Checking in, plus a short history
The eternal quest for perfection, however you define that. The ideal here seems to be very attractive, able to make a personal connection. Low-risk / overhead / drama (I.e., no Nando-1's), and inexpensive (the gold standard being $ or so). I believe that I have hit the 20/80 mark for my quest in perfection. Could I find something better? Probably. Do I have the time? Do I want to take on additional risk? Answer to both is "no". I've probably hit 80% of perfection with 20% of the effort. The rest is an asymptotic curve, at least based on my experience and from reading the board.
In my relatively short search, I ran into flakes, GPS, UTRs, girls who would have struck a deal but I didn't have a connection with, a couple of POTs that had sudden cold feet, and one situation where I blew it but probably turned out for the best. It was long, time-consuming, and emotionally exhausting. For all her shortcomings, nothing "clicked" like my current SB.
One of the early POTs was a HCB (at least from the pics) and we exchanged quite a few emails. We had incompatible schedules and she was a bit too far away. But bright, interesting, a normally-straight-and-narrow girl looking to explore her wild side while she still could. Unfortunately between the barrage of creepsters on SDFM and suddenly faced with the decision to actually move ahead with a face-to-face, she panicked. To her credit, she was very up-front about it and didn't just flake on me. Allegedly she found me too attractive (at least based on my writing style) and claimed to be afraid that she would fall for me. Normally I would call BS on something like that, but the emails were pretty deep and sincere. It was my first experience with getting too invested too early-really hard to let it go even though I knew it was the right thing to do.
My "close-call" was a HYM in her late 20's. Stable job, two kids, attractive if a bit lacking in chemistry. Things were going really well over text, we had a MTG that went well, but she sensed my hesitation and insisted that I really go into this "ready", whatever that means. In the meantime, she had car trouble which postponed another MTG. The way she presented the whole car thing set off scam-alerts and got me paranoid. Too paranoid, and when I confronted her about it (over texts-stupid of me), I'm sure I came across as a creeper and she bailed. Still thoroughly paranoid, I rooted out her Facebook page and a lot of things didn't align with her story. The biggest being her relationship with her ex, which she played down as more or less out of the picture. Well, the Facebook pages told a different story (lots of recent "happy family" pics). Not only that, this guy was an Army vet with lots of pics of large biceps, fatigues, and guns. God only knows what I could have been in for if things proceeded but then went sour. (shudder).
So my SB is not a conventional beauty (until she shows that spinner body), has some drama issues, and performance could be better. It's pretty clear that she's probably getting the better end of the deal sex-wise. I see that as a work-in-progress, and I get a lot of pleasure from seeing her all but worship me as a sex god. That sounds over the top, and if you told me that five years ago I would have laughed. But it's not much of an exaggeration. And from the board it's clear that many of us have had that mind-blowing, game-changing experience.
So... Checking in. Had another five hour romp in the FC. With the sudden warm weather she surprised me by wearing a dress but nothing underneath. Soooo hot to have her on top but still clothed. I had a concall scheduled midday which we decided we would work around. Well, that consisted of her blowing me during the entire call, and became a battle of sensory overload vs concentration. I'm happy (I think) to report that the latter won out. Once the call was over, we spontaneously proceeded to act out a fantasy that we apparently both had-she mounted me on the chair and went to town.
By the time it was over she could neither walk straight nor think straight. Even though I only popped once, it was friggin amazing to be able to fuck someone silly.
Ah, finally getting the sex life I never had...
Update on mystery phone call SB
Thanks again to all of the helpful brothers on this forum for the advice and insight to this situation through postings and PMs. I wish I knew who the caller was but probably will never figure it out at this point because I doubt I will see this particular SB again. After the scare of the phone call settled down, we arranged for another meeting over the past few days. This meeting had been set up way in advance and I was really looking forward to seeing her again. It wasn't her looks so much that kept me coming back to her. It was just a sweet personality and she seemed to really enjoy spending time together. That's the prime reason that I was willing to risk seeing her again even after the mystery phone call that had caused us to postpone our last meeting.
4 days before our rescheduled meeting date, she txts me with the dreaded "rent is due" panic and asked to borrow $ I first tell her that I never advance money to a SB, but the next day I stupidly contact her back and tell her that I felt bad and would advance her at least part of her request. She seemed grateful for the offer and we agreed to meet at a local fast food just to hand off the cash and say Hello,. When we met, she got in my car and we had a short discussion about the mystery phone call. But she was calm about it and seemed over the scare. I handed her a $$ cash advance as we were to meet for a date just 3 days later and that was enough to tide her over until our meeting and her next payday. Then she agreed to go park with me for a little car action and delivered a nice BBBJCIM as a quick little thank-you for the loan. I wasn't expecting that, but our next date wasn't for 3 more days and I had no action planned in between, so thought that was a good way to keep junior happy until we were to meet again.
We txt'd back and forth over the next couple of days and everything seemed normal. On the day of the night we were supposed to meet, she sends me a txt saying she was with one of her friends and would see me at our scheduled time, but as the time got closer she went on radio silence. After trying to reach her throughout the afternoon, she finally sends me a txt about 30 minutes before we were to meet saying she didn't think she could make it.
Moral of the story: Never Never Never Never Never advance money to a SB. I knew better, but went ahead with it anyway because I trusted this one more than others in the past. But I guarantee you that if she had not received my advance she would have found a way to keep our date. The fact that she had enough cash in hand to pay her immediate bills, have her the flexibility to cancel out on me at the very last minute, which would never have happened if she was still in need of rent money.
I know I was stupid. Another one bites the dust as they say.
Alias.
[QUOTE=AliasSM;2020499]Thanks Revo and others that responded to my request. This is still a mystery, but I have eliminated the possibility of a few sources on my end and feel much better about the potential of any security threat on my end.
To answer some of the questions:
- I never use my Google voice to talk with her by phone. All of our interactions from the beginning have been strictly txt through Google voice.
- I use my own cell phone but keep it locked down at all times.
- My SO is definitely NOT involved. I know her very well and she would never be able to keep something like this to herself. She would have confronted me by now or at least left some indication through her mood changes that there is a major problem.
-I never use a shared PC or anything other than my locked-down cell phone to communicate with this SB.
- At first I thought maybe this SB was trying to blow me off and this might be an easy way to scare me off, but she has since come around and wants to meet again.
- None of my other SBs have received a message at this point.
- I do use my real first name with this SB. I know that is stupid on my part, but they usually find out anyway and I never felt the need to hide it with her. She claims that my name is not tied to my number on her cell phone, so that would eliminate the "someone saw her cell phone messages" theory. They supposedly called me by name when talking with her.
So still a mystery for both of us. I like her enough to not let this scare me off. I'll keep you posted after our next meeting if she agrees to keep the relationship going.
Thanks.
Alias.[/QUOTE]