There is more to beauty than meets the eye
[QUOTE=Chelli4me;2890818]I have been very fortunate to know several beautiful people. Not a one of them suffered the tragedies you describe. I would say that some people are just born that way but I'm sure you have a thesis somewhere that tells me I'm wrong.[/QUOTE]I'm not trying to be insulting, but are you seriously that obtuse?
I've been fortunate enough to know many beautiful people as well and one of the most beautiful is also one of the ugliest people I've ever had the misfortune to meet.
For most of us, beauty is much more than a nice body and a pretty face, it's what is inside that matters. If a person is lucky and careful, what's inside never gets tested. They never have to fight, day after day, week after week, to find the strength to struggle on, they never have to hope when they know there is no hope.
So they go through life, they live a good life, treat people right, etc. And they may be beautiful, but it's a fragile beauty, because their character has never been tested, it hasn't been hammered and annealed. If they are ever tested, that's when the cracks appear.
This is probably beyond your comprehension, because you seem to be stuck on the "born that way" fallacy. You might as well blame everything on your horoscope.
Now let me tell you about two "beautiful people. ".
The first had the body most supermodels starve themselves to achieve. Had she been 4" taller, she would be a household name, ranking with some of the world's top models. There were no blemishes on her, nothing to detract from her beauty. She was a natural blonde with brains.
Whenever we went anywhere, all eyes were on her. It's no exaggeration, she really was that gorgeous. Everywhere she went, she left a trail of destruction. She didn't care, I think she enjoyed knowing someone was hurting because of her. Two of the people she trampled over committed suicide. I'm a bit more resilient, I was just a mess for about 3 months (with a lot less money). Last I heard she had broken up a marriage then dumped the guy and was leaving the country with the current love of her life. For all of her beauty, she was very ugly.
Now for the other woman. Shortly after birth doctors discovered a tumor on one of her adrenal glands. The surgery left her with a scar that looked like someone had almost succeeded in cutting her in half. She caught a lot of abuse from the other girls at school growing up, but she tried not to let it bother her.
She also turned out beautiful, but a much more average beauty. The best thing about her was her smile. Shortly after her father died, and most of her inheritance was stolen by his trophy wife, her appendix ruptured. Another scar, and another stay in the hospital, but she kept smiling.
A year later she was back in the hospital, this time for a double, radical mastectomy and removal of the lymph nodes in her right arm. After the surgery she went through a long regimen of chemotherapy. Eventually, the doctors told her she was cancer free.
A double, radical mastectomy is emotionally difficult for a woman. Going from a natural 36 DD to a 36 C with implants and no nipples, along with a lot of scar tissue is hard to deal with. It's even harder trying to be with a man after that. What if he's disgusted by the scars? Somehow she kept smiling. She even devoted her free time to helping others worse off than her.
That's when I came along. For weeks I was confused. Our dates always turned into epic make out sessions, but always stopped before sex. Then she decided to show me the scars. I learned something that day and became a better person.
But life wasn't finished with her yet. About 2 months into our relationship she was diagnosed with 2 malignant brain tumors. Probably a remnant of the breast cancer. It's called the blood brain barrier. It works to keep impurities in the blood from passing into the cerebral fluid. It also keeps the chemotherapy drugs out of the brain.
Her recovery took about 6 months, with lots of radiation therapy. Chemotherapy (at least back then) causes all the hair to fall out, but it grows back better than ever. Radiation kills the hair follicles, so the hair comes back in patches and doesn't grow on the scars.
I had to teach her to dance and drive again and even after months of speech therapy she still had aphasia (wrong word, but right idea. Instead of "10 minutes" she might say "10 days" Still she kept smiling and even went back to her charity work.
The next surgery was more routine, just the removal of her gall bladder. That was the only issue for almost 5 years, until more cancer was found, this time a spot on her liver and another tumor in her neck, along the spinal cord. Those were both operable, but the next batch weren't.
In less than 40 years she dealt with more crap than anyone deserves, but through it all she kept smiling and kept helping others. Perhaps calling it beauty is an oversimplification. It's much more, strength, fortitude, character, call it what you want.
I'll call it beauty.
Not to be rude but all providers are not "them "
[QUOTE=Romeoinsd;2896334]But you guys got to start using a burner phone or google voice with your main phone.
Just log out of the app and all that noise goes into an emtpy space until you feel like retreiving it.
Put some space between you and them![/QUOTE]I will mention that some providers like myself refuse a burner phone number or google voice style text app to use as verification so just so you know some of us are not like "them " please don't categorize all of us into one category. You have to use your judgement and honestly read reviews. 9/10 times if a provider has a review that they have texted someone at 3 am for something then most likely they will do it to you.