Handling the Poetry Reading Fee
[QUOTE=MiniMan21;2680574]Yesterday, I met with a WSW named Chrissy. She was waiting by the book store, so I picked up and we had our date. After a little bit of small talk and a LEO check, I got a bbbjws. It was unrushed and she seams to enjoy enjoy what she does. (That's what I want to believe). LOL. The only mistake that I did wrong, was to put all my funds in one pocket. So of course their was a upcharged after the agreed upon price. Lesson learn. So what do you guys think about tipping after getting good service? Yes / No or only when it is asked?[/QUOTE]Thanks for the report! Nice to see the newer members posting.
Yeah, looks like you learned a valuable lesson. The key is what lesson was learned? The streets have a way of teaching you if you haven't learned a head of time. Reading threads here and asking questions can be a "cheaper" and safer method of learning. Mongering looks easy, safe mongering is far from it. I'm just sayin'.
But no worries. We all went through these "learning experiences" and (don't let anyone tell you otherwise) periodically run into a new "learning experience" despite experience, knowledge and techniques. The streets are always evolving and "teaching" is part of the game.
But let me ask this - [B]How did you get an up charge?[/B] I think there are several lessons to be had here.
Way I see it, you agree on a fee for the girl to read some poetry. She reads the poetry with passion and eroticism. You are satisfied. You hand over the agreed upon fee. End of story. Oh sure, the girl might see your big wad and expect or ask for more. But once the poetry reading is done, she has lost all leverage. She is entitled to what was agreed and that is it. Give it to her and if she protests too much, kick her out!
The point is girls need cash and are expert at extracting it from you. One of the tough monger lessons for me was learning how to be FIRM yet polite and kind at the same time. I learned that being wishy washy, indecisive or showing weakness was a recipe for "drama. " Girls on the street could sense my fear, indecision or whatever and they pounced on it in a heart beat, to my detriment.
So I developed some thick skin and some "techniques" for handling situations. First, I always go out knowing what I am looking for. Being "opportunistic" on a whim never worked for me. If I was unprepared it showed and the girl was more prepared. So knowing what the standard rates are for poetry reading, I go out with that amount in my pocket. In another pocket I have a "no thank you" amount $5 - $10. That way if drama starts I can hand over a small amount and diffuse a potentially dangerous situation or get a girl who is a PIA out. Now I might have additional funds, but they are stashed away. [I]{see Rules #17 & #18 of the 22 Rules for Street Mongering}[/I] Also, I am NEVER afraid to just kick the girl out. This is the ultimate leverage. You show a willingness to "book" (walk away) and she has to decide to either get reasonable or get back out in the cold. She has to decide if a bird in the hand is worth two in the Bush? I have foud, that if that doesn't sober them up, I don't want to date them anyway.
So with a girl who is adamant about poetry reading up front, one has a decision. Either kick her out or try some techniques, BOTH require use of the BIG head first. So one technique is to show the girl that you have the money. Hold firmly and fan it out so she can see it is the agreed amount. Then promptly put it away. This usually satisfies the girls that have been ripped off by dudes who have no cash on them. If that doesn't work seriously consider finding another girl. After all as F'ed up as the streets are, there still needs to be some level of trust. If she can't trust you or her, are you really going to trust her with your prized book of poems? With an in call date one can place the fee out in open and make sure they stay between the fee and the girl, but in a car situation there is usually no where to place it that can't be reached as your loose focus.
Another technique, I learned from a now-departed monger on these threads (fbtom), was called the "Rule of Fifths". He would give the girl 1/5th of the fee up front, a second 5th when at the spot or room, a 3rd fifth when all were comfortable. The point was he enticed a reluctant girl along. Girls just want to see that your are going to pay and not stiff them. Again, if this isn't working and the girl is getting agitated or escalating, one can always toss her and cut the loss short.
So, yeah. Something as "easy" as a street scoop can have a bunch of risks and different methods for managing those risks.
Now as far as tipping goes. Sure that is always appropriate for good service. If you do that you will gain points with the girl and she'll be glad to see you again. So some day you might be the third car in line at the curb making a play for the girl. If you are a tipper she might walk past the other two cars and jump in yours!
So good luck and stay safe!