We been chatting on the site but she is slow to respond but interesting when she does, https://members.seeking.com/member/2c4c3c86-2c55-468c-b532-50d665a342c9
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We been chatting on the site but she is slow to respond but interesting when she does, https://members.seeking.com/member/2c4c3c86-2c55-468c-b532-50d665a342c9
Silly question. What is the best pick up line to use to convert the first meetup / date into something private?
I think I have a first timer and that's one challenge. I used the pickup line "We should probably talk in a less noisy place in more private about. Whatever the topic of our conversation was. " during my clubbing days. LOL. It worked but now I am a SD and I don; t want to look silly trying to be that young guy.
I don't want to be an ass and being too explicit about everything in my text/snap and scare her away. The only thing I let her know was to keep 3-4 hours so we can spend some quality time and left it at that. We already discussed PPM and all.
[QUOTE=ArielDude28;6269859]Silly question. What is the best pick up line to use to convert the first meetup / date into something private?
I think I have a first timer and that's one challenge. I used the pickup line "We should probably talk in a less noisy place in more private about. Whatever the topic of our conversation was. " during my clubbing days. LOL. It worked but now I am a SD and I don; t want to look silly trying to be that young guy.
I don't want to be an ass and being too explicit about everything in my text/snap and scare her away. The only thing I let her know was to keep 3-4 hours so we can spend some quality time and left it at that. We already discussed PPM and all.[/QUOTE]But not sure if you're asking how to get them to agree to a meet, or one at a hotel. I personally don't try to hook up on my first meet, but if I were trying and they were not explicitly saying they would, I would get a dayuse hotel nearby and cancel at no cost if you aren't successful or the girl isn't as advertised. It should be a plan either way because until you see her in person you will want an exit plan and the nice thing about SBs is most don't expect to be paid for their time. I said most, those that do aren't worth pursuing.
You also might be overthinking as any girl that has gone through the trouble of setting up a profile already knows what the expectation is. The key is to not make them feel like a pro.
This one was ready to meet right away, but got mad when I asked to meet in public first. She is from the westside of the city. I got a bad vibe. Looks like she has a tattoo that says 'Austin' on her chest. Maybe one of you guys can take one for the team.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/283b32b3-fce6-4a10-b8ca-41d4956a5b6f[/URL]
This one was also pushy to meet. She doesn't understand guys have jobs and keeps begging you to meet her at the last minute. She wanted me to meet her without seeing a picture first. I finally got a picture and she is hideous. She looks like a Jewish crackwhore.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/05b6169a-1bb1-47c7-8d2b-ed049025409f[/URL]
This one just wants to send you the link to her 0nlyfan5. She said she has no interest in meeting guys.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/fdae8304-79d0-4758-bcb2-491d8f4a9d19[/URL]
This one is running some type of scam. She wants to video chat for money. The profile had its location in Las Vegas for a few days and apparently Atlanta previously because the profile text says that.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/29a8ab8e-a6e7-4c73-b901-f1c7f55df185[/URL]
This one thinks she can get $3,000 per month. She is in Hyde Park, doesn't have transportation, and can't host. LOL.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/bc866b0f-d7aa-48ca-9aff-7182c5fe947a[/URL]
This one wants $1,000 per meet. I'm sure there is some rich dude out there with yellow fever.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/876dd327-ec2b-4832-8ad8-352daabb3e02[/URL]
Before this one moved to Chicago, she was jumping between cities in the Midwest. I think she is originally from Evansville and stripping. I talked to her when I worked in St. Louis about ten months ago. She wanted 300 and would only allow one SOG. Other guys saw her and reported she was horrible in bed. She had too many rules and was not into sex at all. She was traveling with another girl for awhile and offered 600 for a threesome, but only one SOG.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/4a0a51ad-4dcb-441b-b048-e17ca8c3171c[/URL]
Get that sex.
SDX.
[QUOTE=XpertTraveler;6267535]This lady on SA is an escort, not an SB. 400/ hr. She promises everything covered with BBBJ YMMV because she doesn't CIM.
I asked for PPM and she gave me her straight rate. Decent looking with bolt ons. But for that price you can do better if you search harder. If you want an ez in and out, go for it but some GPS attached.[/QUOTE]Couldn't find her on SA. Do you have a link?
[QUOTE=DynoJr;6270138]But not sure if you're asking how to get them to agree to a meet, or one at a hotel. I personally don't try to hook up on my first meet, but if I were trying and they were not explicitly saying they would, I would get a dayuse hotel nearby and cancel at no cost if you aren't successful or the girl isn't as advertised. It should be a plan either way because until you see her in person you will want an exit plan and the nice thing about SBs is most don't expect to be paid for their time. I said most, those that do aren't worth pursuing.
You also might be overthinking as any girl that has gone through the trouble of setting up a profile already knows what the expectation is. The key is to not make them feel like a pro.[/QUOTE]This is actually great advice, to have a place ready in case things go really well but also not appear overly aggressive or pushy. I personally agree with your approach of not getting explicit in initial texts and doing a no expectations meet and greet.
If the M&G goes well and you've already had a good conversation about PPM expectations, it shouldn't feel too awkward to playfully suggest 'I've got time now if you wanted to take this further right away' or something like that. I've kicked myself a few times for not being ready or have cleared more of my schedule and had a girl ask 'do you want to go somewhere now?' as we were wrapping up a coffee meet and greet.
But in general, its a safe assumption that the girls know what this site it all about and you shouldn't have to do a lot of subtle convincing or using pick up lines to move to the next steps. If you're sensing resistance, then flags should go up that the girl's either too flaky to follow through or is getting ready to bombard you with lots of requests for 'help' instead of actually getting together.
Hi all,
For reasons that are still unknown to me, SA banned my active and in good standing account that I had when I lived in another city. From what I've read, it seems like they're doing this a lot lately. Anyway, has anyone else tried the forum's advertiser Secret Benefits? I see the pricing structure is a bit odd, but if it's good for the Chicago area I'd be willing to try it. Breaks my heart that I can't see Seeking links posted here anymore LOL.
[QUOTE=FafaFooey;6270741]This is actually great advice, to have a place ready in case things go really well but also not appear overly aggressive or pushy. I personally agree with your approach of not getting explicit in initial texts and doing a no expectations meet and greet.
If the M&G goes well and you've already had a good conversation about PPM expectations, it shouldn't feel too awkward to playfully suggest 'I've got time now if you wanted to take this further right away' or something like that. I've kicked myself a few times for not being ready or have cleared more of my schedule and had a girl ask 'do you want to go somewhere now?' as we were wrapping up a coffee meet and greet.
But in general, its a safe assumption that the girls know what this site it all about and you shouldn't have to do a lot of subtle convincing or using pick up lines to move to the next steps. If you're sensing resistance, then flags should go up that the girl's either too flaky to follow through or is getting ready to bombard you with lots of requests for 'help' instead of actually getting together.[/QUOTE]Great suggestions and I did have a situation earlier with one person bombarding me with messages for help explaining all her life troubles with money. Etc. Honestly, some don't even care about meeting but start asking for some funds to help their situation. I am not hoping it will be the same but who knows, can't tell much with texting. But, I get the message to not be desperate which I am not to jump into next steps but also not be unprepared if the situation demands. The nice thing is that we talked about keeping 3-hours time just in case but I did not go into texting what we do, and left that open. Only talking about different coffee on text at this time. Thank you again.
[QUOTE=ArielDude28;6271005]Great suggestions and I did have a situation earlier with one person bombarding me with messages for help explaining all her life troubles with money. Etc. Honestly, some don't even care about meeting but start asking for some funds to help their situation. I am not hoping it will be the same but who knows, can't tell much with texting. But, I get the message to not be desperate which I am not to jump into next steps but also not be unprepared if the situation demands. The nice thing is that we talked about keeping 3-hours time just in case but I did not go into texting what we do, and left that open. Only talking about different coffee on text at this time. Thank you again.[/QUOTE]Do yourself a favor and block that. If they're asking for money and they haven't even met you, 90% it's a scam. There's even a halfway decent chance the profile isn't real. Worst case you've wasted a few hours of back and forth texting with a dude.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/3eba2ae7-e8a8-4f3d-9e77-d681702a51fa[/URL]
This chic messaged me 1 week ago how interesting my profile is, blah blah. I told her that I live in Chicago and she is in Ohio, but next week (now) I'm coming to Ohio for work. She messaged me today and decided to meet half way for both of us about 50 mi drive each. We are planning m & g and she gave me her availability. She hasn't asked for gas money or cashapp and even ignored my comment that I'll reimburse her mileage. She is not a looker but sounds very normal. Yesterday her profile said NYC but now is back to Ohio although she changes it. I can't imagine why a woman will drive 50 mi to meet me at some lame peasant diner. Something feels off.
[QUOTE=DynoJr;6271537]Do yourself a favor and block that. If they're asking for money and they haven't even met you, 90% it's a scam. There's even a halfway decent chance the profile isn't real. Worst case you've wasted a few hours of back and forth texting with a dude.[/QUOTE]Yep, already done and reported. Etc. Also had a good outing and it was a simple talk over coffee that ended with a nice kiss not initiated by her but did it when I paused looking into her eyes after the good bye hug. None of this may mean much. LOL but there is hope.
[QUOTE=ArielDude28;6272468]Yep, already done and reported. Etc. Also had a good outing and it was a simple talk over coffee that ended with a nice kiss not initiated by her but did it when I paused looking into her eyes after the good bye hug. None of this may mean much. LOL but there is hope.[/QUOTE]Even if you weren't explicit in your intentions, the fact that you kissed her, paid no money and will have another meet (maybe lunch or dinner?) means you'll be banging her in no time. They want the money but want to feel safe. Once that trust is established you'll have lots of fun.
[QUOTE=ChicagoDog1;6270997]Hi all,
For reasons that are still unknown to me, SA banned my active and in good standing account that I had when I lived in another city. From what I've read, it seems like they're doing this a lot lately. Anyway, has anyone else tried the forum's advertiser Secret Benefits? I see the pricing structure is a bit odd, but if it's good for the Chicago area I'd be willing to try it. Breaks my heart that I can't see Seeking links posted here anymore LOL.[/QUOTE]I'm in the same boat. At least they threw me off when my renew was about to be due.
Found this.
[URL]https://sugar-daddies.us/top-websites[/URL]
[QUOTE=DynoJr;6272930]Even if you weren't explicit in your intentions, the fact that you kissed her, paid no money and will have another meet (maybe lunch or dinner?) means you'll be banging her in no time. They want the money but want to feel safe. Once that trust is established you'll have lots of fun.[/QUOTE]I hear ya and I think I am getting the vibe. She paid for her Uber trip one way and did not ask me for anything but she was fine with me dropping her back when I told her I could. She probably felt safe after seeing and talking to me to let me drop her in front of her house. She is here with her parents for holidays or something. We are still snapping not like crazy every 5 minutes, but 2-3 snap chats per day. Again keeping the chats on different topics with no explicit talk. I think she would have said something and took Uber if I asked for something crazy during coffee. LOL.
Is there a new promo code before I re-sign up for a month for SA?
Can BURN through credits very quickly, much like Secret Benefits.
[QUOTE=OngBak15;6273461]Is there a new promo code before I re-sign up for a month for SA?[/QUOTE]I noticed that when I signed on with my computer I did not see an ad for a promo code, but when I signed on with my cell phone I got the page to reduce by 20%. It didn't show a code, just an automatic 20% reduction if I reactivated.
Hope this helps.
[QUOTE=OngBak15;6273461]Is there a new promo code before I re-sign up for a month for SA?[/QUOTE]You could try WB25OFF for 25% off.
[QUOTE=Pyre69;6274494]You could try WB25OFF for 25% off.[/QUOTE]I tried to upgrade using gift card from Walmart (SecureSpend) and Walgreens (Vanilla). Both didn't work. Please suggest which one should I try?
Just buy a Visa card from anywhere, that has always worked.
[QUOTE=NwPounder;6275419]I tried to upgrade using gift card from Walmart (SecureSpend) and Walgreens (Vanilla). Both didn't work. Please suggest which one should I try?[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=StanCopier;6275458]Just buy a Visa card from anywhere, that has always worked.[/QUOTE]Thank you. I tried both the cards and it didn't work. Can you please advise where / what card did you buy? I can try the same. Much appreciated.
[QUOTE=NwPounder;6275896]Thank you. I tried both the cards and it didn't work. Can you please advise where / what card did you buy? I can try the same. Much appreciated.[/QUOTE]This is not trivial as another poster implies. Search for my posts on this topic. I lay it all out.
[QUOTE=OngBak15;6273461]Is there a new promo code before I re-sign up for a month for SA?[/QUOTE]Don't subscribe the first few days you log in after you create an account. You will eventually get a 20% and then a 30% off offer.
[QUOTE=WhiteSoxTom;6276635]Don't subscribe the first few days you log in after you create an account. You will eventually get a 20% and then a 30% off offer.[/QUOTE]Just recovered my account after being suspended about a year for alleged solicitation / ppm bs.
I got the "sale" on the 2nd day. It's been about 3 weeks now, still holding out for the supposed 30% off but I've never seen it. Unless you do 3 months for $77.33, also a good deal. I'm just scared I'll lose my account again if I end my subscription after 1 month. I've heard stories on here about that happening. Funny my account got flagged only after I cancelled my sub.
[QUOTE=YungOne;6276688]Just recovered my account after being suspended about a year for alleged solicitation / ppm bs.
I got the "sale" on the 2nd day. It's been about 3 weeks now, still holding out for the supposed 30% off but I've never seen it. Unless you do 3 months for $77.33, also a good deal. I'm just scared I'll lose my account again if I end my subscription after 1 month. I've heard stories on here about that happening. Funny my account got flagged only after I cancelled my sub.[/QUOTE]How did you recover your account?
[QUOTE=JDuB1970;6273287]I'm in the same boat. At least they threw me off when my renew was about to be due.
Found this.
[URL]https://sugar-daddies.us/top-websites[/URL][/QUOTE]A women that I'm chatting with sent me a screenshot of her SB inbox. It was filled with generic one line messages from guys, and knowing most of you I have a hard time believing that this would be your initial intro. So I suspect this is how SB works:
Whenever you look at or favorite someone's profile, the system sends a generic intro message to the woman who does not need to pay to read it. This results in her looking at your profile, and they either send a legit message back or at least engage with a favorite.
Meanwhile, you are intrigued because she noticed you and you either pay to send a message or respond to the bs auto note.
I think this is how it works because it is the only way to explain why I get an initial message but no response when I engage. The hit rate on this platform really sucks.
On SA anyone partake? No thread for SA on Waukegan board. Pm ok.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/ddaae041-17a9-44ba-858f-2828702b7719[/URL]
Ya filthy animals.
Here's my gift to you all: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/c145a9cc-3185-4263-a048-5a77c979ba3b[/URL].
$300 everytime ya'll meet up. She's expressed no time limit. She PREFERS BARE. She's a shorty.
She'll lick your ass and get fucked in the ass too. Might be too good to be true! But its true!
Happy new year fellas, don't say I never hooked you up.
This one joined SA today and man oh man she's a beauty. She's a shorty clocking in at sub 5 foot but she's a good woman so it's all good. Of course you'll need to step up your game to keep her happy. She's got a bakers dozen worth of kids so you can be sure to help them out too.
Idk though. I'm guessing she has shaved a few years off her stated age. She's got at least 65 years of hard miles on her. We're talking decades of marlboro red's and jack daniels on the daily folks.
Was hoping 2023 would be a bounce back year for SA but it's not off to a good start hahaha.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/2afb7b9d-ce52-4d9c-9a0f-0893e2d83d9c[/URL]
I saw this listing for DrLovin [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/fcee5af9-6130-49da-8efe-55217b286c5d[/URL].
She lists herself as "slim" and the pictures show you a shapely young lady. Too bad that wasn't the reality.
I had her send me a "selfie" which looked pretty similar to the SA pictures. We texted and agreed on $400. I had to pick her up, but it was last minute so whatever.
It was cold out, so she had on a coat. She looked thick when she walked up, but I thought it would be ok. I was wrong. I check into the hotel and we get to the room.
When she removes her coat, she has about 30 extra pounds wrapped around her midsection. "slim" was a long time ago. No waist at all. She was shaped like a barrel. I was pissed. I hate fake pictures. They either think you will be too "nice" to call them out or they think you are too desperate to care. I am neither. I stopped taking off my shoes, and told her this isn't going to work.
I tried to explain that it doesn't make sense to show pictures that are not accurate, because the guy showing up wants to see that person, not who you are today (different). I told her that if she had accurate pictures, the guy showing up would be excited to see who shows up. But that didn't happen.
Took her back to her place and dropped her off. I lost the cost of the hotel room, but the $400 stayed with me.
Avoid her unless you like big girls. She seemed nice enough, but I can't to big like that.
[QUOTE=BaltoMan66;6280567]I saw this listing for DrLovin [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/fcee5af9-6130-49da-8efe-55217b286c5d[/URL].
She lists herself as "slim" and the pictures show you a shapely young lady. Too bad that wasn't the reality.
I had her send me a "selfie" which looked pretty similar to the SA pictures. We texted and agreed on $400. I had to pick her up, but it was last minute so whatever.
It was cold out, so she had on a coat. She looked thick when she walked up, but I thought it would be ok. I was wrong. I check into the hotel and we get to the room.
When she removes her coat, she has about 30 extra pounds wrapped around her midsection. "slim" was a long time ago. No waist at all. She was shaped like a barrel. I was pissed. I hate fake pictures. They either think you will be too "nice" to call them out or they think you are too desperate to care. I am neither. I stopped taking off my shoes, and told her this isn't going to work.
I tried to explain that it doesn't make sense to show pictures that are not accurate, because the guy showing up wants to see that person, not who you are today (different). I told her that if she had accurate pictures, the guy showing up would be excited to see who shows up. But that didn't happen.
Took her back to her place and dropped her off. I lost the cost of the hotel room, but the $400 stayed with me.
Avoid her unless you like big girls. She seemed nice enough, but I can't to big like that.[/QUOTE]Kudos to you! I been in the same situation plenty of times (not with her), but never had the courage to call it off, but I wished plenty of times I did.
Thanks for the warning and sorry to hear about your experience.
[QUOTE=Meddic80;6280689]Kudos to you! I been in the same situation plenty of times (not with her), but never had the courage to call it off, but I wished plenty of times I did.
Thanks for the warning and sorry to hear about your experience.[/QUOTE]This is why I always get a coffee or drink first, I hate misleading photos.
Another scammer who wants money up front for a babysitter. This one wasted two weeks smooth talking me before asking for a babysitting fee of $115 prior to meeting up the following day.
She will provide a 623 area code number which made me suspicious from the get go.
She already blocked my account once I denied her babysitting fee.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/messages/archive/c0d691f8-00af-43c4-aa85-ccdc1184c5b5[/URL]
[QUOTE=Wyze1;6281838]Another scammer who wants money up front for a babysitter. This one wasted two weeks smooth talking me before asking for a babysitting fee of $115 prior to meeting up the following day.
She will provide a 623 area code number which made me suspicious from the get go.
She already blocked my account once I denied her babysitting fee.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/messages/archive/c0d691f8-00af-43c4-aa85-ccdc1184c5b5[/URL][/QUOTE]Yes, she is a scammer. Same experience.
[QUOTE=Bsuh69;6280832]This is why I always get a coffee or drink first, I hate misleading photos.[/QUOTE]But timing was an issue, and frankly, if she was hot, I wanted to get to the deed.
I have been in the escort "hobby" for almost 20 years, so I have had my share of bait and switch. I decided years ago that if I went through with it, I was rewarding bad conduct. So I am not afraid to walk away from a situation like this.
Hey fellas,
For those that have a second life, would SB's that list "discretion" in the bio a must? Or are you finding that most on SA kinda understand that already? It seems like a mix. But I feel like women don't list "discretion" often because it may assume they are a pro or something. Tell me if I'm wrong.
Seriously considering dropping some coin to try this out. But don't want to just waste money and time on this.
Also, any advice on apps to use to filter my face if I upload a picture? Do you guys upload your pictures with face in litter or hidden?
[QUOTE=Witness2002;6283001]Hey fellas,
For those that have a second life, would SB's that list "discretion" in the bio a must? Or are you finding that most on SA kinda understand that already? It seems like a mix. But I feel like women don't list "discretion" often because it may assume they are a pro or something. Tell me if I'm wrong.
Seriously considering dropping some coin to try this out. But don't want to just waste money and time on this.
Also, any advice on apps to use to filter my face if I upload a picture? Do you guys upload your pictures with face in litter or hidden?[/QUOTE]I find using words as filters will be too limiting, but what you could do is eliminate any that use the word "platonic" since most will likely mean it. IMO discretion is a given since none of them want their friends knowing that they are hanging out with an old guy and they sure don't want their peers finding out that they are getting money for sex.
As far as a filter is concerned I put face shots in the hidden photos and show a body shot no face in the public.
To be clear you can save money vs pros but you will most definitely waste time. If that's not something you're willing to do maybe stick with the pros. I personally enjoy the hunt so don't mind spending the time.
[QUOTE=DynoJr;6283265]I find using words as filters will be too limiting, but what you could do is eliminate any that use the word "platonic" since most will likely mean it. IMO discretion is a given since none of them want their friends knowing that they are hanging out with an old guy and they sure don't want their peers finding out that they are getting money for sex.
As far as a filter is concerned I put face shots in the hidden photos and show a body shot no face in the public.
To be clear you can save money vs pros but you will most definitely waste time. If that's not something you're willing to do maybe stick with the pros. I personally enjoy the hunt so don't mind spending the time.[/QUOTE]You could miss out on a lot by eliminating profiles that have platonic in them, either as a bubble or just in the text. That is, if you are interested in a real SB and not just an UTR escort. The real SBs are appalled by the vast majority of initial messages that are literally just money offers and hotel room #s. They are trying to repel that, and one way to do so is say platonic or no sex in their profile. In the real world, a lot who say 'platonic' understand how the site works, and are down for it.
Has anyone met this gal and would like to share any info, here or PM?
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/85d3a002-0f6f-44b5-ad2c-4d75b8a16a98[/URL]
Has any one actually met her? I have been texting with her but she is not aggressive about meeting like most pros. It has been more friendly chatting than getting down to business.
[QUOTE=XpertTraveler;6267535]This lady on SA is an escort, not an SB. 400/ hr. She promises everything covered with BBBJ YMMV because she doesn't CIM.
I asked for PPM and she gave me her straight rate. Decent looking with bolt ons. But for that price you can do better if you search harder. If you want an ez in and out, go for it but some GPS attached.[/QUOTE]