Seeking Arrangements

[QUOTE=BigStu;5687993]I went on a meet and greet with her maybe 1. 5 years ago. At the time she said I could come to her place in Pawtucket. Bareback was ok, I forget why I never actually went farther. But at the time she wanted 300 for a few hours. Come a few months ago I reached out to her AND she tells me that its not her it's her twin sister, LOL. She now charges more, wants 500 for 1. 5 hrs. She's been talked about before on here. LOL we'd term her as a pro, she probably thinks of herself as more of a pro sugarbaby. I still kind of want to see her but too focused on my regular 2 sb's who do overnights for 300 and 400.[/QUOTE]That mediocre girl asked me for $600. HARD PASS.

Ever meet up with Rue?

[QUOTE=Bigdigfk;5606814]I will meet her tomorrow. I will report back the experience.

Has anyone met her and can share the scoop?[/QUOTE]

I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?

[QUOTE=KashkaiBoy;5691956]I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?[/QUOTE]Would definitely like to see this answered as well, by someone with a lot more experience than me.

As someone with an uncommon name, there's no way I'll give my real either first or last name. I also don't get into my profession too much. I'm also real careful with my wallet as well and I don't usually touch my phone either for an intro or intimate meet. I also plan where I do intro meets in public, since there are some areas of the city where I could bump into people who would know me. SA is definitely risky in multiple ways I've found, but unfortunately, risk tends to be proportional to reward.

Also, don't forget as Louie CK says "A man will cut your arm off and throw it in a river, but he'll leave you as a human being intact. He won't fuck with who you are. Women are non-violent, but they will shit inside of your heart. "

[QUOTE=KashkaiBoy;5691956]I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?[/QUOTE]Not sure there is an absolute guarantee. There is always a risk in this hobby. But just use common sense. You are not required to give them personal information. So don't. Just tell them you want discretion upfront. They should understand that. If not, move on. Most women want discretion themselves. Also, use a burner phone. Meet at hotels, rather than hosting at your house if you want to play it safe. Don't make your profile pics public by default. That being said, the girls in my rotation I have known for a few years and we have developed a friendship and I trust them and they trust me. But that is my choice and a risk I am willing to take. You do what's comfortable for you.

[QUOTE=MinorLeague;5690308]She says her last SD gave her $1,200 per meet <[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/13fe042f-0c5f-4542-b1ce-ae0e1468bd75>[/URL].[/QUOTE]Well she ain't stupid. She will say high price cause she knows you will negotiate to lower. Ain't no WGs going to be like my last sugar daddy gave me $200 LOL.

[QUOTE=MamboMikea;5690165]I can corroborate this information. I would not avoid her though. I saw no signs of serious drug use and you get what you came for. I would say that having a four year old open the door and scream what are you doing 8's a new experience though.[/QUOTE]Yeah I mean she just wanted to do the deed like a dime-a-dozen escort and had no real interest in getting to know one another, didn't want to open up emotionally or even look me in the eye or speak clearly and directly or kiss (the fact she is a lesbian did not help). That's not what I'm interested in when I see an SA girl, and I assume others here are similarly inclined which is why I wouldn't recommend her unless you want an impersonal escort experience.

[QUOTE=KashkaiBoy;5691956]I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?[/QUOTE]Discretion has always been a priority for me but I am also particular with who I see from SA and really focus on college girls or single mothers who also want discretion. Not too many are looking to advertise they a banging an old man for money as they usually have normal lives to protect as well.

That being said I also have fake social media profiles, use a fake name, use a burner phone or text app, never take them to my home, make sure my vehicle info is secure. My venmo has a fake name attached to it and it draws from a private account or use cash only. I use profile pics that don't really show my face or I have sunglasses on. Yeah it's a lot of upfront work but I don't worry about being found out about and have been doing it for a long time. I do try to not mingle in the same town as I live but even that isn't too big of a deal. I keep my conversations about her as much as possible and give only minor details about myself. Mostly about my job and all of the travel I had done. They seem to think that is very exciting and it may make them feel like I'm a professional with a big job so they get relaxed for some reason. Plenty of work experiences to keep the topic off my personal life. If they start to venture down that path I am very vague or make some shit up. I never, never reveal my real name or where I live. Always be asking about them, being curious about them, complementing and directing the conversations around what makes them tick serves two purposes. It shows them you are focused on them and keeps the clock running without having anytime for them to ask about you. Eventually they will figure out that you don't want to talk about you and will stop asking a lot of questions. If they insist then move on and find someone else.

I always meet at a hotel the first few times and then try to get them to invite me to their place. This isn't always an option as many still live at home. If the hotel costs are adding up and she isn't open to hosting then I will start to close out the relationship and look for something that fits that need better. I did bring a few to my vacation home but that was after many meetups and I knew much more about them than they did of me.

Has anyone seen Saragood in western mass? Any info would be appreicated.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/335570a0-4a6e-43c2-894b-3546787d6b7c[/URL]

Hey there,

Do you use your real name when signing up for Seeking? Tried to sign up and they asked me to verify right after I submitted my DOB and email. No warning, just locked out and had to email support.

[QUOTE=Style20;5692510]Well she ain't stupid. She will say high price cause she knows you will negotiate to lower. Ain't no WGs going to be like my last sugar daddy gave me $200 LOL.[/QUOTE]Unfortunately, there will be that one person who will give that amount. A rich person, older desperate person or just plain stupid. That's an easy one hit without much work. If it takes days or weeks, they'll do it just to get that one. It'll last then a few weeks before they pull the fishing rod again.

[QUOTE=GianniVersace;5694481]Has anyone seen Saragood in western mass? Any info would be appreicated.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/335570a0-4a6e-43c2-894b-3546787d6b7c[/URL][/QUOTE]Haven't met up yet. She says she can host but is looking for 350-450. At that rate doubtful I'd go further.

[QUOTE=Airdelay;5694997]Hey there,

Do you use your real name when signing up for Seeking? Tried to sign up and they asked me to verify right after I submitted my DOB and email. No warning, just locked out and had to email support.[/QUOTE]Can someone comment on this? So now we can't use a vanilla visa anymore with a fake name and address?

Hey has anyone met with this one? We are meeting up sometime this week or next.

[QUOTE=BleedGreen88;5692185]So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?

Would definitely like to see this answered as well, by someone with a lot more experience than me.[/QUOTE]I've had SBs for 15 years or so now -- Better safe than sorry, especially if you have relationships to preserve and / or professional obligations that require extreme discretion. I never give my real name, number, info, etc. At first. I've had flakes threaten to find out where I work and call my office, another I met in public at the Back Bay Barnes & Noble threatened to start shouting where I met her if I didn't give her my wallet (which I don't bring to the first meeting, even if in a hotel, I'll leave my wallet / cards in my room). Speaking of hotels, I prefer the first meeting in a public place like a lobby and then drinks / dinner (to make sure no one's following) then up to a hotel room to get to know one another more, where one thing I do is ask if they're 18+; if my instinct calls for it I ask to see their I'd. I've done Airbnbs before as well but prefer hotels so she can't put up hidden cameras. Before we get intimate I also make them strip and then take a shower with me. Nice check on if she's carrying anything, and I find it helps warm up for BB play.

If I feel comfortable with an SB after a few meetings I'll share my real first name (many times they will reveal they also used a fake name). I still never give my last name or work info, etc.

One time I was dating a runway model and Harvard undergrad, paying for her apartment as well as gifts and shopping -- I made sure she could get the apartment in her own name and I just gave her cash. She gave me a key and I'd stop by at lunch, whenever for BBFS and everything in between. For her I felt very close but still only gave my first name.

Throughout, I use a physical burner phone or the Burner app on iPhone. I kept one of the old burner lines open and the other week an old SB texted veiled threats. Made me glad I could just burn the line.

One note -- I always make sure they know they will be compensated in cash, especially for first meetings / early meetings. I'd rather they take the cash and not cause me trouble down the line, especially if the meeting doesn't go well at all, they don't want to get intimate, etc. I bring the cash for the first meeting in a magazine or book and just leave it with them.