Regarding negotiations, a provider's veiw
[QUOTE=PrivateParts;4605962]This is not meant to be a criticism but it highlights a dilemma for those posting a report: when should you report the rate for services? It's the first question mongers want to know if it's not found in her ads.
I'm of the opinion it's probably better to NOT report the rate if you know you've gotten significantly below market value due to some relationship you've established with the provider or other circumstances (it's amazing what a pack of cigs can sometimes get you). It's more self serving, but it's also a courtesy so the provider doesn't constantly get lowballed from every monger that reads the reports. Remember: these reports are public and are read by lots of non-members. The same thing is true if you over pay. Don't set the expectation for other mongers or providers to think that's the market value just cause you were desperately excited.
Conversely if you don't have a previous relationship or trust that you'd be breaking, it might be simpler to state in your report what her advertised rate was and say you were able to negotiate. That leaves the door open to others that services, time, and / or rate has flexibility without setting expectations.
It's an unfortunate situation for Chad, but also illustrates why you may not want to tell a provider your USA name. If you do, you better have a lot of trust so you can post reviews honestly. We should all probably also use a little more decorum in our reviews too. Especially for those providers that delivered an honest service but weren't all we hoped for. Be nice even when being critical.
Stepping off my soapbox now.[/QUOTE]As a provider I am very non-negotiable when I set up an appointment. This is because I don't know who I'm meeting, I have no idea of the chemistry that we might encounter, and I'm not sure of who you are. Personally, I find negotiating an encounter to be insulting. However, if the chemistry is there, I have no problem working with you. For me I enjoy this. When I meet someone where the chemistry is right, I tend to go far and beyond the time and expectations of my client. In my personal opinion, discussing the amount of money it cost should be a standard thing. For me its $hh $$ hr. I can tell you as a provider that if you booked with me for a certain amount of time and I exceed that time, it's on me. I never upcharge or "burn the clock" . If I enjoy your company and I might even make you stay the night. Because I do enjoy the hobby especially with people you are the same minded as me.
It's nice to know there are men out there to think the same way I do.
Alixx.