Public Service Announcement
Fellow hobbyists, colleagues, constituents,
After our hour-long session last week, I was walking out of a provider's incall location, and she started to hug me. I asked "What the hell are you doing"? And she said "Thanks," and "hope to see you next week." I replied "No, that's not what I'm talking about. I don't hug after we're done. A simple handshake is fine." She knows what I'm referring to if she's reading this (and yes some of them do read these posts). I hope she wasn't offended as I walked out the door after shaking her hand and answering my cell phone. And that's when the idea popped into my head. I want to post a PSA to others who've either just joined the hobby or have been in the hobby a long time, reminding them that this is a business, nothing more, nothing less. So this post is for fellow hobbyists.
I'm not writing this to offend anyone, and I'm not mentioning names or other Web sites.
Some of you don't need a reminder (I in fact needed to remind myself of this a few months ago). But I've recently read on other Web sites where a few of you are "infatuated" with a provider or two, and even "care" for them. The quoted words aren't mine. Heck, the other day I read on a Louisville board on this site about a guy seeking advice on asking a provider out for a drink. Geez, that's swell. What some of you fail to realize is that you, as hobbyists, should have the same approach as the provider, no matter how hot she is and no matter how hot the GFE. The approach should be ALL business. What I mean is grow some fucking bawls. I was married for almost 10 years (I have a best-selling biography about my ex; it's called "See You In Tea") and I've been a part of the hobby for about 14 years since I divorced her dumb, lazy ass. I consider "hooking up" with a hottie a special type of "pamper" session for myself, like when a chick gets a couple hours at a spa or salon, like a place to unwind with a couple glasses of wine followed by a massage or whatever the fuck they do there. But I still take a business approach to this hobby. Once you approach this as a business, like ALL providers do, then this hobby will be a blast. If anyone of you consider "hooking up" as anything more than that, then you have a problem. These fine women have lives and while they cherish the consistency of a good regular, they have mouths to feed and businesses to run. Top providers have to market themselves, answer phone calls / texts, balance different budgets (advertising, phone bills, hotel rooms, clothing, etc.) to make their business work, and then find time to spend with family / loved ones. They don't have it easy.
Sure, I've gotten on here and written "woman that I love" and "girl of my dreams," and blah, blah, blah. That's all bullshit, nothing more. When providers text you with similar phrases, it's again just that: bullshit. They're thinking business and so should you.
When you've been doing this for as long as I have, you should know how to separate fantasy and reality. I've been single since the mid-1990s. After that horrible decade in my life when I had to wear a ball and chain (remember to check out my book). Being single has allowed me to text back-and-forth to a couple providers when I'm out and about. Like out at a titty bar or at BW3s. It allows them to answer my texts whenever they want with no haggling wife to ask me "Who the fuck is texting you at 2 in the morning?" So just remember, we have some quality providers in central Indiana, and learning how to "separate" is essential. Once you've mastered the business approach, even with a regular, the hobby will be most enjoyable. But if you think anything can develop from a "friendship" or "drinks" with a provider, and you "care" deeply for them, then you should take some of your hard-earned dough that you spend on this hobby and get some professional help. And I'm not saying it's not cool to hug a provider as you're walking out. It's just part of my personal business approach.
So remember the following phrase: If you can't separate, masterbate.
Oh, and to the provider I talked about in my opening sentence, if you're reading this, you're fired. Nothing personal.
This has been a public service announcement for fellow hobbyists.
Trying to keep it real,
BFDeal
Dave a good response by you to BB's post and
I can see where BB is coming from and I do think in this economy with so many ladies in this many are giving you a goodbye kiss or hug to get return business. BB is I think just saying don't mistake that hug and kiss for closeness on her part. Is usually the lady trying to say in a nice way enjoyed our time and hope you come back again. If it is more about GF GFE then by all means be careful LOL Two good looks at the total situation.
Got bitched at about a review
First time for everything,
Called for a girl I normally see off BP and her phone handler to me to review her soon and be nice to her, because the last time I put a review on here for one of her other girls she answers the phone for, I wasnt very nice and was mean according to her.
Yes, I was a little kurt, but I am getting sick and tired of all the fake pics and the shitty service out there. I am very nice to every lady I see, I am never rude but if you sell a bill of goods, don't expect everyone to be happy. Now, I am not going to continue to bash her, just give my review and move on. Several other SM's on this board have been very helpful to me and I will not give a good review to a chick that is not deserving of it. You put porn model images on your posts and look like her 50 year old grandmother, I am going to let the other fellas know. ONE TIME and move on.