Cienega32
Excellent attitude. Way to go!
Regards, Havanaman
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Cienega32
Excellent attitude. Way to go!
Regards, Havanaman
I've got nothing informational to say, as I've been lying low lately, but I can weigh in on the big question "Does size matter ?". My post is based partly on experience and partly on fragments of books I've read over the years, but I can't cite them. And it's not like I studied this question, it just came up.
The majority of women will say size doesn't matter; my own experience as a moderately big guy with a fair sampling of women over 20 years is that at least 10% of them like the feeling, and at least 25% like the appearance, though I would bet that if you're too big you reach diminishing returns (or drive a smaller percentage of women wild ?). Meanwhile natural selection requires a minimum size, about 4" to inseminate, so biologically size does not seem to matter much. However, humans have the largest penis among primates (you have to wonder about about the guy who discovered that !). The profound question is: why ?
The best theory seems to be that there is a mild selection for penis size based on the "ornament theory" of sexual selection. Accordingly, in every species certain characteristics may be selected arbitrarily, even though they confer no benefit. An obvious example is peacock feathers, which are rather burdensome but are indeed selected by females. There are many other examples as well. A male's "ornament" proves that he can waste biological resources yet still survive. It is a sign they are healthy and fit, that they grew their appendages properly and with lots of cells to spare.
So, enjoy your ornament ! And don't get too upset about this post. I'm only 40% serious. Alright, I'm outta here.
Snake27,
I agree with what you say. I had not thought about the "ornament theory", interesting and I expect, a credible idea.
As to the importance of size, biologically speaking: well, for insemination 3” - 4” has got to be a minimum.
Where can I read more about the "ornament theory" ?
Regards, Havanaman
I doubt it very much that there is any minimum size required by biology for insemination.
People used to think that if women does not get orgasm, she does not get pregnant. Turned out to be absolutely wrong.
Your main sex organ is your brain. For both sexes. Orgasm happens in brain - in the genital area it is just the result of stimulation of nerves initiated by brain.
I remember a woman who was still clothed and just some petting made her to orgasm - even her legs buckled.
I have seen plenty of them, and mine is above average (no bragging). My exwife never had an orgasm.
Many women never have an orgasm. It has not been shown that they enjoy sex any less than those who do have it. Men have single orgasm, and how long does it last? A whole 30 seconds. But men are not any less satisfied with sex than women.
So worry about your relationship - and dont worry about your size. If size of the first is robust, then most men have adequate size for the second.
Snake 27, which part weren't you serious about, the part where you said that you had a monkey dick, or the part where you said that women don't like monkey dicks? lol.
I would agree with your premise on general terms. I have an average to slightly larger than average penis. (Nothing to brag about!) Anyway, I believe as long as you display confidence in yourself, and know how to use it and other sexual techniques, then women don't really care how big it is. They just want to have a satisfying sexual experience.
I dated a girl for a while who used to be married with a guy that she described as having a 'horse' dick. She said at first it was wonderful because she never felt so full before, but after the initial sense of being full wore off, she wasn't satisfied because he didn't know how to use that thing. She said that he would stick it in, work it just long enough for him to get off and she had to get hers quick or she didn't get one herself.
Now, I believe she was being honest because she said that she loved having a big dick, she just wanted to be with a skilled partner. She speculated that most women are that way. They are satisfied with your size as long as you satisfy them completely. And, I believe that to satisfy a woman completely you have to have confidence in yourself.
I would hazard a guess that most guys with small shafts don't have the most self-confidence in the world, and therefore their failure to please women derives more from the lack of self-confidence than lack of penis size. -Just an opinion!
Boxcc,
Agree with you all the way about confidence. I would also add that a lot of men have no idea when it comes to techniques. I can not explain this, but a lot of guys think that just “sticking it in" will do the job. Is this because they did not have any “girl time” at college, or just an inability to imagine what needs doing (after all it is basic human instinct and the chicas nearly always give indicators as to what they need…).
The majority of young men show public bravado, especially in the company of other young men: this I feel just fuels the “stick-it-in” methodology.
The lesson, and I think it should be taught in schools, is quite simple: air is to breathing as friction is to good sex.
In the end you are right Boxcc, size is an issue in confidence, technique is the solution. Just think gentlemen: a nice size and refined technique would make us all gods!
Regards, Havanaman
I couldn't have said it better myself Havanaman! Oh, to be a GOD! At least in your own mind, and your womans!
I would hazard a guess that truly pleasing your partner and yourself while having sex is the closest that you can get to Heaven on Earth!
Wassup you all? Don't think to much of increasing your dick size. You are not a porn star and if you think you have a small dick, find a tight small pussy and your dick won't feel small.
Like most of you said, you are the paying customer why do you concern about the size of your dick. Most survey also said that most women do not prefer large dicks like porn stars size. They really hurt especially when they aren't wet ( pussies). Happy pumpin' till you cum fellas!
Lets share more info what makes women cum.
Dick Nasty,
Read some of the earlier reports.
The ideas you talk about are correct in so far as size and pain are concerned, however stop and think about “relative size”, and also about the psychology involved.
Are the people who want to increase their size doing it for the chicas or themselves? I would suggest its for themselves.
There are issues of confidence (well commented on by Boxcc), looks / “ornament” theory (well commented on by Snake27) etc… My own interest is from the medical / research angle.
Each to their own friend.
Regards, Havanaman
Dick Nasty,
Man, we are all looking for that tight small pussy! If you find it, how about letting me know about it so I can hit that thing too before Havanaman gets his monster in her! lol.
I agree with you about the size not mattering to a paid performer, but if the man feels inadequate then will he truly enjoy the experience even if he is paying? But, saying not to worry about something and actually not worrying about something are two very different things.
In short, you are either happy with your equipment, or you are not. It's that simple.
Boxcc,
LOL.
No complaints so far, but then I’ve been lucky with “tightness”.
I guess the Grand Canyon is always around the corner.
I guess the Grand Canyon is always around the corner.
Shit was that an eco while eating pussy?
Regards, Havanaman
About a year ago I was considering replacing my old 15'' trinitron computer monitor with a newer & bigger model. At that time, my friend told me to get the 21'' monitor. I told him that was too big, but he replied saying 'trust me, bigger is always better'. After some serious consideration I decided for a 19'' mitsubishi CRT. I've been using this monitor for a year and it's great.
About a month ago, my computer broke down, so I went into my brother's room to use his computer (17'' monitor). And oh boy it felt so small that I couldn't stand it. Letter was too small to read! (remember, I used to have a 15'' monitor and I didn't complain at the time). So I thought similar situation applies to the girls.
CanCan, Gentlemen,
I have never discussed penis size with a woman. In the interest of science I am going to have a real heart to heart about this subject with the next couple of pay for plays I do, as well as my current chica. I will report back. Clearly this will not be a scientific experiment, but will add to the body of evidence.
CanCan: In terms of just penis-vaginal sex and sexual pleasure, there is a minimum size requirement as well as technique. Unfortunately we can not say what that is, as all chicas are different. Just thinking about it, if you place a pencil in a toilet-paper-roll tube, the pencil will not touch the sides. In the vagina, the walls will surround the dick offering some frictional energy for both partners. However, a pencil dick will not: hence minimum requirements and good pelvic technique.
This situation also depends on the chicas needs. My current chica will not have vaginal penetration with me. Strange but true. She loves to take it in her mouth (BBBJ & CIM) and up the arse, but not in her pussy. She loves DATY, but no finger penetration. For her, size is not important (thank goodness!!).
Just goes to show that chicas are all different: if you satisfy them (tongue, fingers, any-body part, passion, tenderness etc) then size becomes no issue at all.
What I’m saying is that a chica going form a very big man to an average sized or even small man, but one who offers passion, tenderness etc will be satisfied, maybe more, maybe same, but not less. I have found that the secret with ANY chica is ones attitude, behaviour, thoughtfulness, tenderness and caring. Even for one night stands.
Regards, Havanaman
Can Can, I like your effort on the analogy about the computer screen and penis size, but I don't think that it is quite accurate. The female vagina is designed to do many things, the two most important are sexual intercourse and birth. A vagina is a remarkable thing, (I think that is why we spend our entire life doing research on them! lol) It is designed to give pleasure during sexual intercourse. As Havanaman points out, the vagina will adjust itself to its current partner to provide frictional energy for both parties. As long as you have the minimum size requirement, then you can achieve orgasm with both parties.
That very same vagina that provided sexual pleasure can deliver a baby 9 months after the sexual bliss is over! I find it truly remarkable how resilient a vagina is. It can spit out a 10 pound baby then constrict back to original size so that you can start all over again. I speak with some experience here, I have 4 children and I notice no difference in my wife's pussy from before we were married until now.
So, personally, I think it comes down to personal preference for the woman. Some women just want big dicks! I can't help that and neither can anyone else. But, some women, don't give a damn about size, they just want a quality fuck! If you know how to please a woman, she won't give a damn about how huge or small your penis is.
This brings us back to one of my original points about penis size. It doesn't matter what your size is, if you have self-confidence then your size won't bother you. You can fuction normally and you have the ability to please women. If you lack self-confidence, then your penis can bother you and that is bound to effect how well you can fuck. I don't care who you are, if you feel that penis size is a problem for you then it will become one. That lack of confidence will make you not perform as well as you can and that will be the real reason that you don't please your woman. You won't please here because you believe that you cannot because of your size.
If you believe that you cannot do something, you are correct, you won't be able to do it, so don't waste your time trying. But, if you believe you can do something, then apply yourself and it will happen. So, instead of putting all that effort into trying to make your dick grow, when clearly that won't happen, you should put that effort into learning how to use what you have to bring maximum pleasure to your partner.
Best Regards,
Box
BOXCC & HAVANAMAN
Thanks guys for giving great advice for those that feel their size is inapropriate.
I want to add to those thoughts. Chicas don't know your penis size until they see it/feel it. By that time it's too late since you are on top of her already. Like when you go to a night club, the girl you are going home with, does she know your penis size ? is she going home with your because of your penis size? I don't think so.