Surprised a bit but honestly some great advice and outlook that is honest
Very similar experiences as Hollywood guy said and even currently. He is right about change on both sides and if you don't change well together than more likely it will stop. I still believe in love and relationships etc but it's tough at times to find and keep due to the above. Everything hguy said is on point. Only other thing I can add from people I know married for a long time or together for a long time is add new hobbies together when old ones don't work anymore etc. Good luck out there. Great sex and friendship go a long way. Women want a bit of both stable and yet crazy spontaneous a lot.
[QUOTE=HollywoodGuy;5047680]I was married twice. Once for 5 years and once for 15 years. Some of the best advice I ever heard was to "keep the sex dirty and the arguments clean". First wife was my best friend, very loving but sexually so so. Second wife, sex was super hot right up till the end, divorced over other issues. Marriage is mostly for having children IMHO.
If you are a freak and your wife is not, not going to work.
Agree on social issues and social status, career goals, etc.
Be able to talk about anything, sexual or otherwise.
Must have blind faith / trust in each other.
The problem above everything else is that in every 10 year span you will both change. If you change in the same direction then great. But if you move in other directions then not so great. You may still love each other but just have differeent interests at that point. I stayed friends with wife #1 till she died a few years ago. And still friends with wife #2 after 20 years divorced.[/QUOTE]