Seeking Arrangements

That sucks! In this game long enough, this crap eventually happens. Most of us learn the hard way. Good luck in the future!

[QUOTE=JamesWoods;5745393]Quick Quick Version:

She reached out via SA. Usual pleasantries. Seemed to check out. Moved the convo to Snap Chat. Set up a meet at a local hotel. Wanted 4. 5 for BBFS or 5 for Greek.

Seemed like a pro, she didn't pop any other red flags.

Later at hotel she comes in, makes small talk, we get comfortable. She asks about the donation, we get that out of the way. She is heavier than in the pics but I roll with it. She plays with Mr. Happy for a couple min, gets a text notification, apologizes, and says she will be right back. Leaves her purse on the bedside table to "prove she will be back", and runs out to her car. 15 min goes by and it becomes clear that she took off. Blocked me on all communications. I check the bag (not a half bad LV knock off) and it's empty sans a bottle of shitty perfume.

Buyer beware. YMMV.

JW.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=JamesWoods;5745393]Later at hotel she comes in, makes small talk, we get comfortable. She asks about the donation, we get that out of the way. She is heavier than in the pics but I roll with it. She plays with Mr. Happy for a couple min, gets a text notification, apologizes, and says she will be right back. Leaves her purse on the bedside table to "prove she will be back", and runs out to her car. 15 min goes by and it becomes clear that she took off. Blocked me on all communications. I check the bag (not a half bad LV knock off) and it's empty sans a bottle of shitty perfume.[/QUOTE]This is a key difference between sugar dating and escorts: professional providers require payment up front, SB's are given the gift at the end of the session. In almost 5 years of sugar dating I had only one SB demand the gift up front and it was the one and only time I was scammed. If the SB wants the gift up front, turn around and walk away. Hard pass.

You missed the point. I don't want Venmo or similar to be removing money from my bank account. Only a protected and safe credit card.

[QUOTE=Bran001;5746781]It's my understanding that Venmo does not share bank account info with the recipient -- only the Venmo details which can be anonymized (fake name, anonymous gmail account, etc.).[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=HounDog3;5746834]This is a key difference between sugar dating and escorts: professional providers require payment up front, SB's are given the gift at the end of the session. In almost 5 years of sugar dating I had only one SB demand the gift up front and it was the one and only time I was scammed. If the SB wants the gift up front, turn around and walk away. Hard pass.[/QUOTE]Read HDs comments twice. True words!!

I have never had a true SB ask for money up front and if they do it's a hard no there is the door. It takes some discipline to walk away but it will never fail you.

[QUOTE=JDeller;5746544]

After a few dates I just move to venmo. Most guys aren't comfortable with that but I like the convenience and avoids making the whole deal seem transactional and them feeling like a _ It also tends to limit any further discussion of money, like, "Can we do a higher ppm moving forward? "My oil bill just came".[/QUOTE]Careful with Venmo. I wouldn't recommend friending anyone. Most people know to use an anonymous name and to set their transactions to private. But there is a second setting to make all your past transactions private (many don't know this). Remember, your transaction history cannot be deleted. They can only be set to private. Also, Venmo openly admits to selling your information to third parties. I understand it's easier to use and feels less transactional but cash is probably the safest way to go. And there is nothing stopping a girl for asking more money no matter how you are paying her. Just my 2 cents.

There is no account info. Just your profile name. Make sure all transactions are set to private so the whole world doesn't see you are making regular payments to someone with a sexy female avatar.

[QUOTE=MamboMikea;5746646]Have you been able to link Venmo etc to an anonymous credit card? I have found that most will only link to and withdraw money from a verified checking 3.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=MamboMikea;5746846]You missed the point. I don't want Venmo or similar to be removing money from my bank account. Only a protected and safe credit card.[/QUOTE]I prefer using cashapp without any bank info or anything connected. You can deposit cash at like cvs and a couple other places just showing an I'd and your cashapp code on the phone then it's on your account to send to whom ever you want. Super easy, just keep it stacked or load it when you need it. Never have to worry about having banking info on your phone or being connected to your account or anything like that. It's worked for me for a while now.

[QUOTE=HounDog3;5746834]This is a key difference between sugar dating and escorts: professional providers require payment up front, SB's are given the gift at the end of the session. In almost 5 years of sugar dating I had only one SB demand the gift up front and it was the one and only time I was scammed. If the SB wants the gift up front, turn around and walk away. Hard pass.[/QUOTE]With new / young SB's I've given the gift up front -- not because they asked (they didn't) but just to clear their mind that they aren't going to get scammed by me. This has been greeted by a heartfelt "THANK YOU. ".

Whether we think about it or not, it's in the back of the mind of these girls. "Will he actually give me the gift?" Again, not a situation where she asks for it. We all know that pro's and thieves ask for it up front.

[QUOTE=JamesWoods;5746617]Normally that is my policy too. I was thrown off a little because the conversations seemed good. I can usually tell after the first few messages back and forth if it is going to be a waste of time. Like I said, no real red flags. The date was going well to that point.

If someone meets with her and it is a positive experience I would love to know. Maybe this was some other girl using her pics, or something? I am an optimist.

Have fun. Be careful.

JW.[/QUOTE]Yeah man it gets the best of us sometimes. Like I have mentioned before in a previous post I was scammed for buying a $100 STEAM gift card once I was on my way to meet he SB. Good thing I was able to recoup my losses by reselling them on ebay for a 20% loss. Better than losing out on $100 for a gift card and not getting laid LOL. Be careful out there fellas.

I was trying check out some of the links, but almost all of them are showing up as "This profile no longer exists", is there a trick I am missing here?

[QUOTE=suaimmagine;5745309]I'd stay clear of that site. TONS of bots and very few real women. SA has a lot of scammers and flaws, but SB is the worst. Here's a post from a former employee.

[URL]https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/n2mf23/beware_secret_benefits_from_employee/[/URL][/QUOTE]Hmmmm That's unfortunate. Thanks for the warning though. Some of the women looked great.

[QUOTE=LoveOralNs;5749113]Hmmmm That's unfortunate. Thanks for the warning though. Some of the women looked great.[/QUOTE]And the typical message is Hi or Hey.

Costly.

Lex? Jasmyn?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/25a67de7-e44b-4736-bce2-6d48153220cb[/URL]

Weird girl. Promises to squirt and let you finger her. And whatever else for 350? 300. Definitely delivered on the first part. But once that was done, they got dressed in a hurry and left.

I should have let the big head do the thinking and not paid till I was done. So. I'm out 300+ Cost of room.

Attached are their pictures. Buyer beware.

[QUOTE=GlennDoyle91;5749545]Lex? Jasmyn?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/25a67de7-e44b-4736-bce2-6d48153220cb[/URL]

Weird girl. Promises to squirt and let you finger her. And whatever else for 350? 300. Definitely delivered on the first part. But once that was done, they got dressed in a hurry and left.

I should have let the big head do the thinking and not paid till I was done. So. I'm out 300+ Cost of room.

Attached are their pictures. Buyer beware.[/QUOTE]Texas? Her profile says.

[QUOTE=GlennDoyle91;5749545]Lex? Jasmyn?

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/25a67de7-e44b-4736-bce2-6d48153220cb[/URL]

Weird girl. Promises to squirt and let you finger her. And whatever else for 350? 300. Definitely delivered on the first part. But once that was done, they got dressed in a hurry and left.

I should have let the big head do the thinking and not paid till I was done. So. I'm out 300+ Cost of room.

Attached are their pictures. Buyer beware.[/QUOTE]I Don't see any pics attached LOL.