Seeking Arrangements

I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.

[QUOTE=CoolGuy1985;3908574]I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.[/QUOTE]First few messages try to flirt.

Then say hey what are you looking for financially.

Then move off the site to text or Kik.

Or:

Say hey my philosophy is to meet up a few times before we agree on a monthly allowance. I'm thinking $1-2 per meet if that works for you. Let's meet soon as I've got a bunch of money to spend and a lot of SBs interested but I think you're special.

Than move to text or Kik. The quicker you get them off SA the better you will be. The app sucks on mobile phones. It looks like tinder but with many buttons and tabs so it's difficult to communicate. I think it's on purpose to benefit the SA owners.

Think of sitting at a bar and chatting it up with a lady. She excuses herself to visit the restroom. On her way back she runs into an old friend (perhaps someone she was chatting with when she was at the bar last week). Will she come back and continue the conversation with you? When? Who knows?

[QUOTE=CoolGuy1985;3908574]I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.[/QUOTE]

I concur. Although I haven't had much success since I only am available to meet during the day, and with the lady hosting, my experiences have directed me to the conclusion that the sooner you take conversation off SA, and to text / email, the better.

[QUOTE=Aardvarks;3908607]First few messages try to flirt.

Then say hey what are you looking for financially.

Then move off the site to text or Kik.

Or:

Say hey my philosophy is to meet up a few times before we agree on a monthly allowance. I'm thinking $1-2 per meet if that works for you. Let's meet soon as I've got a bunch of money to spend and a lot of SBs interested but I think you're special.

Than move to text or Kik. The quicker you get them off SA the better you will be. The app sucks on mobile phones. It looks like tinder but with many buttons and tabs so it's difficult to communicate. I think it's on purpose to benefit the SA owners.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Aardvarks;3908388]Seen this before. Wants a personal email. Part of a hacking scheme. She disappeared because someone probably reported her.[/QUOTE]For a number of reasons, I always try to take them off SA. I give them an email, non-personal of course. One reason is that anything written on SA is owned by SA.

[QUOTE=Longjblues;3909099]I concur. Although I haven't had much success since I only am available to meet during the day, and with the lady hosting, my experiences have directed me to the conclusion that the sooner you take conversation off SA, and to text / email, the better.[/QUOTE]I can only do day dates too. I find that stating that upfront helps in 2 ways 1) Obviously sets the tone for the relationship IE we are. It doing fancy dinners, arm candy BS. We are meeting, chatting, and getting busy. 2) Figure out very early in the prose whether this will work out.

I play a broad search and destroy technique. I lay it all on the line in the first few messages and send the initial exploratory message to 10 at a time. No responses get a follow up "hey are you not interested in money I have an envelope in my hand for you". Any GPS I say "sorry but that's a little over my budget good luck to you". I've had the GPS girls come back and start lowering their # many many times. I've stopped doing the meet and greet thing because it's a waste of time. Skip to the first date and if they're not what you want give them a gift certificate or something. Hi, d onto the cahs They love CVS and Walgreens.

[QUOTE=CoolGuy1985;3908574]I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.[/QUOTE]There are different types of girls on here wanting different kinds of arrangements so depends who you are talking to. A seasoned pro or former backpage girl doesn't want to go back and forth with endless emails. You are wasting their time. A hot college girl who is hesitant and cautious because they never did this before may require a lengthy email exchanges before meeting. One of my top UTRs is a hot college chick I met on SA. It took a month of texting everyday for her to become comfortable with me. She finally took a leap of faith and we met. Now it's like having a girlfriend without the drama. Also keep in mind, the hotter they are, the more hits they are getting from other guys. So you are competing with other guys. When it happens to me I don't sweat it. I just move on. It's a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the more likely you have a chance at meeting someone. It's not for everyone. Some people don't have the time or patience. Some people misinterpret SA as a replacement for backpage. Although there has been an influx of backpage girls due to FOSTA its still a whole different ballgame.

[QUOTE=CoolGuy1985;3908574]I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.[/QUOTE]Some of them might be bots that created by the website itself.

[QUOTE=Spike77;3909584]There are different types of girls on here wanting different kinds of arrangements so depends who you are talking to. A seasoned pro or former backpage girl doesn't want to go back and forth with endless emails. You are wasting their time. A hot college girl who is hesitant and cautious because they never did this before may require a lengthy email exchanges before meeting. One of my top UTRs is a hot college chick I met on SA. It took a month of texting everyday for her to become comfortable with me. She finally took a leap of faith and we met. Now it's like having a girlfriend without the drama. Also keep in mind, the hotter they are, the more hits they are getting from other guys. So you are competing with other guys. When it happens to me I don't sweat it. I just move on. It's a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the more likely you have a chance at meeting someone. It's not for everyone. Some people don't have the time or patience. Some people misinterpret SA as a replacement for backpage. Although there has been an influx of backpage girls due to FOSTA its still a whole different ballgame.[/QUOTE]Completely agree. Mirrors my experience.

[QUOTE=Spike77;3909584]There are different types of girls on here wanting different kinds of arrangements so depends who you are talking to. A seasoned pro or former backpage girl doesn't want to go back and forth with endless emails. You are wasting their time. A hot college girl who is hesitant and cautious because they never did this before may require a lengthy email exchanges before meeting. One of my top UTRs is a hot college chick I met on SA. It took a month of texting everyday for her to become comfortable with me. She finally took a leap of faith and we met. Now it's like having a girlfriend without the drama. Also keep in mind, the hotter they are, the more hits they are getting from other guys. So you are competing with other guys. When it happens to me I don't sweat it. I just move on. It's a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the more likely you have a chance at meeting someone. It's not for everyone. Some people don't have the time or patience. Some people misinterpret SA as a replacement for backpage. Although there has been an influx of backpage girls due to FOSTA its still a whole different ballgame.[/QUOTE]Thanks to all the seasoned players I have digits of 5-6 gals now. Rates are high but let's see how it goes.

I agree with the hot college girl thing. One was asking for 500 bucks for some books. When I asked what do I get in return, she asks what do I expect. When I said well physical intimacy, she said she was surprised she wasn't expecting it. I was like yeah, I will give 500 to you for just talking to me.

[QUOTE=CoolGuy1985;3909938]Thanks to all the seasoned players I have digits of 5-6 gals now. Rates are high but let's see how it goes.

I agree with the hot college girl thing. One was asking for 500 bucks for some books. When I asked what do I get in return, she asks what do I expect. When I said well physical intimacy, she said she was surprised she wasn't expecting it. I was like yeah, I will give 500 to you for just talking to me.[/QUOTE]I have two girls asked me to pay them $200 just to have them eat dinner with me. Where do they get these ideas that we are so desperately lonely?

You should've asked them if you were the appetizer, the entree, or the main course!

[QUOTE=JimXuper90;3910026]I have two girls asked me to pay them $200 just to have them eat dinner with me[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=CoolGuy1985;3908574]I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.[/QUOTE]Basically, have had pretty good luck but every so often something crazy comes along. Several post as being in Boston, but are so far away it's half day of back and forth travel. One 53 yo posted Boston but in Rhode Island because the state is to small and everybody knows everyone. She didn't want to message, text, or email but would talk. Gave the burner #. She called. Ambled through the prelim convo. Repeatedly said was not a hooker just in a bad spot financially. On SA since 2014, but that was SA's error. Finally to the $, wanted 6000 per month. Remember she's 53 lives in RI and is not a hooker. I guess just a dreamer. Said I was the bad person for not wanting to help her. Glad it was the end of a nice day and I was partaking so turned out to be a real hoot.

Here is a nice mature / MILF type. There was no money exchanged and none asked for. She just asked to be spoiled, which didn't mean much more then a drink and offering to get her dinner when we met. Met her out and she looked just like her pics. Noticed that she was married. Typical crappy marriage story and will be eventually divorced. Husband treats her like garbage. I didn't want to really get into it.

BBBJ, DATY, CFS, heavy french kissing all for $0. 00. Just bought her a drink and was nice to her.

If you reach out to her. Be a gentleman. Just offer to take her out to dinner / drinks and act normal. You will probably get laid.

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[QUOTE=Skatar018;3910203]You should've asked them if you were the appetizer, the entree, or the main course![/QUOTE]They even picked up the restaurant for me. "I always want to try this place, if we can meet over there will be great. ".