE=TailHunter69;4989985]Just have to chime in with my two cents here. After my back to back nightmares (which you can read in my post history), I'm beginning to wonder what happened to the hobby, and what the answer to this problem is.[/QUOTE]Just curious. Do you interpret those experiences as more than just a one-off and more like time to "get out?