Dating in the vanilla world
[QUOTE=Visitor1980;6492922]The civil dating situation is also dire these days, and there are no women there either, but honestly, the quality of these girls is only marginally better than the "low-hanging fruit" you should be able to get for free on Tinder (the "civil" 1's and 2's).
I just hope the dating market improves from its current lows (maybe with a rise in divorce) and mainstream women will at least be obtainable in the civil world. Even a civil 5/10 would be better than the current trash at these strip clubs, and I'm not talking about the Block, but about the more upscale establishments. It was a very different situation 15-20 years ago. Back then the commercial scene was preferable, because there were a lot of attractive options there, but now it's just collapsed.[/QUOTE][QUOTE=SyntorX;6503878]I play poker with a single guy. He is nice looking and works for the government, so he has a decent income. Even he has trouble finding decent women to date. He showed me an interesting article. The gist of the article was civil ladies are all looking for mister perfect. This even includes the fat ugly one. They want the good looking guys with a good body and an upper six figure income. According to the article, if you are the guy they are all looking for, you can fuck a different lady every night of the week. All the ladies are hoping to hit the jackpot. Of course according to the article, many of these guys have figured out what is going on and are just enjoying the buffet. Of course the article was much more tactful in how they said this.[/QUOTE]I recently got out of the SW / Escort / SB world and into a vanilla relationship and my experience with finding good looking affluent women in the DMV has been very good. Although I'm not particularly good looking or rich and have my baggage, I'd say when I was actively dating last Fall, I pretty much was able to date above my pay grade exclusively. These women were a good 10 years younger than me, intelligent, beautiful (in the eyes of the beholder of course but say many looked similar Mario Bello or Naomi Watts, I guess you are getting my type, skinny, blonde and decent tits), skinny, pretty much nice tits / arse and were all professional (not that kind LOL), I mean they were all drawing in 6 figure regular jobs. Like I said, I'm not particularly good looking but I am fit, physically active and fairly intelligent, meaning I can carry on an interesting conversation with just about anyone.
What you can't do in the vanilla world is go in thinking you go in and get to first base on the first or second date. Tinder has a bit of an instant gratification vibe and you are not going to find these top shelf women there. They may dabble in Tinder but not when they get serious about a relationship. Paying websites (Match) is the only way to go, when one has to pay, one gets serious and eliminates the flakes. Plenty of Fish is free but many on there have the attention-span of a housefly, next good-smelling shit and they are gone. The approach has to genuine and focused on her but the variety is incredible. The DMV has one of the highest women: men ratios in the country. The women here are intelligent and financially well off. So we do have the odds in our favor unlike in Alaska were the women say that their odds are good but the goods are odd! I think having some charm and wit goes a long way here. I had dates almost every night if I wanted and was pretty much able to have sex with the ones I clicked by date #3, think my batting average was 33-50%? Now, to be clear, this is not sustainable because these women expect a relationship, mostly monogamous. So you may go in an hit it once or twice but if you want variety, it'll be very clear to them that is what you are doing and they will drop you. Like I said these women are not stupid, they are intelligent, mostly divorced, and know of all the tricks their exs- did.
I did find my intelligent (she's smarter than I am) skinny blonde with big tits unicorn (she was even okay with me seeing other women initially) but we have settled down to a nice rhythm and I get all the sex I want. If this sad old guy can do it, any of you can do it, you just have to want to do it. By habit I still peruse USASexGuide but am just an observer these days. Good luck and have fun out there no matter what route you choose. Maybe this should be in Rants & Raves.