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[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3262039]There have been lots of times when I've seen a chick, I swear I won't do it again, and I'm plotting my next action a few days later. 2-3 weeks is about how long it takes to where I'm climbing the walls and am about to lose my mind.[/QUOTE]So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?
[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;3262252]So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?[/QUOTE]People like to get caught up in the numbers game. Addiction is a word that can be used on everything in one3's life. From cigarettes to you name it its an addiction. For me it means is it threatning my health and welfare.
Now everyone has something to lose in this hobby but its a conscious choice we make to play the game. Its pretty simple to me, if it threatens my health or welfare then its time I seek professional help. Oh and to change one has to develop, new habits and friends.
[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;3262252]So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?[/QUOTE]Hate to keep saying that, but it depends. My income is all right, but I'm stretching my budget to average 1 or 2 encounters a month with an above average provider. I usually stay away from the lower cost chicks because they tend to have more risks than the higher end ones, at least in my area (Cincinnati).
To me, this isn't like drinking where you can say more definitely how many drinks are likely to be a problem for the average person. I regard myself as a sex addict because of my overall picture. Things like the amount of time I spend on sites like this, the preoccupation with getting a piece, texting providers to see who's available and where they are, visiting porn sites at least a few times a week, traveling to see providers I've scheduled with, and then actually seeing them. It's a lot of lost time, cash, and income.
It all comes down to whether you consider it to be a problem for you in your particular case, IMO.
If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence!
[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3262511]Hate to keep saying that, but it depends. My income is all right, but I'm stretching my budget to average 1 or 2 encounters a month with an above average provider. I usually stay away from the lower cost chicks because they tend to have more risks than the higher end ones, at least in my area (Cincinnati).
To me, this isn't like drinking where you can say more definitely how many drinks are likely to be a problem for the average person. I regard myself as a sex addict because of my overall picture. Things like the amount of time I spend on sites like this, the preoccupation with getting a piece, texting providers to see who's available and where they are, visiting porn sites at least a few times a week, traveling to see providers I've scheduled with, and then actually seeing them. It's a lot of lost time, cash, and income.
It all comes down to whether you consider it to be a problem for you in your particular case, IMO.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262647]If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence![/QUOTE]So no chance of hooking up with like minded Sexually addicted women at these meetings?
Right-like there are somehow "sex addicted women" at a 12 Step meeting designed to "recover" from such?
[QUOTE=Knucklebuck;3262661]So no chance of hooking up with like minded Sexually addicted women at these meetings?[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262647]If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence![/QUOTE]To SAA or LSAA meetings. Hanging out with genuine sex offenders (which I'm sure there are quite a few of there) is not my idea of a good time.
Instead, I'm hitting the gym a lot, both so I can check out hot women in tight clothes and so I can find a bed buddy.
[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262666]Right-like there are somehow "sex addicted women" at a 12 Step meeting designed to "recover" from such?[/QUOTE]LOL good to know!
[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262666]Right-like there are somehow "sex addicted women" at a 12 Step meeting designed to "recover" from such?[/QUOTE]I can say from experience that there are, it's like 5 or 6 to 1 men to women (there are also more single sex only meetings for obvious reasons) but there are some there. For me, attending several meetings and listening to their stories just helped me understand that while it could turn into a problem if I let it but I don't consider myself an addict.
It works for those that feel they need help and can commit to their programs. And most are free working solely on donations.
[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262647]If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence![/QUOTE]Yeah, seems like everybody and their brother co-opted the 12 Step process to use for their addiction. Problem is that Bill W the originator of the 12 Step Process in AA, says it isn't always applicable to other "addictions!" For example, when it gets misapplied to hard drugs, it has a 10% success rate which means 90% failure. So, I would NOT be impressed with a "treatment" regime that is not scientifically based and no just some co-opt of another process. [I]If you truly believe, it works![/I] What's that sound like? Jim Jones?
I consider myself to a be connoisseur of good looking women. In my mind out fun is not much different than some guy that goes out to pick up good looking women.
Personally I have cut back since there less supply and variety in SD and socal. Up until about 4 years ago SD used to have a ample supply of SW's. The police cracked down and chased away most of SW's on ECB. These days there is only a few BSW's and the occasional chunky LSW. Much of this is because the SW's insisted on working in small 5-7 area of ECB. So this made it very easy for the cops give them tickets and most of them go arrest warrants and left town and or arrested. The hunt for SW's is almost as exciting as the sex itself. The chance of finding a better looking SW was fun.
These days I head down to Tijuana roughly every 2 weeks depending on how the action is in Tijuana. As most of you know I prefer the US girls. This because they give better service and are willing to do more. The variety of WSW in the Zona has is limited. I also find that heading all the to Tijuana takes a lot out of me. The good thing however is that I always find a good WSW to satisfy my needs.
[QUOTE=Miketastic69;3230911]I don't classify myself a sex addict. I love pussy, and I like change. I picked a profession where I could travel and see new places and meet new people (USMC) and I have kept that going into retirement and in my new business. I have had the good fortune of traveling every week and had a lot of fun.
Now the sobering reality. I'm fucking broke. In a year where I've made the most money I ever have in life, I can barely pay for anything extra. I'm bleeding flowers, or Mario coins, or hearts, or chocolates and all the other things we call donations. I am trying to put my hobbying on pause but I am finding it hard. Maybe I do need to seek someone with a license on the wall to talk to.[/QUOTE]It took me a long time to admit (to myself) that I might have a problem with sex addiction. But I got there a while back. Admitted it to my psychiatrist. We talked about it, he said he didn't think I did. Huh? A few visits later I bring it up again and he says Ok, maybe you do, go see this guy. I called 5 X, left 5 messages that I'd like to make an appt., never heard from him.
Fast forward to last summer. The psychiatrist's license has been revoked. Overnight he's out of business. The reason: One of his female patients brought charges against him claiming inappropriate sexual behavior was happening in his office. He was a sex addict himself. Oh, did I mention his office was practically wall papered with diplomas, and licenses, and local and national awards.
It can happen to anyone. And does. So be careful if you get to the point where you seek out professional help.
IMHO, the fact that we're posting in this section asking questions indicates that we're at the edge but haven't decided if we want to get better or get laid.
I've read books. Taken a phone call with the author of a sex addiction book. He asked me how much I spend on this hobby. He said for that amount I could get plenty of professional help. He asked if I had insurance. I do but it doesn't cover addiction / mental issues adequately. I reasoned that if I had to pay for it out of my own pocket I would rather go find some pussy.
He says I haven't hit bottom yet. So it's a timing thing and a roll of the dice too. How lucky do I feel that I can continue this hobby before being exposed and my life exploding.
I think my luck is running out so I'm doing what helped me stop my other addictions. Tapering off. I'm making a conscious effort to stay away from paying for pussy. So far only one slip since Dec. 28.
It seems to be working but as any (recovering) addict knows, it's a slippery slope.
In the meantime I'm looking for help but not necessarily from a professional. I think it makes more sense to get help from someone who's been there done that.
For Lent I gave up visiting usasexguide.info
Didn't make it even 24 hrs.
[QUOTE=HeadFirst;3293626]For Lent I gave up visiting usasexguide.info
Didn't make it even 24 hrs.[/QUOTE]I've never given up USASG for lent, but I have sworn it off, only to be back in about 2 or 3 days.
[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3318960]I've never given up USASG for lent, but I have sworn it off, only to be back in about 2 or 3 days.[/QUOTE]Replaced USASG with Facebook for Lent and I got back on track.
Fall down 7 times, Get up 8.